Re: Dupatta Pehno!!!
Hi Destinee.
But its kinda stupid to tell her suddenly to wear a dupatta coz when they lived
abroad he never said to her to wear a dupatta or something and now they live
in Pakistan to usko ab yaad aay hai ke apne biwi se kehne ke dupatta phenlo?
Thats strange innit?? I think it was better if he tell her from the start that his family is like that i mean do parda and stuff.
Nilu.
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nilu r u saying parda is just a norm in certain families! come on dat was low yaar.
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LUC no no i did not mean that yaar!
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I think she imagine these things or dream about them. 
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No, it’s not about living abroad or anything. It’s about your society and your people. The guy knows that people have a weird aadat of staring at ladies in our country specially if they’re not wearing a dupatta. He just didn’t want that to happen. Some Western born girls don’t get this point and I’ve seen some trust me. They don’t care if anyone is looking at them. Well, fine don’t care but atleast don’t do something jaan boojh ke that people have a good reason to stare. Abroad main aap ko iss cheez main azadi hoti hai but Pakistan main you have to watch out for a few things.
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im sorry chick, but i have to disagree with you here, the part about “people having a wierd aadat of staring at ladies…specially if they’re not wearing a dupatta”. i’v notived that men and women stare no matter what, it’s an asian thing and it happens in western countries aswell as Pakistan.
“Some western girls don’t get this point”…when i went to pak a few years ago, i wore the duppata on my head at all times, even once inside the house, partly because i was too afraid to take it off and parlty out of respect. however, i noticed that my cousins who were born and raised in Pakistan didnt even wear the duppata outside let alone in the house. they all told me not to wear it aswell, saying that as i was from Igland, everyone would understand if i didnt want to wear it…i told them to f off…no tells me what to do. i did it cos i wanted to and my daddi told me to
I don’t think its a cultural thing at all, it all depends on the individual and what they think and want to do.
as for this situation, he should not have forced her to do anything, and she should have a bit more common sense. What’s done is done though, so no point going over it, they need to understand each other a bit better is all.
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^ he should be able to explain that to his wife like a friggin human being instead of screaming like a banshee.
tomorrow if for whatever reason he wants him to do something he is not used to, would he say "yes boss"
My wife does not do hijab etc but is not into revealing clothing either, yet when we are in pakistan she actually takes a chaddar when she is going out to bazaars and stuff cuz she feels that guys there just stare too much and it makes her uncomfortable.
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[quote=“Fraudz”]
^ he should be able to explain that to his wife like a friggin human being instead of screaming like a banshee.
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what i can say, some men do resemble the characteristics of banshee’s more than others…
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They are both at fault. It takes two hands to clap, not one. **
**According to Islam women can't cross the thresholds of their
home without the husband's permission. Taking that into account,
she should have covered her bosom if the husband was asking her
to instead of prolonging the fight. The husband on the other hand
need not have acted like a complete rear hole specially infront of a guest
(the friend) by putting up the pulling-and-dragging-of-
the-wife-show. Both are immature. I don't know what's more
retarded fighting over a minimal issue like a dupatta or fighting
infront of a guest present.
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why the issue of a dupatta all of a sudden. he married a women who did not wear dupatta..knowing that she does not wear a dupatta..if he is going to change his views on stuff later, thats a whole diff ballgame. That would call for a one on one discussion, explaining his reasons and requesting her, rather than acting like a moron at the 11th hour and making himself look like a jackass.
moqa, mehal and munasib tareeq to bring this up was completely ignored.
regardless-- dunya kay saray namoonay irem ko hi miltay hain.
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If I was her I would have put on a pull-up bra instead of a transparent daupatta to piss him off. These sissy type men need to be shown their place. Trying to force an adult person what to wear is really stoopid.
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He lets her wear pant-shirt and thinks wearing a mesh type dupatta will make any difference? Twisted people, aesay logoN ki sharafat, izzat waghera sab naam ki hoti hai, bayghayrat loag.
Aesay chaal chalan wali larrki se shaadi kiyoN ki? Girls from cities with them kinds of background (brought up in a 'free' mahol) are not marriage material.
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ok now this is just getting pathetic, i don't think its right that we people judge the people in question here, we'v judged the scenario and what we think he/she should have done, but the questioning of what he "allows" his wife to wear is not our responsibilty?(couldn't find a better word) and i dont think its fair to judge him or her based on what his wife wears. this thread was just about the dupatta issue and it has nothing to do with his or her reasons for marriage either.
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^ chup oye...jao dupatta pehno
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^ tell your Mrs to wear one first 
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What a wierdo for treating her so roughly in public. He could have talked to her calmly after she came home or something.
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Irem
mai abhi bhi ye janna chahti hoon k tum
devar pay latki hue thi …
ye un k ghar aaye hue thi,
ya k…bahir say guzar rahi thi…
aakhir tum nay ye witness kese kia? 
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^^SAJAL kuch baatein raaz hi rahein toh behtar hota hae...kya khayal hae aap ka :D aap ki toh khayr baat aur hae aap ko toh mein bata doon khush ho ke lekin ab sab kuch har kisi ko toh naheen na bataya ja sakta :D specially yahan jis jis tarhaan ke log aatay haen :D
kaan laayen batati hoon :D
*THANKS ALL FOR REPLIES :) *
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:k: my sentiments exactly. she really deserved it for being so ziddi and having her damaag in the asman. spare the rod and spoil the child, in this case wife. laaton k bhoot baaton se nai maantay.
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MR F
is that why i know you?