this mini skirmish shouldn't have come to violent and threatening behaviour. talk to her properly and if it doesnt get into her skull then 1 of many factors are shaitani power/influence i.e. no fighting of nafs. knowing wrong and doing nawt abut it. ok zamana is pretty posh and awara and wild but its' pretty much common sense to cover up not just in pak anywhere on allah's land. brain hai use it. + apnai laug shouldn't get carried away with certain maghrabi taur tareekai cos we look out of place trying to keep up with the prevailing trend.
what an idiot woman..........she shud have just worn it, stepped outside and then taken it off..............nahin irem ki film kahan banti agar dehleez pai sai dupatta uthar kai hi jaana tha.
irem: you mean to say that while they were abroad it was fine with him, that she wears modern clothes without dupatta and now that have moved to Pk he insist, that she wears a Dupatta?
I think he should at least give her some time to get used to the new situation and shouldn't enforce anything on her, which she has no clue about yet.
hmm this is an interesting situation. my friend had a similar situation after she got married. they were going to a dinner party & he asked her to wear her duputta as a hijab. but she refused. he insisted & got frustrated each time she refused. after a while he gave up & they went to the party upset.
later on, they had a huge fight abt the whole thing. & like some of u said, part of the prob was that she didnt just trust his reasoning & listen to him. she told me that after the fact he explained why he felt it was important to wear it & cover in general. & now she is moving her way towards wearing hijab permanently.
to add to this situation, i feel both parties are partly right & wrong.
the lady is wrong in that she should have listen to him, bec that is her husband & she should trust his judgement. sometimes we dont see something that the other person does & its not always possible to explain the situation on the spot. Plus since they were in front of her friend, it looked bad that they were arguing.
But on that note, they gentleman should have taken her into the room & said it privately. Also, while they were in the privacy he should have explained it to her. but than again, mabye that is what he did while they were inside.
I also think that coz its strange huh when they lived abroad everything was fine if she wear pants or skirts and suddenly he orders her now to wear a dupatta.
What is this? And in Pakistan most girl dont wear dupatta i mean sarr pey.
Anywayz i agree what Umer bhai said.
Sheraz, Are you planning to marry a chair? Why can’t she make up her own mind what kind of undy she wants to wear? You think it is such a hard decision to make for women? I agree with you. They are so fking dumb they don’t know how to put one foot in front of the other. They should be killed.
Yea thats true i live in Europe (im half Pakistani) And my husband is from Pakistan but he never forced me to wear dupatta. Yea if i wear shalwaar kameez then i wear it but not on my head.
i dont get one thing, first some of you are saying that the wife should wear whatever she wants, but than you are also saying that she should be covered up.
so does that mean she should be able to wear what she wants within the limits of what you feel is appropriate???? or am i missing something here
Its very strange for the girl if she never coverd her head suddenly have to do it.
Coz her husband was ok with it when she wear pants or whatever.
And i think the girl live's in Pakistan now or something but so far as i no not all
womens in Pakistan cover their head.
I don't understand the "Do in Rome as Romans do" philosophy. Because, to me it seems to imply that you have no convictions of your own.
The husband had no right to use force on his wife, whether her friend was there or not, is totally irrelevant. And if he was okay with Western clothes abroad, the duppatta wearing for him is most likely a 'societal' thing(i have a feeling this word doesn't exist,khair.) In which case, I really have no sympathies with him. The duppatta or chaddar is not there for decorative purposes, either you wear it because you believe in Allah's commands, or you don't. What's the fuss about society and all?
But living in Pakistan for last two or three years, I have discovered that for people here, loug kya kahain gey is a greater god than commands of Allah.
P.S. It's really stupid, agar uss nay duppatta laina he tha, tou itni laraee ki kya tuk thi? Aur husband sahib bhi galay main duppatta dalnay kay takalluf par he khush hain tou yeh pukh uthaney ki zaroorat he kya thee. Uff!
I think he should have given her a chaper. When it comes to pardah or anything related to it I think women need to listen to their husbands. Dupatta in our society is also like a hijab. Eventhough she thought of it has a "museebat" but still jo cheez sahi hoti hai woh sahi hoti hai aur agar woh nahi maan rahi to it's good that the husband didn't let her go out without one, I think he did the right thing. That's what I used to be like when my 11 year old sister would just run around in gali without a dupatta coz she has spent almost all of her life growing up in the West so she needs to learn such things. I know how Western born and raised girls are. Maybe he should've been a bit polite but I don't think he did anything wrong. He has a right to tell her that aur halka sa dantna isn't bad. The girl should've listened to him when he told her to wear it the first time. It's her fault totally. She should be thankful that atleast uss ne sarr pe lene ko nahi kaha warna kitni museebat hoti larki ko but it was just galay main lena theek se, sara Pakistan leta hai, kya woh nahi le sakti thi? Baki log bardasht karte hain, couldn't she have bardasht that? Gosh.
