i agree with some of your points malika but :nono: this attitude of other people towards girls is derived precisely from the kind of hooligan guy-oriented night-time crap that goes around. parents NEED to be more in control of what their son is upto! just becuz he is a guy, and he aint gona be ****ed does not mean he is safe. they need to exactly be on control of this if he is involved in ****ing other girls up, or other criminal activities!
boys need to be protected from themselves!
Most of what PCG says comes out of her imagination. So take it lightly. She doesn’t know “many boys”. If she looked in the right places or maybe hung out with the right crowd, she wouldn’t come up with these ludicrous assumptions about “many boys”. Sometimes I wonder if PCG is really human living in this world.
edit: I can’t stop laughing, should I stop laughing, it’s sad really. PCG says: Many of our boys become suicide bombers. No wonder pcg can’t find any boys cuz they all blew themselves up! Closet drinkers? Druggies? Sex addicts? what the hell. Either American pakistani boys are true a-holes or PCG has been drinkin’ again.
Yeh hai aisa hi. Bewaqoof. He's another example of a boy that should not have been allowed outside of his home.
Please cricketplaya, tell us about your previous life. You know, before you became a born-again muslim. When you used to sit online and pretend to be interested in women on some dating website and chat with them? I can't remember. Was it for pay or for your own pure enjoyment? Because if it was the first...you're a man hooker.
It's funny how when i was my brother's age...i couldn't get away with doing half the things hes doing now! And I use to tell my parents that you guys have double standards and its so unfair...blah blah blah!! Now i relize cause i'm more older and mature ;) that they really did have my best interest at heart. If you see a guy at the movies late at night...."ppl" won't draw assumptions as quickly as if they saw a girl going to the movies late at night. And yea its not that they didn't trust me...its the ppl around me they didn't trust! And yea if i have kids...i think i will be just as worried about them as my parents were for me...and i know we all say..."oh when i have kids I won't treat them like my parents use to treat me they were so unfair etc etc"...but you know what people....this day and age...the world is just becoming a scarier place...and its harder to raise children in this society!! So yea that's just my personal opinion...at the end of the day...make sure you know where and what your children are up too...you brought them into this world...their your responsibilty!!
I would probably tightly control my girls too, but the point here is, why not do the same to boys?
We are always afraid of the boys OUT THERE who will hurt our daughters. Did we ever stop and think that the boys OUT THERE who are trouble makers are non other than our own boys?
I am no born-again Muslim, I was born muslim! Yes, I worked for a dating company for a short period of time and that was my mistake, I regret it. But that don’t mean I went out with girls, drank, did drugs, gangbanged and finally blew myself up.. cuz that’s what YOU think MANY of us do. Seriously, YOU are the one needing a reality check.
I would probably tightly control my girls too, but the point here is, why not do the same to boys?
We are always afraid of the boys OUT THERE who will hurt our daughters. Did we ever stop and think that the boys OUT THERE who are trouble makers are non other than our own boys?
I find that boys are harder to control...they have this large ego...and if there mother or someone with authority says don't do this or go there...they will do it just to spite them! Whereas most girls I know...are levelheaded and not hormonally imbalanced! And they listen and behave like "good girls" should! But I agree 100% with the fact that boys should be controled too...there just harder to rein in!!
I would probably tightly control my girls too, but the point here is, why not do the same to boys?
We are always afraid of the boys OUT THERE who will hurt our daughters. Did we ever stop and think that the boys OUT THERE who are trouble makers are non other than our own boys?
Totally agree with you on this Gudia
We should equally control boys like we control /protect girls.
no doubt, the parental vigilance should not just be limited to girls, as boys are more likely to get in trouble if the freedom is unchecked. but i think the reason that parents are so much more vigilant and strict with their daughters is because, unfortunately, a girl's reputation is way more fragile than a guy's is. in case of even an accidental slip up (as a result of the acqired azadi), a guy will find it easier to do damage control and not live forever with the fear of a blemished past but a girl in this case will have to face the consequences of a tarnished rep forever, sad but true.
this fear is what pushes the parents to be way more protected about their girls because when all is said and done ultimately it is the girl who will suffer and live with the long term repercussios.
how much freedom someone gets should be based on a number of factors some of which are here
1) maturity of the person- how likely are they to make the right decisions, step away from bad situations etc
2) how streetsmart are they, to avoid getting in trouble, or being able to get out of
3) general safety situation
4) cultural norms and what is acceptable, because well while its unfair in many ways, u have to exist in that atmosphere so some balance is needed.
i noted earlier that my sister had much more freedom than I had and that my folks had very good reasons for it. she was much more mature and had a good head on her shoulder, which is still the case, much calmer than I was, verus moi who was a very hotheaded teenager, and would probably get into situations where i would put myself in danger. lus law and order situation was a mess in my teens versus her teens.
so factor in these and other points and be fair. there may be other factors involved but this was just food for thought.
I would probably tightly control my girls too, but the point here is, why not do the same to boys?
We are always afraid of the boys OUT THERE who will hurt our daughters. Did we ever stop and think that the boys OUT THERE who are trouble makers are non other than our own boys?
It's funny my Mum once said to me during an argument about this 'well, he can't get pregnant' as tho it was ok for a desi boy to sleep around and have fun and get someone else's daughter pregnant. The attitude is so messed up..
Even after guys staying out till 3/4 in the morning, going from girl to girl, drinking, drugs, pimping out underage schoolgirls (there are parts of the UK where Pakistani boys are notorious for this) etc in the UK it's strangely still us girls who apparently 'don't turn out well' loooool.
If a son gets into trouble with the police the parents will make out it's down to 'racism' or make some other excuse, if he has girlfriends they'll look the other way or say 'he's just having fun' whilst if their daughter is seen with a 'boyfriend' she's often married off to someone she doesn't want, beaten or thrown out. Brilliant, isn't it..
how much freedom someone gets should be based on a number of factors some of which are here
1) maturity of the person- how likely are they to make the right decisions, step away from bad situations etc
2) how streetsmart are they, to avoid getting in trouble, or being able to get out of
3) general safety situation
4) cultural norms and what is acceptable, because well while its unfair in many ways, u have to exist in that atmosphere so some balance is needed.
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I agree with alot of this. Freedom should be based on how responsible someone is, NOT based on their gender.
Closet drinkers? Druggies? Sex addicts? what the hell. Either American pakistani boys are true a-holes or PCG has been drinkin’ again. 