Would you be okay with letting you fiancee go clubbing without you

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Re: Would you be okay with letting you fiancee go clubbing without you

@Iconoclast

So you are fine with scantily dressed women or may be topless gyrating on tables and men throwing dollar bills at them?

You realize that that ISN’T the case at every club, right? I’ve gone to 1-2 that had no topless gyrating women on tables…are you talking about a strip club?

@kiehsa

Thanks for all your opinion guys, much appreciated. It pretty much confirms that its an issue with a grey area and not simply black and white.

I really do trust her and have faith in her 100% right now because I have no reason to doubt her. For this reason, I have considered letting her go if it was an exception only for her bachelorette party as a 1x thing.

Problem is that she is one of the first individuals to get married from her group and I know she has several friends who are non muslim/muslim who do drink. I think its just matter of setting dangerous precendence early on in marriage/relationship. If I say I am okay now, I will have to be okay with her going their in future. How many times will I allow 1x exceptions lol

The way I look at is that its about odds. She goes now, means she can go for her friends parties in club in the future. Eventually it could potentially lead to issues regarding trust etc. No matter how much we trust our significant other, I think it would be foolish to play with temptation.

If it really is about going clubbing just for the experience because she never has before, I think going with me should be sufficient.

For you individuals who say let her go alone with her friends…You guys must be super brave to have that much faith in your significant other to allow letting them go in a environment designed to meet other people of opposite gender for “fun” or fool around.I really do hope that faith is not misplaced for your sakes.

I get that her friends are nonmuslim and that’s making you uncomfortable (I went clubbing with my nonmuslim friends once and it wasn’t fun) and it’s totally your call. I’m not defending clubbing as I don’t go myself anymore at all, but it’s basically what you make of it. If you go just to dance with your friends, that’s what it is. If you go because you want to eye other people, well then, that’s on you. I will say, though, that though there are some creepy people at clubs every once in a while, for the most part, everyone just leaves you alone and lets you do your thing. They’ll ask you to dance, maybe, and if you say no–that’s it. They’ll leave.