Don't Judge Me!

[TLK]

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@Niksik

Asiey kasiey hop sakta hai? How can you tell that someone is on the wrong path unless you’ve made a judgement that they are on the wrong path? .

Very easy. You sing a song for them, bollywood style, with white sari in the rain ..

kaash aisa hota
kaash aisa hota

I’ve noticed that any and every message can be passed in the form of songs. You can even give gaaliyan and no one will mind.

[Muzna]

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and you are very welcome to your opinion Sara…

[Afshi]

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@Muzna

And what makes you think that I haven’t expressed my opinion directly to the person that made the not-so-pleasant comment?
Is there anything else you might be wondering?

i didnt. That’s why i asked :P.

you didn’t mention anything about expressing your opinion directly to the person that made that not so pleasant comment.

and from what i got from your post #34, and correct me if i’m wrong, is that when someone expresses their issue on a public forum, they shoudlnt complain about getting unpleasant comments, but shoudl just accept them.

but shoudlnt the person who made these comments get some sort of public reprimandation as well? since that seems to be what is happening here for the person who made the complaint.

(and i dont even know what the exact issue is, i did not read the thread u posted. Im talking about in general about any public posts on a public forum)

[TLK]

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@Amoureux_de_la_vie

That’s fair. By the same token, the person receiving harsh advice and being judged, then, has the right to get aggravated. The person criticizing should recognize that there will be backlash for what they are saying and how.

My advice was harsh because we were not talking about the mother but the future and upbringing of 2 preteens. When I go to my doctor and he sees that my kids are not following the sleeping schedule that they need to follow, he is blunt with me cause the topic of discussion is kids and their well being. At that time, he cares less whether I will take it as a direct offense towards my parenting style.

Having said that, yes I admit that my words were harsh, because I also have 2 daughters, and raising ideal daughters in this otherwise not so ideal society is something that is very close to my heart - but harsh words does not mean that I was judging the person.

[Decent_6Chora]

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@Niksik

That explains all the that you post whenever you quote me…

[hareem01]

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@Afshi

^ Muzna, I’m just wondering why you would have an issue with how someone reacted to a not-so-pleasant comment,** instead of the person who made the not-so-pleasant comment?**

she did.

@Muzna

By the same token, not everyone is gifted in their communication skills so when you expose yourself to criticism, be prepared to receive it in various formats, some of which may not be pleasant.

TLK

[Muzna]

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@hareem01

she did.

TLK

hareem…you are brilliant!!!

nobody else, other than TLK, picked up on that.
all these intelligent people didn’t get it.

[TLK]

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@Afshi

(and i dont even know what the exact issue is, i did not read the thread u posted.

Pffft, typical of Afshi. Posting long long lectures without even knowing the issue ..

Oooooh, sorry Afshi, I judged you …I called you typical .. bad TLK

[Niksik]

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Waisey, one thing I don’t understand is that some of the very same people who are so ticked on that parenting thread against TLK’s comments are the first ones to jump in on other threads calling a member a troll or rolling eyes at them or using f words and stuff like that. Kitni ajeeb duniya hai.

And TLK, you are so foolish. You could have said the same thing by gol gol kay ghooming, posting multiple smilies instead of making such a direct comment. Shame on you for not following forum diplomacy.

Oh and please DO judge me. I realize I may be biased. Kya karoon. Mohabbat ka mamla hai.

[Muzna]

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@Afshi

i didnt. That’s why i asked :P.

you didn’t mention anything about expressing your opinion directly to the person that made that not so pleasant comment.

and from what i got from your post #34, and correct me if i’m wrong, is that when someone expresses their issue on a public forum, they shoudlnt complain about getting unpleasant comments, but shoudl just accept them.

but shoudlnt the person who made these comments get some sort of public reprimandation as well? since that seems to be what is happening here for the person who made the complaint.

(and i dont even know what the exact issue is, i did not read the thread u posted. Im talking about in general about any public posts on a public forum)

aray baba…the person who made the unpleasant comments has been suffering the brunt of the reprimands not only in THAT thread but also in THIS one.

what more do you want?

and if you don’t know what the issue is then why go on about it?
the least you can do is bother to read through the thread before you comment…especially after I make reference to it when I see people going off track.

sheesh again.

[Muzna]

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@TLK

Pffft, typical of Afshi. Posting long long lectures without even knowing the issue ..

Oooooh, sorry Afshi, I judged you …I called you typical .. bad TLK

how dare you TLK!!!
come by my office so that I can give you the well-deserved and earned 50 lashes…

[Muzna]

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@Niksik

Waisey, one thing I don’t understand is that some of the very same people who are so ticked on that parenting thread against TLK’s comments are the first ones to jump in on other threads calling a member a troll or rolling eyes at them or using f words and stuff like that. Kitni ajeeb duniya hai.

And TLK, you are so foolish. You could have said the same thing by gol gol kay ghooming, posting multiple smilies instead of making such a direct comment. Shame on you for not following forum diplomacy.

Oh and please DO judge me. I realize I may be biased. Kya karoon. Mohabbat ka mamla hai.

ROFL!!!

[TLK]

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@Niksik

Waisey, one thing I don’t understand is that some of the very same people who are so ticked on that parenting thread against TLK’s comments are the first ones to jump in on other threads calling a member a troll or rolling eyes at them or using f words and stuff like that. Kitni ajeeb duniya hai.

And TLK, you are so foolish. You could have said the same thing by gol gol kay ghooming, posting multiple smilies instead of making such a direct comment. Shame on you for not following forum diplomacy.

Oh and please DO judge me. I realize I may be biased. Kya karoon. Mohabbat ka mamla hai.

Bad me

@Muzna

the least you can do is bother to read through the thread before you comment…

Please muzna, dont judge her by calling her an arm chair critic…please.

OK ok, I am changing my signatures to Munda Beejamalo

[TLK]

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@Muzna

how dare you TLK!!!
come by my office so that I can give you the well-deserved and earned 50 lashes…

Promise sharmoing

[Afshi]

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well in the first initial post u made , it was a general statement. it was only after you became more specific.

next time be more direct and include names and threads specifically in teh beginning please.

sheesh. dont bite my head off guys.

and like i said, im making a general statement.

hareem and tilly..im slow. i didnt get it. :S

[hareem01]

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tilly

[Sara516]

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@Muzna

this is the other thing that gets me…perhaps an entirely different matter.
you see someone you care about that is behaving in a way that will eventually hurt them…you’ve seen it happen elsewhere…what do you do? shut up and let them learn when they fall on their face or speak up and try to help them?

But how is that judging?

@Muzna

Agreed. We should always be congenial. You and I and perhaps most people will understand that and live by it…but not everyone.

In a public setting there will always be someone that is harsh, abrasive or down-right obnoxious about the way they express an opinion. If I choose to subject myself to that sort of exposure then I am forfeiting the right to complain.

Perhaps it is just me but I feel like I protect myself from being hurt when I take this approach…or I simply keep those matters that are sensitive out of the arena.

That’s what I was looking for… its different when it comes to public vs private…

So there, one general statement and one incident-specific post.

[Muzna]

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@TLK

Please muzna, dont judge her by calling her an arm chair critic…please.

far be it from me to judge tilly dahling…people can be arm chair critics, bar stool critics or royal throne critics for all I care… LOL

[Muzna]

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@Afshi

well in the first initial post u made , it was a general statement. it was only after you became more specific.

next time be more direct and include names and threads specifically in teh beginning please.

sheesh. dont bite my head off guys.

and like i said, im making a general statement.

hareem and tilly..im slow. i didnt get it. :S

actually Afshi…your initial post was bang on…so I figured you did get what we were talking about. (btw…you still haven’t posted the source of that material…I’d be grateful if you did, pls and thanks.)

chomp, chomp

and it was not until your post #11 that I realized you were on a completely different tangent and felt the need to clarify hence my reference to the other thread.

slobber, chomp, slobber

nobody else was lost so there was no need to clarify.

BURP

oops…excuse me…your head was yummy!

[Afshi]

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oh yeah i need to get to that.

yeah, im slow. i dont read all the threads around here.

yes my sarr is yummy. must be all that argan oil i put in it. lol thanks!

love that smiley..it reminds me of a certain guppan