Does it matter if someone you want to marry is a virgin or not?

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Finally someone with right mind in my opinion.

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My question to EDAL is,

Why do you keep referring your wife as ‘the girl’ and not as your wife? Assuming she is still your wife.

And why did you have to say something about having negative feelings for her even after you got marriage?

A married man who loves and cares for his wife does not say/reveal these things online. EVEN if it is anonymous. Since at the end of the day YOU are the one who is to sleep at night after posting.

That is plain and simple odd!

:khumar:

Mods: Please don’t close the thread. Just read above.

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Just a reminder some posts were moved as they were getting too graphic and some other posts that went along with the topic.

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If I be on ur friend’s boy friend, my reaction “Nah to nah Sahi” :barbie:

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I prefer non virgins, just a personal preference.

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People with lost personalities will suffer a great deal more than those with lost virginities and sadly we have few of them posting here on this thread :)

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:smack:
Why couldn’t you just edit what you considered graphic?

A lot of discussion was not even close to being graphic by the way.

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Oh no! seems I missed some important points. :naraz:

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Sorry muqawwi bahi. This whole business of moderation needs a little overhaul.

It reminds old Pakistani censorship where a man uses “Qasai Ka Bughda” cutting film role while blindfolded.

I think this was presented in Fifty fifty or some show.

Easier to throw posts instead of taking time to edit or trim.

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Its the present and future that matter. Not past. We should learn from the past rather than fixating on it AND work on present and future.

To err is human. Your friend may make the mistake of letting of a potentially very honest and dedicated life partner.

Obviously everyone would IDEALLY like a virgin or non touched person. But times have changed and moral boundaries have reduced. Will you really let that indiscretion cost you a potentially wonderful life partner?

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Spot-on. If she was married in the past...why would that cause distress for a man?! =/ I can understand a woman who had sex outside of marriage being a problem, but someone who is legally married, done stuff the correct way...to hold being a non-virgin against her is cruel and stupid, IMO.

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if you come to think of it....

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No. Virginity isn't an important issue to everyone.. obviously everyone has their own preferences..

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Girls think to compromise.. even their husbands r not virgin at the time of marriage but men are mean if they came to know abt this fact about their wives they surely make this a point for SEPARATION.. (coz i have seen mAny cases in which man murdered their wives only for that reason) we lives in cities and we have knowledge but if v talk abt Pakistan more then 65 % men are living in traditions and under the shadow of fake ego.... so we should talk abt majority. i am agree that there are ppl who can forget and live happily but they are only 5 % in all (specly men)..

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Wow. I just hope all of you who are saying it doesnt matter that much, really mean it and dont run away from a non-virgin when its their time to accept one! :bummer:

In a society where we are still rejecting people over complexion, height and weight, i really doubt that people don’t stress over wanting a virgin! I personally don’t see anything wrong if a virgin wants a virgin. But yes at the same time i do understand there can be circumstances where you have to let go of it and move on.

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I think attraction tends to trump most things..

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Editing someone elses post could change the meaning, maybe suggesting something not intended by the poster. I think I would rather have a post removed rather than edited.

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Disagree. Off topic but, editing means only taking something objectionable out.

Besides, like I said earlier, at least some posts removed were not even close to being 'graphic'. New moderators have to show they are active but with time they get mellowed down. :) Anyways, nvm.

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[quote="“KaafHaaYaaAynSaad, post:32, topic:253108"”]

That’s not true. Well, not for Muslims.
[/quote]

I think** rosedreams** is right, for muslim men too.

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Exactly, you'd be surprised how many muslims are not virgins (men and women).