Does it matter if someone you want to marry is a virgin or not?

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LOOOL

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That is hilarious! No wonder you’re so famous around town. :smiley:

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I think it's unreasonable and unfair to say that a woman HAS to be a virgin for a man to marry her and accept her, regardless of her status. =/

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lol, FT you really think your opinion matters to me? Quite honestly you are the one that seems immature because you can’t get your point across. I brought up the hymen when you said women can’t bury their past. Which to me meant if her hymen isn’t intact she is doomed. All I said was that not having a hymen doesn’t prove anything.

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re: Does it matter if someone you want to marry is a virgin or not?

the basic rule should be that both the guy and the girl ask each other if they are virgins or not BEFORE the marriage, before baat bakki, before engagement whatsoever.

you have to ask your soon to be spouse about his/her past.

well, personally, as a virgin, i would like my husband to be a virgin as well, BUT if i think that the guy has 'moved on' and repented to Allah SWT, then i am ready to accept him.

i believe that there are very few men who are virgins, by the time they ar 25-29 yrs of age, most men have lost their virginity. that's what i have come to know. correct me if i am wrong.

i know that traditionally, women are expected to be virgins before their marriage, but in these modern times, some may not be. thus, it is the girl's duty to inform her future spouse that she is a non-virgin, and the guy should nicely ask the girl as well.

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of course many women will say on this forum that it doesn't matter to them mainly because they aren't virgins themselves.
I just don't understand why women nowadays give it up so easily considering that their worth drop significantly

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wouldn't the girl feel insulted if someone asked her that???

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And men get their worth/value increased once they lose the same?

You make epic sense!

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re: Does it matter if someone you want to marry is a virgin or not?

That's not true. Well, not for Muslims.

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Infamous,… my friend, infamous. :hehe:

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I’m a virgin and i demand one call me shallow, conservative, narrow-minded or whatever you want…:blush:

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Well like I said I believe when it comes to marriage, you gotta be upfront and honest with the girl and her family, I didn’t hide anything, I told her everything before we ever got nikkhaed, I clearly told her that if such things bother you, then don’t proceed. At the end of the day people will appreciate you much more if you don’t lie to them, regardless of what you have done.

Her response to me was positive, I guess she liked my honesty and all.

Her dads brother grilled be a little about those things, he asked a lot of questions. He took me out and had a conversation with me one to one, asked me why I would marry and divorce a girl so fast. I told him exactly what happened.

Because at the end of the day nothing was going to happen without the approval of her family, including her fathers older brother. The girl made that clear to me, that she liked me but she would never proceed without their approval.

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^
Honesty is the best policy.

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Quite contrary to your opinion..i wouldn't mind marrying and accepting a girl who has had some past. If she was married in the past..no issue for me. And if she has had done something in the past without marriage and all..i would accept her provided she feels remorse about it. To me..her character and my understanding with a girl matters most. Rest i can pass it up!.

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Why is it such a big deal if it was before the marriage and the guy doesn't give the other party STDs? Aren't husbands and wives each others garments that are meant to protect each other?

I guess it must be the insecurity that he would do it again after marriage, but that shows more the insecure nature of the women than anything else.

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Well we're all different.

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Err learn to read properly. It's not a big deal to me.. I said 'if he lied' about it.. My other half isn't a virgin and it doesn't bother me..

And how funny that you don't accuse a male poster who actually has said that of being 'insecure.'

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It's always good to forgive a person even if they have done a sever crime.

If they come to know they have done the wrong thing and are asking for forgiveness then you have to make your heart bigger and let him in.

-DP