One of my friend dumped her potential because he told her dat he had sex with with his ex-girlfriend. From wat i know he was a good guy and said he has “repented” of his past but she couldn’t get over it. So again: What would you do?.
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Yes it does. Call me unreasonable or whatever but that's a huge deal-breaker to me and I don't blame your friend one bit. Even if he 'repents', it'll just piss me off every time I'd think about it. Also, if your friend herself held out, her expecting a guy who did the same isn't unreasonable one bit. I guess this isn't the most practical or realistic way to think considering the age we live in but I wouldn't prefer it any other way.
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Him not being a virgin wouldn't bother me but if he lied about it then yeah, I'd dump him..
(If your friend is a virgin and it's really important to her then can't blame her for wanting the same.. obviously everyone has different priorities)..
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See M i do not understand is he was honest about it riiight.
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^yes, but she had her own preferences. Obviously if he hid it, it would have been a lot worse.
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Yup, deal breaker. Its just one of those things...But its just such a no no for me. I know it seems like an unrealistic expections knowing the guys these days.lol
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Girls are just as bad. Don't forget that bit. ;)
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They are! I shouldve said “its an unrealitic expectation knowing guys and girls these days” ab kush aap??
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Ok, I'll let you off. Yes, Im happy you cleared that up.
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I think if your friend was a virgin, then yes it would matter. IMO for people who aren't virgins, it wouldn't matter whether their new partner is a virgin or not. Just as long as its all in the past and they are faithful to their new partner.
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Personally, if my husband did something in his past and got over it, I take his relationship with me as a fresh one, starting with a clean slate. Why bring the past? But that's me. Everyone has different needs.
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IMO for people who aren't virgins, it wouldn't matter whether their new partner is a virgin or not.
Ummm. no.
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Not it aint a deal breaker to me - shyte happens , and that's life !
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Nik, you’re so practical and mature and sensible and reasonable. I could never think that way. Ever. 
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Ummm. no.
how can you "no" someones opinion? lol fair enough if you disagree
so it would matter to you if your new partner is a virgin, even though you are not? (not saying you aren't or are. Just for argument's sake)
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Maybe there are certain things I can’t think of the same way as you do. I guess weall have our limits and definitions.
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how can you "no" someones opinion? lol fair enough if you disagree
so it would matter to you if your new partner is a virgin, even though you are not? (not saying you aren't or are. Just for argument's sake)
Lol I meant that there are plenty of guys who are not virgins but still demand/expect their future wives to be....that's just how it is in our culture.
and just because someone doesn't care about virginity doesn't mean that they were not virgins at that time too. I was a virgin when i married but I never really expected my future spouse to be, and I'm sure there are many who felt the same as I do.
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u r rite dear… but its not soo easy to digest… coz of our community and traditions… it will happend that if any of couple knows abt his/her parter that he/she is not a virgin it will appear in future… its just a compromise at start but later turned into point of no return… i have a freind she was good looking and she got engaged in Oct, 2011 within family friends… they cross the limits and now even though her fiance knows that she did sex with him only but now he showed her cold shoulder and recently said"i m sorry i m not in love with u anymore it was a mistake that we have an engagment" she has nothing just to regret… it was what she done… she is thinking about suicide… very sad:teary1:
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Sara its u... who think in this way but not all men or woman there are some exceptions.....
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Lol I meant that there are plenty of guys who are not virgins but still demand/expect their future wives to be....that's just how it is in our culture.
and just because someone doesn't care about virginity doesn't mean that they were not virgins at that time too. I was a virgin when i married but I never really expected my future spouse to be, and I'm sure there are many who felt the same as I do.
Ahh yeah that is true. Kind of horribly unfair for guys like that to demand such a thing, but thats just the way things are.