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I'm glad I didn't have real bf's because I didn't have to deal with drama. Do I regret talking to guys on my rishtaa hunt? No. I'm glad I found out that they weren't the right people for me. I would be miserable married to any one of them. But I'm also glad I had no frivolous relationships either growing up. No kid needs that sort of drama. Our kids should be studying and working on scholarships and careers. Not getting distracted by losers.
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NO..!!
but i regret not being cautious enuff while talking to random ppl at work etc...i had this presumed idea in my head that everyone is a gud person untill i see the bad in them...learned it the hard way
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this is like asking a bunch of nuns if sex is more fun in daytime or at night. most have no clue what sex is, and the lucky ones who do will feign innocence to keep their pious reps intact.
this is like asking a bunch of nuns if sex is more fun in daytime or at night. most have no clue what sex is, and the lucky ones who do will feign innocence to keep their pious reps intact.
:D bingo
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Queer, you take the cake
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Nah, I don't regret not dating. A friend of mine dated for around 4 years and it was enough to put you off for life!
Dating became an issue though-especially when it came to considering someone for marriage. She would constantly compare exes to current partners. I was very grateful that I never dated because I don't think I could of coped with the mental torture after of comparing ex 1 with ex 3 with current husband-eeekkk.
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Are you seriously telling me there are NO girls on here that have dated??? BS!!!! :)
Queer, you hit the nail on the head there!!!!
........I'll be the first then... yep, I have dated!! (SHOCK, HORROR) Do I regret it??? Hell no!!! :)
this is like asking a bunch of nuns if sex is more fun in daytime or at night. most have no clue what sex is, and the lucky ones who do will feign innocence to keep their pious reps intact.
Not really. It's asking if you regret not having done something. If you don't regret it, you don't regret it.
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Dating is oppression of women...IMO*
I am in a relationship right now, but I don't call it "dating". Dating implies that there is no commitment. Some of the married folk might not take a relationship's commitment seriously, but that is what keeps it going. Mine is a long-term relationship, with clear prospects of marriage. I know it can end and the damages will be difficult to bear, but slightly easier than a marriage. It still is a very significant part of my life, and the happiest one at that.
I have also sort of dated, though it couldn't be qualified as dating as such. But I think I got the most important part out of it. I learned the kind of person I wanted to be with. Then found one who was much better than my expectations, and more annoying than I had imagined. But now I am used to it and I seem to think that the person I have today, is exactly the kind of person I always wanted to be with. Everyone understands how untrue that is.
The thing with these things is, you can always feel that you missed out on something, if you only had 1 serious relationship, not more, if you only dated seriously, not casually, if you got married without getting to know the person, if you married the first seemingly right person that came along, if you decided to have a kid right away, if you decided to wait, if you wore a certain dress for your wedding but not the other.
You got my point, right?
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I have never dated either.
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dating = drama, backbiting, backstabbing, etc. in my opinion.
But then again, I don't really hang out much with desi guys that I'd like one so much and want to date them. For some reason, it's always been non-desis who have hit on me, so I've never considered dating.
dating = drama, backbiting, backstabbing, etc. in my opinion. But then again, I don't really hang out much with desi guys that I'd like one so much and want to date them. For some reason, it's always been non-desis who have hit on me, so I've never considered dating.
it can be drama, backbiting and backstabbing etc, it depends on the maturity of the people involved and their immediate circle.
we see drama, backbiting ad backstabbing in married life too, but its immaturity at play there as well. nand bhabhi, saas bahu and assorted relatives and ppl.
I think it's important that both parties need to be clear on what they want from the whole dating thing. Is it all for a bit of fun? Is it serious enough for a long term relationship but not enough for marriage? Or is it serious enough for marriage? As long as they're both on the same page then there isn't an issue.
There are too many situations (especially with desis) where the guy is only dating for fun but the girl isn't. This leads to heartbreak and tears when he ditches her and gets married to someone else, but she didn't even know it was coming...that's just wrong.
I've never dated, do I regret it? No because it's a personal choice.
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makes no difference
Well this is alll very interesting to hear.. but here is another question that comes to my mind.. When living in u.s how do you find a better half for yourself when you don't date. I mean I was lucky that I was able to have arranged marriage living in a town where there are hardly any pakis.. but I had to marry someone from pakistan.. these days girls aren't willing to do that specially ones growing up in areas like where I live.. so what do you say to somebody like that?? just wondered how their experience is different then ours as far as perception of marriage and family.
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Was never interested in the whole dating malarkey…and i never went out intentionally looking for prey…
i was too young and was too busy enjoying my life without having any commitments holding me back…
Until i came across Mr Maroush. It was unexpected, caught me off guard, and it just happened like that. Though we didn’t get married till a couple years later, we were pretty committed to each other from the first time that we met and we both knew what our intentions were leading to… i.e marriage.
So…yeah, i would classify that period of time in our relationship as “dating”…
same story.. here .. yaaayy.. 
The only benefit I expect people to gain from dating is getting a better understanding of themselves and what they like, dislike, can tolerate and not tolerate in the opposite gender.
^ Totally agree with this!
"Dates" for me were usually getting coffee or dinner with a guy that I met, my parents set me up with, or my friends set me up with. I enjoyed the process of getting ready and my friends being excited for me. I went in with realistic hopes with the mindset that this is a learning experience. This helped when 99% of the guys I met were not compatible with me for abc reason. I never got serious with any of these guys.... didn't last longer than that one coffee or dinner situation.
After a bunch of lame dinners/coffees - I came across a really amazing guy. This went beyond the initial first dinner date. We spent time getting to know each other as friends and realized (because we both knew what we wanted by that point) that this was it. During our "dating period" it was always known from day one that this would lead to marriage. :) Intentions were of full commitment. There was never any drama, or anything. He was my only boyfriend. Fast forward 2 years from the time we got serious - and we got engaged. I am sure when I look back years from now, I will consider this time period as well as my engagement period as some of the best years of my life. :D I am 100% confident in marrying him and vice versa .....and unlike most girls of our culture - I am looking more forward to starting a life with him together as opposed to the shaadi itself. I'm kidna whatever about the shaadi and rasams. If I had it my way - nikkah in masjid and simple valima would be enough for me... I have my prince charming and that is all I need. :D
For those of you that havn't been in this situation before.... sometimes you dont' realize what you missed since you never had it. Which is ok!
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^ I totally agree with PR, but that could be because as with her I found 'the one' in a similar way... we were good friends but we always knew from the first time we met that there was something more there and it developed from there through our families. Again as with PR, I don't care for the big fancy wedding, I know he's the one and I'd be more happy with a simple nikah as I'm looking forward to our future together more than any wedding party :)
So, nope I don't regret not dating one bit!