How many of you never dated or had gf or bf before getting married? Do you regret not having that experience? Many times when I talk to friends or see young girls these days having fun without worrying about family responsibilities I envy them deep down because I couldn’t experience that.. while I am lucky to have a wonderful and loving hubby.. part of me wonders how it would be like if we went on dates before even being engaged or nikahed.. what the feeling would be like?
"not having that experience" is an overused phrase.
u dont do things just for experience so you dont regret them later. you do stuff you want to.
personally, if u reflect at a later point in your life and regret things on a major scale, then it just shows a void in your present life. the past is gone. our state of mind is ever changing.
Lifeless.. what I meant was that what kind of feelings would we have for each other if we met each other and dated each other.. I meant me and hubbs! I have always wondered because many time the youngsters have so much glow when they say 'he is the one" just makes me want to experience that feeling.. :)
The only benefit I expect people to gain from dating is getting a better understanding of themselves and what they like, dislike, can tolerate and not tolerate in the opposite gender.
Your post gives the impression that DATING is a "mandatory" ritual to be performed before marriage and somehow people who missed this ritual might be missing something wondful. Unfortunately this is not the case. If DATING was to avoid most of the post marriage conflicts by letting you choose compatible people, western marriages would have success ratio of 99.99%.
If by your post you mean people who have missed dating have missed some "exciting times", then people who do date long before marriage miss soul of first night.
I had girl friends but not "gf" so I guess no I never dated and I like it like that ~~~
How many of you never dated or had gf or bf before getting married? Do you regret not having that experience? Many times when I talk to friends or see young girls these days having fun without worrying about family responsibilities I envy them deep down because I couldn't experience that.. while I am lucky to have a wonderful and loving hubby.. part of me wonders how it would be like if we went on dates before even being engaged or nikahed.. what the feeling would be like?
Dating is like renting a car. Renting a car to see which features you like and which features you dont like. If you dont like the car, you just return it (move on) and if you like it, you buy it (get married) BUT you never drive rented cars (dates) with care as you drive your OWN car (spouse). You dont take rented cars seriously like you take you own car. When you rent a car (date), you look for luxaries and perks (how does the date look like) but you can still end up getting a crap engine under hood if you buy it just for looks and finally.....chances of getting killed in an accident are equal no matter if its rented car or u owned it.
haha well it's good to know this :).. hubbs and I are very happy massallah :).. and I think Decent 6Chora couldn't have explained the purpose of dating better so I guess it's not all that exciting huh!
Dating is like renting a car. Renting a car to see which features you like and which features you dont like. If you dont like the car, you just return it (move on) and if you like it, you buy it (get married) BUT you never drive rented cars (dates) with care as you drive your OWN car (spouse). You dont take rented cars seriously like you take you own car. When you rent a car (date), you look for luxaries and perks (how does the date look like) but you can still end up getting a crap engine under hood if you buy it just for looks and finally.....chances of getting killed in an accident are equal no matter if its rented car or u owned it.
yeah and then there are taxis, you know, you pay you get transport. there are also buses which are cheaper than taxis, but the crowd can be a little off putting.
there are short lease options as well which although technically not renting is essentially the same but it may be seen more favorably.
for more exotic cars there are these timeshare abilities where multiple ppl pay into it and have a few days a month/year with the car or cars.
m’A, i’A?