Do men feel threatened if their wives make more?

[khattichic]

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@PyariCgudia

Agha cafe, Khatti!!! Boy number 2 took me to that do númbri taj chaat house, what a cheapo.

Bahahahaa!! Agha it is then! (and that’s closer to me anyway )

I’ll call/text you this weekend

[luvblingz]

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you have courage and balls to say this on my face. but hey you are saying this online, good for you, you will live. did you ever saw my whining whine threads in Life1, no right its because i have my mind intact at right place. as far your husband concern, maybe you are that chipko kind a 24/7 whining lady .. so yeh better fix yourself before complaining...

i work for my family, enough said.

this. i wish one day she can taste how it** felt** being in my boots.

WTH is your problem dude?

i only asked because your statement was in the past tense- you said "how it FELT" so i thought you might not be married anymore

what kind of man are you telling a woman she will "live" because she said something online?? meaning if i said it to your face then?

and you are the one that should be ashamed of yourself then for posting online that you want to get back at your wife for the money you spend on/give to her- yeah sounds like you really have your mind in the right place

[Reha]

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@LucyMay

I know a handful of women at work who are the main bread winners, while their husbands have taken a stay at home role- cooking, taking the kids to soccer practice. Their decision was based on practicality - the wife was in a position to make much more than the husband. All seem to be happy and well settled.
My colleague’s husband packs lunch for her - he even puts in a piece of cake or chocolate everyday because she loves sweets. I find it sooooo cute!
None of these families are desi though

I knew a woman whose husband worked a construction jobs and put her through law school. He would pack lunches for her, watch the kids, do it all while she crammed for finals and the bar.

But of course, the couple wasn’t desi.

Well, this is certainly interesting.

I’ve known some women that earn more than husbands but they don’t seem to be big headed about it. They seem to be handling it themselves pretty well…they’re not kings or queens. Now I am not sure about their husbands though.

Now is it possible for a couple to have a balanced relationship if wife starts to make more in during the course of their marriage? Who says no to money for the sake of someone’s ego? I don’t know anyone that would do that.

[Ezio]

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@LucyMay

I know a handful of women at work who are the main bread winners, while their husbands have taken a stay at home role- cooking, taking the kids to soccer practice. Their decision was based on practicality - the wife was in a position to make much more than the husband. All seem to be happy and well settled.
My colleague’s husband packs lunch for her - he even puts in a piece of cake or chocolate everyday because she loves sweets. I find it sooooo cute!
None of these families are desi though

That’s sad.

Where do we draw the line with this equality bull****? Where does it end? Men getting uterus transplants to make babies? What does it mean to be a man? Seriously, define man to me. Men have always been the bread winners. That’s how it has been since the dawn of mankind, and it has worked fine so far. It is the natural order of things. It’s not something to be messed with, just because some feminists with penis envy can’t take a leak whilst standing.

Him packing lunch and changing soiled diapers on his kids while his wife is out there making a living, putting the food on the table. It might seem cute to you. To me its disturbing beyond words. Is that the modern day man?

I have no problem with men making lunch for their wives, or any of that touchy feely crap. They should be out there making an effort. Get 2 jobs, or 3 if they have to. Pride is a dying virtue among men these days. Pride, the single word that describes what being a man is all about. What we are witnessing is the gradual castration of the male-kind.

There is this line from one of my favourite movies “1000 years from now there will be no guys and no girls, just wankers”

[ZareenKhan]

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@bebo

I don’t think by adding words like some and many you are unaccountable for you opinion. Why do you think women earning more turns them into "royal queen” as oppose to men.

I am only responsible for what i say not what you understand/make out of it :).

Anyways, to answer your question, I think that’s just how most women are, its perhaps in their psyche. The two main factors perhaps are;

#1 the fact that its not their duty to provide but they still are doing it adds to that attitude .

2 their love for competiting with the opposite sex perhaps pushes it further. it’s like hey, see i can do it better than you! :halo:

[kakee]

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lol
the crap that comes out of some of your heads is just too amusing.

I'm grateful that humanity doesn't think like the stupidity shown here. If it did we would be all dead.. starving because women wouldn't leave the house.

[X2]

Dinosaurs do go extinct eventually..

[Ezio]

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@firenze

you have courage and balls to say this on my face. but hey you are saying this online, good for you, you will live

[Ahmed_Fayyaz]

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I would not mind at all untill she dosent intentionally or unitentionally tell or show it to my yaar dost or riashtaydarr.

[Le_Pakistan]

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@kakee

lol the crap that comes out of some of your heads is just too amusing.

I'm grateful that humanity doesn't think like the stupidity shown here. If it did we would be all dead.. starving because women wouldn't leave the house.

That, my dearest kakee, is called: having different opinions.

Now the way somebody puts her/his opinion, is another story. As long as one doesnt make personal attacks, it should be all fine.

Unfortenutaley, there arent many people on this forum who can respect another opinion.

Disclaimer: I am not backing up for anyone nor is this about one specific person.

[kakee]

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That, my dearest kakee, is called: having different opinions.

Now the way somebody puts her/his opinion, is another story. As long as one doesnt make personal attacks, it should be all fine.

Unfortenutaley, there arent many people on this forum who can respect another opinion.

Disclaimer: I am not backing up for anyone nor is this about one specific person.

Certainly everybody should state their opinion and people can disagree with it too. I agree that people shouldn't get personal and threaten them just because they asked a simple question.

If they want to post in a personal topic they should at least expect that they will in return get a personal response.

[Amour]

I meant earning wise, even though she is doc, now it will be very hard for to catch up with me, I will be pleased if she does that. Good IT pro is not far off a doc anyway!

[bebo]

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@ZareenKhan

I am only responsible for what i say not what you understand/make out of it :).

Anyways, to answer your question, I think that’s just how most women are, its perhaps in their psyche. The two main factors perhaps are;

#1 the fact that its not their duty to provide but they still are doing it adds to that attitude .

2 their love for competiting with the opposite sex perhaps pushes it further. it’s like hey, see i can do it better than you! :halo:

I understood you post just fine hence the followup question.
You may think thats how most women are and its unfortunate if your experience makes you formate such opinion.But you must also know that indiviual experience with handful of women does not qualify for a sweeping statement regarding most women.

[redvelvet]

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@ZareenKhan

I am only responsible for what i say not what you understand/make out of it :).

Anyways, to answer your question, I think that’s just how most women are, its perhaps in their psyche. The two main factors perhaps are;

#1 the fact that its not their duty to provide but they still are doing it adds to that attitude .

2 their love for competiting with the opposite sex perhaps pushes it further. it’s like hey, see i can do it better than you! :halo:

Zareen, my intention is not to argue with you. I agree that it’s the husband’s duty to provide for his family and that he’s the head of the household…as outlined by Islam. I agree that managing even an odd job…let alone a career…will make it challenging to also juggle the responsibilities of a marriage/family. I’ve seen examples of working wives/mothers who, with the support of their husbands, are making it work…and those that are failing miserably…and heck I’ve even come across housewives who have left me wondering, “Gee, woman…what do you all day? You’re so clueless about your own kid…whom I teach, LOL.” And then circumstances may require that a wife work to help support her family. It could be argued that it’s solely the husband’s responsibility and that he can pick up several jobs…but that too can come at a price. For example, kids don’t see much of their dad…and I’ve seen how that can hurts kids. So maybe a couple decides that the wife will work …perhaps part-time…so that there will be extra income…but the kids get to see more of their parents…and both spouses have more time for each other as well. Things are not always so black and white…and that’s what makes it hard to determine a person’s intentions.

Sure, there ARE women out there with that overly competitive attitude and it can be problematic. I do agree, to an extent, that overstepping the gender boundaries/roles can mess up relationships. There is wisdom in that. But I don’t think that every working woman works to compete with men. When I read your point # 2…I thought to myself that even with my masters degree I make considerably less than most desi guys…so competition kaisa? There is none. Then again, being a teacher, there aren’t many guys in my profession, lol. I don’t have a negative attitude toward housewives…my mom is one…and I’d be lucky if I can even manage half of what she does. And personally, for me…my marriage/family would take precedence. But it’s not necessary that a woman is working to compete with the opposite gender/her husband. She could be doing it because there’s a genuine interest/passion…and for the good of society, etc. The source of contention here is that you’re lumping every one in the same category and not taking into account the exceptions. Again, I’m not attacking you.

[bebo]

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I don’t get the notion that if a woman is earning and holds a high position she somehow has a desire stick it to opposite sex. In professional world everyone strive for excellence and works hard to achieve high goal. So why demonize women for achieving success?
Societal concepts (read gender roles) are always fluid and they change with time. It is the fault of individuals who fail to recognize the changing times and whine about how things are “suppose" to be.

[bebo]

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That's sad.

Where do we draw the line with this equality bull****? Where does it end? Men getting uterus transplants to make babies? What does it mean to be a man? Seriously, define man to me. Men have always been the bread winners. That's how it has been since the dawn of mankind, and it has worked fine so far. It is the natural order of things. It's not something to be messed with, just because some feminists with penis envy can't take a leak whilst standing.

Him packing lunch and changing soiled diapers on his kids while his wife is out there making a living, putting the food on the table. It might seem cute to you. To me its disturbing beyond words. Is that the modern day man?

I have no problem with men making lunch for their wives, or any of that touchy feely crap. They should be out there making an effort. Get 2 jobs, or 3 if they have to. Pride is a dying virtue among men these days. Pride, the single word that describes what being a man is all about. What we are witnessing is the gradual castration of the male-kind.

There is this line from one of my favourite movies "1000 years from now there will be no guys and no girls, just wankers"

Sad indeed!!

[Reha]

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@ZareenKhan

I am only responsible for what i say not what you understand/make out of it :).

Anyways, to answer your question, I think that’s just how **most **women are, its perhaps in their psyche. The two main factors perhaps are;

#1 the fact that its not their duty to provide but they still are doing it adds to that attitude .

2 their love for competiting with the opposite sex perhaps pushes it further. it’s like hey, see i can do it better than you! :halo:

I haven’t met a single woman who is that competitive and strives to do anything better than a man.

The only thing I can come up with is maybe this is the norm for **MOST **women in your social or immediate circle? Or maybe its becoming common for **most **women in Pakistan? This weird need to compete with any living thing?

[kakee]

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I'm confused I thought this was 2012 and not 1952...

if I had a high paying job thats more than my husband I'm supposed to feel ashamed of myself? and why shouldn't I be competitive in my own field? are only men allowed to be competitive?
does it matter if I am female to deserve the same salary as my opposite sex?

[ABC1111]

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@Reha

I haven’t met a single woman who is that competitive and strives to do anything better than a man.

Meet kakee

@kakee

I’m confused I thought this was 2012 and not 1952…

if I had a high paying job thats more than my husband I’m supposed to feel ashamed of myself? and why shouldn’t I be competitive in my own field? are only men allowed to be competitive?
does it matter if I am female to deserve the same salary as my opposite sex?

[kakee]

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I'm just trying to understand what some of the posters here are saying.

and I don't see anything wrong with competing because with competition there is determination and people (regardless of gender) try and succeed to be the best.

I don't know if I'm competitive.. I do what I want to do and wear what I like. If I wanted a high paying job I wouldn't be a teacher