Divorced People

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Based on your posts on virgins ( in some other threads as this virgin topic has been discussed to death on gs) , your mentality certainly seems to scream that you think virgin people are somehow diseased & virgins should not marry virgins.

Lol… why on this God’s green earth virgins should not marry virgins, provide 3 solid reasons?

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You can't seem to come back with any constructive posts, without parroting someone else's words, so I don't see how anything any of us say will get through.

I never said a "virgin" should NOT marry a "virgin"..but the point is that YOU don't get to decide who SHOULD marry who.

YOU marry who YOU want to marry, doesn't make YOU any worse or better than anyone else. If someone else marries a never-married/divorced person, why does that bug you?

Besides this whole argument started when a guy WANTED to marry a divorcee but was facing resistance from his family.....and there came the "divorced ppl should stic with thier own kind!"

The whole point then was, if two ppl like each other, that's their right to get married...divorced/never-married in this situation is their business.....not YOURS.

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^^Sara’s not saying they shouldn’t..

She’s saying it’s up to them who they want to marry.. virgin or non-virgin..

It’s you who’s being rigid and saying ‘stick to your own kind.’

Why does it bother you so much what other people want or don’t want :confused:

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Sorry but the red part is very judgmental thought process. Everyone is entitled for marrying anyone who is found compatible and likeable.

No rules should be applied for making any 'kind' preferred.

No one so far has said virgins are somehow diseased.

No one has to give three reasons for you to get married to a virgin.

It is YOU who is making yourself a rule of not marrying a virgin, no one is forcing you there to do the contrary.

Feel free to marry a divorced/previously married person. More power to you.

But your preference is your preference, not a general rule. Some people even though previously married can prefer virgins or vice versa.

It is YOU who showed negative thougts and being judgmental again for your cousin's brother. Not a good mindset. Let people marry whomever they like to marry.

Again, no rules should be made. It is all about different hierarchies of compatibilities and likings.

No idea about any other thread you mentioned, but by all means virgins are free to marry virgins. If that is what they like and prefer.

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Why is everyone so worried about where the virgins go anyway.

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PCG when u find a guy and u open up to him about life1 and tell him ur username and let him read all ur posts and threads and feel u don't have to hide anything from him then know that he's the one, divorced or not :) ... how's that for a litmus test.

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what about a divorcee who's a virgin

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^ afsoos karne wali baath hai

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Do all marriages get consummated? Perhaps not.

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^ Sad.

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Maybe it's just me but I'm not taking virgin literally to mean virgin.... but a shorthand way of saying never-married (which is more accurate but whatevs)....because we all know a person can be a non virgin and never been married, and much much less common but still possible--married and still a virgin.

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In an arranged situation, it will never get past my parents.

It's another thing if I knew the guy personally. I would have to know him well enough to be sure that he is not a quitter (in a relationship) and generally not a difficult person to live with.

On a side note, divorced or not, I do have a problem if the guy has been intimately involved with anyone in the past. I have such a hard time letting go of that. So for his own well being perhaps it's best if I didn't give him a chance.

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First thing htat comes to mind--nikkah where rukhsati will take place several months/years later.

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why is divorce so looked down upon in our culture? sometimes life doesn't have any other answers but divorce. I have nothing but sympathy for people who are divorced.

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It is insane, when my parents were looking for my wife we came across a girl who had a divorce without rukhsati and they said no way.

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^ well that would be the equivalent of an engagement breaking, so what's the big deal.

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I agree, they said that she is not good because she broke a marriage already and it can happen to you.

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I like how it was assumed that she broke the marriage.

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Didn't you do the same in the other thread

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Yes.

Some people advice not to delay in marriage after engagement or not to delay rukhsati after marriage.