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Awwww…
…i am delighted at your concern for me…now you need to tell me why are you sorry??
I thought you would come up with something intelligent to say…but…
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TT has no concern for you, TT has concern for your future wife and children as do I. All your posts show is that you don’t have the capacity to be a decent husband or father. As I said many posts ago, dont get married you will only make your wifes life hell and raise children that are as bitter and miserable as you. We don’t need anymore selfish people in this world.
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It’s your lack of respect for women. What I get from your posts is that you don’t like them.
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It's your lack of respect for women. What I get from your posts is that you don't like them.
Well neither do you. You like guys. But Nomi does like girls. That is very much true. He may not like guppans, but eh....who really does?
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in urdu…its just that her roman urdu is a bit different thats why it seems a bit difficult.
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Well neither do you. You like guys. But Nomi does like girls. That is very much true. He may not like guppans, but eh....who really does?
ouch. low blow CM.
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oh…i was waiting for u to pop in…
I love you sarab…i really do 
… why so much hate…
oh you can guess capacity to be a husband or father from posts??
…you got some magical powers woman!!..tell me a bit more about myself … i want to hear some more…
you get things from my posts :jano:…would u please care to point out any posts in which i disrespected women?? don’t run away now…ok?
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cool down guys :khums:
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4 months hogay han hamari shadi ko....ar nikha ko ak saal... nikha k bad mje pata chala tha k mera husband bht gusay wala hy ,ussay choti choti baton par gusa ata hy..wo balochi ar mai punjabi hun...bt we both live in dubai...his way of living is like arabic bt thinking is like balochi...aurat paon ki joti hay etc etc...... nikha k bad mai yhi sochti rahi k jab shadi hojaygi wo thik hojayga.....wo mje us time ghumnay k liy lay kar jata tha jissy meri mom acha nai smjhti thi bt wo mera husband tha so wo ussy kuch nai keh skti thi....mai uskay liy mom se lar kar uskay sath jati thi....it was arrange marriage bt pir love ho chuka tha.... dan ahista ahista uska gusa ar bad behaviour mjh par kholnay laga....jissy us time mai chup kar k sun lyti thi....ar bad mai wo maffiii mang lyta tha.... pir shadi ho gai....ar honeymoon par chalay gay wahan kabhi kisi bat par dant dyta to kabhi kisi bat par insult coz i guess ussay pyar ki zuban ati hi nai.... wapis akar hum sahi rahay wo mje bahir b ly kar jata tha ar mom k ghar b ak raat rehnay dyta tha...coz har week wo weekend par suba tak bahir hota hy isliy mje wo mom k ghar chor dyta tha.... pir inkay ghar mai hi ak jhagra hoa,jis mai is nay meri side li...mje yh ehsas hogaya k yh apnay gharwalon k samnay mje bht izzat dyta hay ar kamray mai insult abuses normal hy..... dan ak raat mai jab apnay ghar gai to isnay mje kaha k kal tum wapis ghar mai honi chahii warna wo 3 lafz kahonga to hmesha apnay ghar hi rehna... mje is ki yh bat bht buri lagi.....kyunki jab b laraii hoti to yh mje kehta k apnay kapray uthaoo ar nikal jao is ghar se........ mai ny apnay gharwalon ko bata dia....pir gharwalon ny is k abu se bbaat ki....to unhon nay smjhaya....lakin iski soi wahin atak gai k mai nay apnay gharwalon ko kyun bataya.... iski saza is nay mje yh di k kahin bahir lay kar nai jata ar mje mom se b milwanay nai lay kar jata.... hamari laraii hmesha is baat par hoti hay....k mje mama k ghar chordo ar wo kehta hy k nai...jab mera dil karyga tab hi lay kar jaonga...sirf 15 min ka rasta hy.... pehaly pehlay mai chup kar k sunti thi lakin ab mai behas karti hun k waja batoo...inti gandi gandi batein kehta hy k tum apnay ghar ............kya kuch kar k ati ho...... i think so im pregnant bt i dun want to b...coz iska rawaiya ar b bura hojayga...is tarah isko yh hoga k ab yh kuch nai karskti...... mai kya karon?mai bht buray tareekay se phas gai hun...meri mom nay pak jana hy for her operation ar mje ghar rehna hy unka ghar smbhalnay k liy ar yh mje kabhi janay nai dyga.... ar mom kehti hy k agr tum na aii to hmesha k liy mjse jaogi.... kya mje asay insaan k sath zindagi guzarni chahii ,.isi umeed par k kabhi to isko mera pyar nazar ayga...ar kabhi yh naram dil hoga....yan chor dun.... mom told insaaan apni adatein kabhi nai badal skta......
Sorry to say this but your Hubby sounds like a real kameena.
If i was in your place then i would have left him there and then and probably would have given him teen chaar sakht kisam ke chamaat.
agar usay tumhara apni ammi ke ghar jana nahi pasand (is liye ke woh tumhare saath zaida waqt guzarna chahta hai) tou woh yeh baat araam se bhi keh sakta hai ke like thora jana kam kardo kyon ke main chahta hoon ke hum zaida se zaida time saath main guzarain..zahir tumhare maa baap sabse pehle atay hain tum tou jaogi hi. agar bas awien hi rok raha hai tou usay koi haq nahi banta. tumhari marzi hai tum jitni martaba chahe apne parents ke ghar jaao.
sabse apna checkup karwa ke confirm karo ke pregnant ho bhi ya nahi takay is fikar se chutkara milay.
secondly thande dimagh se khud socho ke kya tum is mauhol main guzaara karna chahti ho.
insaan apni adaatain badal leta hai lekin ek dam se nahin. kuch loag jald badal lete hain aur kuch loag waqt guzar jane ke baad.
agar tum pregnant ho tou usay batao ho sakta hai woh theek ho jaye...lekin is intezaar main ke woh theek ho jaye ga hamesha intezaar mat karti rehna.
tumhare saas susar tumhare saath kaise hain?
mera mashwara yeh hai ke tum apni ammi ke ghar jaao unka ghar sambhalne. apne mian ko bata do saaf saaf ke tumhara jana zaroori hai chahe wo jo kuch bhi kahe. koi dhamki deta hai tou darro bilkul bhi nahi balke confidently agay se jawab do.
darasal tum hamesha se sab kuch bardasht karti ayi ho isi liye woh chaurr hogaya hai.
agar tumhare jane ke baad wo waqayi tumhe tallaq de deta hai tou bilkul bhi mat ghabrana na hi us ke samne kamzor parna...usko dikha dena ke you are not dying for him.
jab tak apni ammi ke ghar ho koi wazeefay etc aur duain (daroode tanjeena) karo inshallah allah koi behter hal nikal de ga. ameen
btw jab tum ne apni ammi ko bataya tou unhon ne kya kaha?
ek baat per i will emphasis ke yeh mat sochna ke "nahi main us se pyar karti hoon aur alag hone ka soch bhi nahi sakti..balke yeh sochna ke kya yeh takleef de pyaar hai ya sukoon wala"
all the best
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your every other thread is a complaint about women. you have called women useless in one thread and referred to them as b*tches in another. many more examples, i thought i point out recent ones to refresh your memory.
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^..you missed the context........selective reading is injurious you know..many women call other women useless and bches too....
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^..you missed the context........selective reading is injurious you know..many women call other women useless and bches too....
lol right i missed the context. I would post your words in context but I have derailed this thread too much already, so I'll quit for now.
Lol ur justifying your words based on words of women.
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thanks sara 
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Advise to OP:
Make up your mind, you want to save marriage or not. If not sure, try to save since it is still early and you two need time to understand each other.
Again do not incite him. No need to fight over going to your parents for now. Make sure your parents do not say a word to him and pretend nothing is bad for now. This way he will trust you more.
he's not a baby. he needs to take this like a "man", even if that includes inciting.
sana, be upfront and let him know you're an adult too and not an object to be controlled and abused. and your parents have every right to question him and let him know they are as capable as him.
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Ok serious post. Having a child in the picture isn’t going to change the man. That’s such a lie and a myth. If you take that risk, then be prepared to give the child a very messed up life. Like someone else said, confirm that you are pregnant. If you are willing to give this marriage a chance, and work through your problems, then bring a child into the picture. If you’re not…then you know what your option is, even though in UAE I have no idea how you would even go about it.
And next time, don’t sleep with the man 
Why do people still have sex, even unprotected sex when the other spouse is being horribly abusive? I don’t understand this
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this thread’s discussion is so funny:phati:.people being judgmental based on what they post here?You know half of you people dont even mean what you post? i dont want to believe people can be so retarded.
err i am sorry for whatever u are going through sanadubai=/
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lol right i missed the context. I would post your words in context but I have derailed this thread too much already, so I'll quit for now. Lol ur justifying your words based on words of women.
haaw haaye......i was just giving an example of 'context'.......blessed here called the husband as 'kameena'......now would u call blessed a man-hater??
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well we don’t know how it is in their house, we aren’t with the couple, but i think it’s b/c the recipient of the abuse forgives the other for the abuse and has tiny bit of hope that they will change so of course sex/loving is a part of marriage.
if the abuse continues she will start to hate him to the point of becoming numb at that point i don’t see how the two can have sex or feel anything for each other. at that stage, it’ too late, that’s why i think, if they can afford it, the marriage counselor could help them, a third totally unrelated, knowledgeable person can bring good change to the marriage and there is a slight chance that both can improve themselves for the sake of the marriage and make it stronger.
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A guy can, the same that a girl should be able to have a night with her firends, but all within limits. It would definitely not be ok if my partner dropped me off to sleep at my mom's house so he could have his fun.
Agree.. Also, it's a bit off that he can spend all night doing god knows what (esp if it's every weekend and if he's literally out all night and coming bk in the morning, not 'just' at 1/2am) yet he makes a huge deal about her just going to her own mum's house 15mins down the road..
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well we don't know how it is in their house, we aren't with the couple, but i think it's b/c the recipient of the abuse forgives the other for the abuse and has tiny bit of hope that they will change so of course sex/loving is a part of marriage.
if the abuse continues she will start to hate him to the point of becoming numb at that point i don't see how the two can have sex or feel anything for each other. at that stage, it' too late, that's why i think, if they can afford it, the marriage counselor could help them, a third totally unrelated, knowledgeable person can bring good change to the marriage and there is a slight chance that both can improve themselves for the sake of the marriage and make it stronger.
i'm not married, so maybe i don't get it. but if you're constantly physically and mentally abused by someone, how can you even think about having sex, the most intimate of things, with that person? i have heard time and time again where the guy treats her like absolute sh!t, but they still end up producing 3 kids. wtf? trying to reconcile things is one thing, but just laying there thinking it will help, doesn't. in the end, the woman doesn't gain anything, he's the one that wins. she just ends up having to take care of her offsprings, be essentially an outcast by being called a divorcee, while he marches on and 98% of the time finds someone else to sleep with legally.