I think its nice when your guy takes interests in your dress and i dont mean he should impose but alteast care for what you are going to wear etc. But i also know for most guys its boring, girly stuff.
Btw, did i mention that i didnt see my walima jora until two hours before the event? :D I had seen some pics of the color/kaam but that was about it. I was soo hopng it would fit me right and Allah knows that it fit me so well, like the tailor himself took my measurements (ofcourse he didnt, i was in the US and hte jora came from Pak).
I know wat u mean ira. I didnt mean it tht way.. my fiance says i cud put a paper bag on and put anyone to shame!:D lol... so yeah, he's into the wedding 100%... in fact he and i have started a journal tht we both fill in, a couple of times a week (his idea) :)
but i know wht u mean when some guys dont take too much interest in the wedding... lol, boys will be boys :)
YP, my fiance wants me in RED (eeek!) and so does my MIL-to-be, for the valima I want a light "watermelon" pink? But u never know, I go into shop with set idea's and come back with sumthing totally different! And the designers confuse u so much!
"dekho na red kitna suit karta hai tumhare complexion pe"- designer
"agar mein aao ki jagah hota toh yehi leyta"- designer
For my SIL’s wedding I flew out to Pakistan and my MIL had already selectedmy mehndi jora for me (unstiched). To my horror, she wore the same fabric salwar kamiz on the barat, to which my other SIl remarked people will say they took turns wearing teh same jora, the DIl on the mehndi and the MIL on the barat. Thank God I got mine stitched differently from her’s.
^^ gasp! acha? :p
I always envisioned red on baraat day. Valimay ka I just decided a few weeks ago:p lol
Thats cool though... no matter what color u wear, brides always shine :)
My Mil insisted I buy red for the wedding, and threw a fit over the maroon (very dark) Igot for the nikah, so red it was. I copied a Sana and Safinaz design for it though.
my mil made me wear a red (proper dulhan style) for my engagement...everyone after the mangni kept asking me why did i wear red? esp as i have to (family tradition) wear maroon on the shadi day...it was so embarrassing!
i dont understand why in laws let kapre be a issue, i mean esp women they shud understand that girls like to have their choice & rightly so, it is their day..but they jus dont get it, stupid people lol
^^ You are right.. I see that all the time... choti choti baat pay they throw fits.. Sigh, we need to really get over this crap i swear.
Its the bride's day damn it! Get over urselves!!
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my mil made me wear a red (proper dulhan style) for my engagement...everyone after the mangni kept asking me why did i wear red? esp as i have to (family tradition) wear maroon on the shadi day...it was so embarrassing!
i dont understand why in laws let kapre be a issue, i mean esp women they shud understand that girls like to have their choice & rightly so, it is their day..but they jus dont get it, stupid people lol
Wearing maroon is a tradition in your family? Really? damn.
You're right... clothes should be such a petty thing but people make such a big deal about it..
Did you mil ask your opinion about the Valima dress?
i guess its not too bad if your MIL does choose it, thats if she has good choice ofcourse. my mum and i bought my bhabis lengha and set and didnt let her see it till the day of the walima. was a bit of a risk but she abs loved it, sis in law was cool with it since my mum bought the most exquisite dresses for both of her engagements and her mehndi.
the other thing you have to consider is your MILs not gonna pick anything horrendous since shes on show on your walima day...
Yeah but at the same time...everyone has their own interpretation of what's good/ not good. Plus some girls can't stand not being involved. I know for myself that I would absolutely die of anxiety if I was kept in the dark. My MIL may have great taste but the thought of someone else having control over what you wear on one of the most important days of your life...that's not something every girl can swallow! And if you don't liek t...you'll always remember it and feel bad when you look at pictures.
In today's day and age in-laws should at least consult the bride.
Yeah but at the same time...everyone has their own interpretation of what's good/ not good. Plus some girls can't stand not being involved. I know for myself that I would absolutely die of anxiety if I was kept in the dark. My MIL may have great taste but the thought of someone else having control over what you wear on one of the most important days of your life...that's not something every girl can swallow! And if you don't liek t...you'll always remember it and feel bad when you look at pictures.
In today's day and age in-laws should at least consult the bride.
I completely agree. Nowadays you hardly hear of an instance where the bride was kept completely in the dark. I think its ridiculous. If you luck out the bride likes it, good for you, but I would no recommend taking that chance.
And most importantly, what really is the big deal in taking the bride with you when you shop for HER dress that SHE is going to wear on HER most important day? Its beyond my comprehension why some MILS insist on doing that even in today's day and age.