Desperate Housewives

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its green + there are fireworks

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My eyebrow is raised because the evidence does not suggest what you are saying.

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Right back at ya Khan :slight_smile:

Fine I’ll bite. You know why no one will reason with you like an adult? because in the past you’ve constantly whined about the big bad bahus who live alone as if you’re some bechari MIL who’s bahus have deserted you and has a major chip on her shoulder for God knows why.

Its okay to have opinions based on what you’ve observed in life, it’s another to constantly whine about them and bash others for their decisions when you’ve never even come close to making certain decisions…which is exactly what you do.

Btw, I wasn’t the only one who disagreed with you, so instead of resorting to namecalling like a child, why don’t you look at the response your post created…that’s what ‘adults’ do :slight_smile:

Dude are you like obsessed with me? I’ve never been mentioned so many times. I’m flattered.

LOL!

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Yes, women did raise 10 kids in the past. Heck, even my grandma had 8 kids. But then, did she have a choice? I wonder if anyone asked these women if they were really happy doing it? Instead of looking at these women as super-heroes, I actually feel sorry for them. Sorry that they didn’t get a chance to see life beyond the bedroom and kitchen.

Now on to the topic, I am married and very happy about it. But I have single friends who are very happy with their life too. It all comes down to what’s important for you - your independence or companionship.

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you are the one who is saying one should ask them and yet you are speculating about how they didnt get any chance and that too based on your own understanding/thinking/opinion

we are no one to say that they were miserable, oppressed etc.

the problem with us is that we are way too biased because of our so-called pride of independence - we don't realize that time was different than today, the norms were different, the culture was different you cannot and i repeat you cannot and must not apply your thinking and opinion of someone else

so as you said, you should have asked your grand mother, mom would you have preferred to not have so many kids and works and earned on your own etc. i bet she will not be able to give you an answer

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@LucyMay. That's where difference of perspective comes in. For me those women are indeed superwomen who were great home makers. Call it my being old school of thought or backward but that's my idea of a strong women. I am not against working women but i think a women's first and foremost priority has to be her home and if that is being neglected then she shouldnt work. And obviously i am nt talking about circumstances where the women can't afford to be a housewife due to financial constraints but it should be a preference.

Secondly. For you their life may look to be constrained within the home which though i dont agree with but maybe thats all some people need to lead a happy life? Nowadays we have all kinds of exposure to everything but would you say we are the happier lot? I doubt it.

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@LucyMay. That's where difference of perspective comes in. For me those women are indeed superwomen who were great home makers. Call it my being old school of thought or backward but that's my idea of a strong women. I am not against working women but i think a women's first and foremost priority has to be her home and if that is being neglected then she shouldnt work. And obviously i am nt talking about circumstances where the women can't afford to be a housewife due to financial constraints but it should be a preference.

Secondly. For you their life may look to be constrained within the home which though i dont agree with but maybe thats all some people need to lead a happy life? Nowadays we have all kinds of exposure to everything but would you say we are the happier lot? I doubt it.

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^@ZareenKhan

im confused, should i like both or just one in good enough?

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^ depends on however many dislikes you want from other girls :p lols.

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lol ... hmm ... lol ...

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ShahreyarKhan, ZareenKhan: My point exactly - just because women used to have 10 kids and looked after family and home doesn't mean they were happy. It could have been quite the opposite. They didn't have the luxury of choice.
And Zareen: yes, speaking for myself I am happy that I have the choice to decide how I want to lead my life and how many kids I want to have. I would never want to be in my grandmom's shoes!

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ZK - I'm sure your grandmother would have been married by your age. I suggest you request your parents to get you married asap so you can get on with being a great home maker.

I'm sure the men of GS will mourn though.

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Huh?

I will get married when i have to, why don't you mind your business or wait i mean your home since it clearly shows you have not been doing your job hence the mirchi :D.

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When you have to?

What mirchi? I am making a prudent suggestion based on your views - there is no point in delaying your marriage.

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I agree with the choice part. My grandmother got married at 12 with a person much more older than her (her first husband), I don't think she had a choice.

Now girls these days? They would reject a dozen rishtay before deciding on marriage.

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^ Is that a bad thing?

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thanks for your concern! now you may get back to your real job :)

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Is there anything wrong with that?

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Thanks. I actually have a real job too :)

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thanks so much for the information, just what i was looking for! :k: