Desis/Sex/Contraception

[Zalim_Wadera]

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@Impulse

sorry for using that word…I shouldnt generalise

by paindoo I mean some1 uneducated and the typical sexist type guys u see in the villages.

ps. I assume its easy to get hold of condoms in pak then ? is it only from pharmacies ? where do most ppl get contraceptives from ? its probably a taboo thing in pak right?

Linguistically, paindoo is the one who lives in a pind. Not all paindoos are uneducated and are sexist.
In villages, you wont find condoms so easily but in all towns and cities they are easily available. In the beginning I used to feel embarrassed when buying them but its okay now. (I’ ve stocked them)
I dont think its a taboo in a general sense but may be for some, yes.

[Sara516]

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I dont think the concept of condoms and waiting to have kids has reached my extended family yet. I slipped on a used condom that had been thrwon in the gully I wonder if they just think of them as balloons or something..

[Zalim_Wadera]

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@mAd_ScIeNtIsT

Condoms interfere with spontaneity, and apparently they change the physical feel of things.

Absolutely correct but you have got to be responsible of the cosequences. If you are prepared for a dozen, go ahead and enjoy the spontaniety and physical feel which is otherwise available for a span of 3-4 days in a month.

[PyariCgudia]

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If you are prepared for a dozen, go ahead

Ahem...

You forgot about the wife's health, the wife's psychological preparedness and willingness to raise a dozen, etc.

:)

[mAd_ScIeNtIsT]

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@PyariCgudia

Well okay, a guy who wants to save his spontaneity might think twice, because an unexpected baby is pretty spontaneous.

And yet there are ways to prevent pregnancies (or rather, seriously diminish the odds of pregnancy because Allah SWT can make 2 people have a baby if he wishes and no human intervention cans top that) that don’t prevent spontaneity.

Condoms means you have to plan for sex beforehand. You need to interrupt things once they get rolling to put them on etc.

Condoms make total sense where pregnancy need to be prevented but where STDs are involved.

Between 2 healthy people, I would prefer an alternative.

My theory is that a married couple’s sex life should be spontaneous, not meticulously preplanned or interrupted.

[Zalim_Wadera]

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Another option is ejaculating outside. I've heard many men depending on it successfully but to me it seems to be very difficult as it requires a lot of restraint and self control. Well, it surely is working for many, I personally know.

[PyariCgudia]

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maddie, and what alternative would that be?

[Zalim_Wadera]

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@PyariCgudia

If you are prepared for a dozen, go ahead

Ahem…

You forgot about the wife’s health, the wife’s psychological preparedness and willingness to raise a dozen, etc.

I used ‘you’ in a plural sense and by “prepared” I surely addressed both
If you marry at 16, you can have dozen (idiomatic dozen and not necessarily 12)by you turn 45 safely without any serious health hazard to female.

[Impulse]

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@PyariCgudia

If you are prepared for a dozen, go ahead

Ahem…

You forgot about the wife’s health, the wife’s psychological preparedness and willingness to raise a dozen, etc.

ur wrong there. in between having kids…if a woman breast feeds …thats a natural form of contraception…so women should definately breast feed…it has loads of benefits…including losing all the weight u have put on etc…

but how true is this? I mean how realiable? I heard a breast feeding woman cant get pregnant cuz its a natural contraceptive. can anyone comment on this ?

[PyariCgudia]

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What does my comment have to do with breastfeeding?

[Impulse]

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@mAd_ScIeNtIsT

And yet there are ways to prevent pregnancies (or rather, seriously diminish the odds of pregnancy because Allah SWT can make 2 people have a baby if he wishes and no human intervention cans top that) that don’t prevent spontaneity.

Condoms means you have to plan for sex beforehand. You need to interrupt things once they get rolling to put them on etc.

Condoms make total sense where pregnancy need to be prevented but where STDs are involved.

Between 2 healthy people, I would prefer an alternative.

My theory is that a married couple’s sex life should be spontaneous, not meticulously preplanned or interrupted.

I agree with u 100%

but then what would be the solution…if not the condom and no drugs ?

[mAd_ScIeNtIsT]

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@PyariCgudia

maddie, and what alternative would that be?

Like I mentioned, IUDs, pills, and a couple of other things such as those hormone rods that go under the skin and last for months, or contraceptive patches exist.

[Impulse]

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@PyariCgudia

What does my comment have to do with breastfeeding?

about the womans health and phsychological health etc…that wouldnt then be a problem .

[Impulse]

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@mAd_ScIeNtIsT

Like I mentioned, IUDs, pills, and a couple of other things such as those hormone rods that go under the skin and last for months, or contraceptive patches exist.

apart from hormones and pills…what other alternative is there?

Im a Pharmacist…but I hate drugs…and would only use them if I was in real pain…that I couldnt handle.

[Zalim_Wadera]

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@Impulse

ur wrong there. in between having kids…if a woman breast feeds …thats a natural form of contraception…so women should definately breast feed…it has loads of benefits…including losing all the weight u have put on etc…

but how true is this? I mean how realiable? I heard a breast feeding woman cant get pregnant cuz its a natural contraceptive. can anyone comment on this ?

I have heard that too but cant say anything for sure. I am not that experienced and am not trusting it all the way because I cant afford another child at the moment so while my baby is being motherfed I am still taking preventive measures to be on the safe side

[Sara516]

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@Zalim Wadera

Another option is ejaculating outside. I’ve heard many men depending on it successfully but to me it seems to be very difficult as it requires a lot of restraint and self control. Well, it surely is working for many, I personally know.

Preejaculate can still make you pregnant, or so I’ve read in Seventeen magazine.

[AQ]

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calm down people

take some morning after pill or somezing like zat :halo:

[Impulse]

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@Anwaar Qureshi

calm down people

take some morning after pill or somezing like zat :halo:

Anwaar, read the replies. :halo:…morning after pill is really dangerous and can only be used once every 6 months.

[Impulse]

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@Sara516

Preejaculate can still make you pregnant, or so I’ve read in Seventeen magazine.

true

[Zalim_Wadera]

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@Sara516

Preejaculate can still make you pregnant, or so I’ve read in Seventeen magazine.

Those who are doing it, say it doesnt. I am positive they are not lying to me. As I said it involves lots of restraint and timing so those who end up impregnating their spouse must be lacking in timing. 17 magazines that you have read should be of accidents of this method.