many times its been discussed what is the best form of contraception. just recently I was reading an article about it. but I want to know what desis would think is the best form of contraception.
today I was at a wedding and was talking to my cousin and another cousins wife about this (both of them are married). one of them is pregnant so we just got talking about that. anyways…one of them said the “combined pill”/morning after pill is the best. I said to her that the mornign after pill should not be used more than once every 6 months…I just found this out the other day…I was shocked…I thought that was the most common form…
anyways…we discussed the normal contraceptive pill taken regularly…and that has MANY side effects…eg. weight gain/spots/ABNORMAL hair growth and MANY more side effects. although this is probably the most popular form…considering all the side effects I would be really reluctant about using it.
one of them said she’d never have the coil. that didnt leave many choices…so I said to them “then what should some1 use then considering all that?” and then one of them said to me “condoms”…and I thought I heard her wrong…so I asked again and she said condoms is the best form…I didnt expect that reply from a desi for some reason…dunno why
that brought many questions to my head as usual (nothing new there :p)
I know that most couples dont want to have children straight after marriage…hence would they agree that condoms are the best form? how would desi guys feel about that? would they rather want their wife to use something or dont they mind?
one question always bugs me too…when exactly would the couple get a chance to discuss these things? on the night of the wedding? wouldnt that be too late ?
As far as I know, the morning after pill can have major side effects and cause serious damage if it is used on a regular basis. The whole point of it is for emergency situations. That is why they have the normal pill and other contraceptives which are supposed to be used more regularly.
A friend of mine was using the morning after pill all the time and it completely messed her up, psychologically and physically.
Anyway, I would think most couples discuss such issues before the wedding. At least, I would hope so … but I don’t know what people do in arranged marriage situations. Or, if the comfort level is just not there to discuss these things, I would think that the female should just take the initiative to research what contraceptions best suit her and start using it. As far as I know, the pill has to be taken a one or two months ahead before it actually starts to work and is effective.
here in UK, we arent allowed to supply the morning after pill to some1 more than once in any 6 month period…thats how dangerous it is.
the other normal pill has MAJOR side effects too. I mean weight gain…major hair growth on places u wouldnt normally have it…eg. face etc…and depression and spots etc…so I wouldnt want to use it.
my question is how would a desi guy feel if his wife asked him to use a condom? that would be the safest method…most natural …with no side effects…and hence healthy for both of them.
Morning after pill is only in emergency situations, like if hte condom breaks, or u forget to take ur pill, or god forbid, someone gets raped. Over here it’s getting harder and harder to get it prescribed coz some stupid pharmacists decide that their religious beliefs prevent someone else from getting the help they need, dumbasses. Also, many ppl assume that the morning after pill is the “abortion pill” which it is NOT, I dont know why they can’t distinguish btw the two.
Every desi I know who gets married gets pregnant on their valima One uncle said that a couple’s success lies in how many children they have, and how soon… Uh okay. In an arranged marriage situation, I dunno. I’ve heard some guys say that condoms are stupid and pointless… so uh yaeh okay..
yeah morning after pill is only in emergencies. if pharmacists dont want to supply the pill…they have to suggest an alternative place where the person can get it from…so its the same thing really.
true about majority of desis getting pregnant on the wedding night…but I think the couple should at lesat get to know each other better…spend some time alone together…without getting pregnant straight away and having one kid after the next. I wouldnt want to have a kid straight away…but if my husband does…then fair enough I will agree to it.
condoms are not stupid and pointless…but do desi guys have this mentality that they are?
Oh my GOD!!! Is that the quality of pharmacist education today?
At my school we were told at age 17 that the morning after pill is harmful and should only be taken in emergencies.
Afia, it’s a tablet that the woman takes within 24 of having unprotected sex. It delivered a massive dose of hormones that prevents a fertilised egg from being able to settle into the uterus lining. I believe it does this by seriously messing up the lining of the uterus … something that can lead to very serious health consequences.
With the conventional pill having over 99% chance of preventing pregnancy, I don’t see why anyone would want to take the morning after pill “just in case”.
As for the wedding night issue … I remember that a few hours before the rukhsati, a desi friend I know was given a little gift by his dad. I was helping my friend get all his stuff ready before the ceremony when he remembered the gift and opened it.
Turned out to be a packet of assorted sizes of condoms
so that means guys dont have any problems with using them? I mean they wouldnt want their wife to end up becoming fat…hairy/depressive etc…so they should use some protection instead right?
^ You would think that but desi guys can be total dkheads. They won’t go through the trouble of putting on a rubber and if wifey goes on pill and gains weight and becomes hairy/depressing, they look elsewhere
I think part of it is to do with level of education. Statisics have shown a directly correlation between being more educated and having less children. There is nothing to suggest that more educated people have less sex, rather the belief is that more educated people are generally more open to the idea of using contraception because they appreciate the benefit it brings, ie smaller, easier to support families at a time when you choose.
Personally, when I inshallah get married, my preferred mean of contraception would be for her to wear a coil. Condoms have their own problems, and I really do not like the idea of the pill because ongoing research still suggests that there is a chance it can be seriously problematic.
Anything that messes with hormones in the body is, frankly, risky. Theories keep popping up about small risks linking the pill with blood pressure problems and even cancer.
Until it's conclusively shown that the pill is either safe or dangerous, I'd prefer my wife to avoid it just in case.
very true. very often I hear desi women saying to me “i dont eat anything but still put on weight…” which is true…and the reason for it must be the pill then.
ive noticed girls who dont use any form of contraception and have one kid after the next and usually quiet slim…and most women dont understand why this is. its obvious then…that the pill is responsible.
but sara, I know wot u mean. some pakistani guys (especially the paindo type) can be total idiots and would want the wife to use the contraception …woteva it is…they dont even know about it…as long as they’re concerned as long as they get wot they want…they dont care about anything else.
i suggest that spending all your energies on education…more and more… one finds satisfaction in books instead of sex. my idea is that educated people tend to have less sex. or is that… taller people?
What’s even more amazing is that they give birth to healthy, full-length, goal-matool children 6-7 months after the valima. It boggles the mind how desis have even managed to bend human biology to their whims.
The coil is technically called a Intrauterine Device
An Intrauterine Device (IUD) is a small object that is inserted through the cervix and placed in the uterus to prevent pregnancy. A small string hangs down from the IUD into the upper part of the vagina. The IUD is not noticeable during intercourse. IUDs can last 1-10 years. They affect the movements of eggs and sperm to prevent fertilization. They also change the lining of the uterus and prevent implantation. IUDs are 99.2-99.9% effective as birth control. They do not protect against sexually transmitted infections, including HIV/AIDS.
Using condoms, I think, is not a big issue with men here in Pakistan. I for myself have been using it and would prefer using them instead of asking my spouse to take pills.
Ah yes IUD. I had a feeling that’s what you meant, i’ve just never heard the word “coil” being used. I read a lovely description of it in “NOt without my daughter!” 10th grade biology… brings back memories
Also, many ppl assume that the morning after pill is the “abortion pill” which it is NOT, I dont know why they can’t distinguish btw the two.
