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Xcuse me .. aunty ... this is year 2006 almost ...
y r u talking about ur Jawani mastani time ... :rolleyes;
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Oh my God mama of 3, I was just gonna start a thread like that myself, I am so sick of desi men( in general), most of them are so pathetic that you can't help but take pity on them and they have doodles for brains.
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so what makes desi men so pathetic? i see a lot of finger pointing without any proof. give us some examples ladies. so we can see who really has doodles for brains.
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^ agree, do tell your reasons.
All you girlies are married to desi men i think, and hatin them so much.
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I imagine the following personify a typical home in Pakistan
women generally housewives
men are controlling/demanding
women only ones compromising (and expected to)
mother-in-law is the ruler of the land
girl's mother doesn't have much of a say in her life anymore
girl's home isn't her home anymore.. her in-laws house is now her home
girl's don't have much of a say in rishtas/saying yes to marriage
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^^ 
very interesting point…
lajawab tum ne hum ko lajawab ker diaaa 
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Any man that lives by these assumptions/beliefs, desi or not, is
uneducated,
ignorant/stupid
and incapable of serving the wants, comforts and/or needs of the woman.
Dump him.
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^ What about the wants, needs of a man? or is it always about the women?
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If a man does not fulfill your needs and wants then wat right has he to have his needs and wants fulfilled? Im not against serving ur man, but it's not a one way street, it has to go both ways.
Even if he DOES less for her, as it would seem to the outside world, if she is genuinely happy and satisfied and feels her needs and wants are met then wats the problem?
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Mama jaan, and you think it's 'only' the men who think like this.
The women are the worst in dissing other housewives, moreso if they are working themselves.
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But men rule the world…
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^ Working women diss housewives for "wasting" their education and time and money to stay home and change diapers..
Housewives diss women who work for pleasure for being greedy and abandoning her family to make money.
Hell, working women who work out of necessity will diss women who work for pleasure. In the broader sense, it doesn't really matter if you work or not, you'll get criticized either way.
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it is my observation that women are the one who actually create problems.. BEFORE YOU GIRLS GO NUTS PLEASE READ ON
If you read posts in this thread you will notice that it is either MIL or SIL or WIFE that are mentioned as creating problem. And yes it is 75% of the time about power. just an observation
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And we rule the home 
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The degree of animus women have for each other is truly incredible. Working v/s stay-at-home moms; hijabis v/s non-hijabis; etc. However, nothing beats the ‘dissing’ between the femi-nazis v/s well-adjusted women.
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^ and for their own selfish greed and power trip, some of these women (read: NOT ALL 
) will attack the MILs, so that they can control their husbands.
When you read these screechfests, you sit back and wonder, do women go through some horrendous, psychological transformation from good docile wives into monstrous MILs?
farcial indeed. And then they expect you to take them seriously.
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^ THey get their revenge :D
My bechari ammi jee never got her revenge... :(
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Some good replies here! I just want to point out:
to those of you who are critisizing me for making "ignorant" generalities, well, I've met a good number of young-ish desi men and there seems to be a rather high percentage in this category who fit the description in my initial post. Please note that I also added NOT ALL DESI MEN - meaning that yes, there are any number of "Desi Men" who do NOT fall into my description. Just like you can say "Desis in general have dark hair"...or "Irish people in general love to tell stories and drink"...these are facts and generalities - NOT ignorant and random racist remarks! So I am sorry if my observation offended a couple of you, but thats all it was - an observation of what I have seen.
Desi men who fall into this category just baffle me and I was wondering how they got this way. Being raised in the US of A, the concept of hospitality has rules that are vastly different from the rules over there. You call way in advance, you state how long you'll stay, you are very concious of imposing if there are other considerations (ie., sick children, too many other guests etc) It does seem very "cold" but its the way of life here - no outside help at home, hubby works 10-12 hour days etc. So there really isnt time for all of this hospitality.
I dont know why we got into the age-old argument of working vs stay-at home moms again - the problem is more how desi men perceive the stay at home Moms. I am educated and well versed in finance, computers, child-rearing, infertility, placental pathology. I've had a very successful career. WHY should I have to beat people over the head to make them understand that although I've chosen to be home with my babies, I DO HAVE something upstairs????? When I'm asked about what I "do", my response has been "I stay home with my babies." Maybe I should start saying "Well, I'm a retired Trading Floor technology specialist, gave up my Wall Street career after I bought my house in (very posh town) to raise my children to be Ivy League scholars." Its so very sad that these days, a woman is made to feel embarrassed about being with her children or is made to feel like a servant if she does. ok now I pissed off again. grrrrrrrrrr!!
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Mama, if they think ur stupid for being a stay at home mom, just hit them over the head with your bailan :D
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unmarried girls can’t dare to badmouth desi men …cause they would burn out they chance to get one:D 
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