What are some of the traditions and rasams that people do on the day after wedding? I have seen some parents host nashta/brunch at their house for the couple and family members, some do the kheer khilane ki rasam. Is it even easy to wake up so early in the morning and get all dressed up all over again?
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Traditions? Really don't know about that... but I remember the next day it was lavish breakfast with all the guests.
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Day after wedding usually starts with Nashta..in some families they ask the girl to recite some Quran....
Yeah, again next day u have to dress up again--nice shalwaar camiz, trouser suit--party make up--wear churriyaan and some jewelery:)
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^gosh - you make it sound like you HAVE TO!!! 
… of course it would be nice if you want to look like a bride - then dress up a little more than the rest… otherwise you can still hang out in your sweat pants - ya know!
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My fiance's family does the following:
Well this is not really the day after the wedding but on the rukhsati night they usually invite the couple back to the groom's parent's home and the ENTIRE family is there (mom, dad, sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, cousins). I already know I'm going to be too tired for this!
My fiance also mentioned that they would also want to do a brunch thing the morning after the valima.
I hate to be a party pooper, but to be honest, I think these rasms are a bit much especially if they are the day right after the wedding. Why can't the couple just be left in peace to sleep in? There will be so many other days where they can go over for nashta...I'm not sure why it has to be the day right after the wedding.
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^I know what you mean. At all the weddings in our family, most of the relatives are from out of town so it's a must to have a brunch/nashta in the morning so everyone can get together before people start leaving for airport/home. I am thinking about how tiring it must be for the couple to wake up early and for the bride to dress up all over again.
lol
think im one of the weirdos who actually adores dressing up:)
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^I know what you mean. At all the weddings in our family, most of the relatives are from out of town so it's a must to have a brunch/nashta in the morning so everyone can get together before people start leaving for airport/home. I am thinking about how tiring it must be for the couple to wake up early and for the bride to dress up all over again.
Dressing up as if u are going to a dinner party IMO....then again its personal preference. I wore a lime kundan kaam suit, but make up in earthy tones. As for jewelery; had churriyaan, a locket, and small earrings:)
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i think even though couple may be tired, the adrenaline and buss will still be there so maybe the bride willm love getting up and dressed
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NJ, it differs from family to family. It's not that in every family you HAVE to dress up.. but in some you do. If your family is hosting a nashta or get together for you, you cannot show up in jeans or sweats.. just like you wouldn't at any other normal dawat anyway.
BR- That sounds adorable. From what I have seen so far, brides dress up the morning after and look so pretty.. especially with the certain glow they have.
^I know what you mean. At all the weddings in our family, most of the relatives are from out of town so it's a must to have a brunch/nashta in the morning so everyone can get together before people start leaving for airport/home. I am thinking about how tiring it must be for the couple to wake up early and for the bride to dress up all over again.
you know ur right, it may be so tiring and all..
but its one of thsoe things that later on, u wont really remember feeling tired, but rather the company, the dressing up, moments with ur husband etc. ull look back with fond memories.
lol
think im one of the weirdos who actually adores dressing up:):):)
heh same here. I love dressing up (still do!)
we didnt really have a morning-after breakfast, my brother in law came with my parents, they dropped off a home-made bfast and my valima stuff.. my dad gave us a loooooong lecture and they left.
Another "rasam" is teh chauthi or muklawa... its the 4th day, i think thats when the couple goes back to the bride's home and later on the guys' family comes over for dinner when they go back to her "new" home. at least that's what I think it is......
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The day after my wedding I wore a reddish-maroon silk shalwar kameez that had antique gold embroidery on the neck and sleeves only. I wanted it to be comfortable specially since we were taking an early flight to isb. No one had bfast cuz everyone was in a hurry to get to the airport.
Otherwise we also have the whole nashta/brunch tradition in our family too. But the day after is definitely very tiring!
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you know ur right, it may be so tiring and all..
but its one of thsoe things that later on, u wont really remember feeling tired, but rather the company, the dressing up, moments with ur husband etc. ull look back with fond memories.
I agree with sara516. You will not wake up tired at all, infact you will look forward to waking up and dressing up, and basically being with your husband for the first time as a married couple. It really feels very good. And I think all girls like to dress up anyways, and it's just a diff feel/ motivation to do it when you're now being presented as your husband's wife (if that makes sense..)
In our family, it always happens with the cousins/siblings and one or 2 younger khalas (or phupos or maamus - the fun aunt n uncles) bringing nashta. Later, after we all had brkfast/ brunch, I changed yet again and went to mom's place to see my parents and other uncles/aunts who were gathered. Great memories. It all just goes away sooo fast... :(
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i got married in the peak of a horribly hot Lahori summer, so the next day, in the afternoon, i wore a nicely tailored lawn suit when i went home (ofcourse i got a hard time from the family elders, but i justified that i did not want to be sweating in my kaam walay joray). thankfully, everyone at home was relaxed. we spent the day with everyone at home, had a mid-afternoon bday party for one of my fave khalas, then later, got all decked up for a huge family dinner we were all doing out together.
this probably belongs in the bad designers experience wala thread, but i should mention that we would have gone home earlier in the day had HSY not screwed up my bari order (they had delayed my outfits by over a month-- even though i ordered them well in advance-- so their rep was supposed to drop them off at the hotel. i waited for over two hours, could not say goodbye to two khalas who were leaving in the morning and she was a no-show).
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Day after my wedding we came home from hotel (Avari where we stayed for 5 nights after our wedding and had our wedding reception there as well) at about noon. I was dressed in a simple pistachio green chiffon salwar suits with kamdani on the dupatta. My sister in laws were shocked to see me dressed so simply with no jewelry excepts studs in my ear. They forced me to change into a marron and pink suits with light embroidery and matching jewelry. We had a lavish lunch after wards and then I came to my mom's place and had a dinner there with my brothers and sisters
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We had a brunch and I had to wake up at 9AM - GROAN! - but it was a lot of fun and it was great to speak to our family informally and just have a chat.
I wore a lengha, set, churriya etc. Even got my hair did. To be honest, it was actually fun to be able to dress up one up last time.
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awww i know it'll be hard getting up and i'll be soo tired but i'm looking forward to the brunch the day after the wedding insha'Allah! It'll also be nice b/c i don't know when else my entire family will be together!
we didnt do the nashta thing - we live 40 mins away - but we had the walima the next day so had to get up early. We were in a hotel so checked out at 12pm
@ the loooooong lecture 
.. my dad gave us a loooooong lecture and they left.
....
What was the lecture about?