I was wondering, is dancing at weddings in your family compulsory?
I mean in my weddings, it doesn't happen much, not that we are super religious but I wish it happened more, like proper choreographed kinda dancing to some song and whatnot , and it happens but very rarely, say there are 5 weddings, only 1-2 might actually have dancing, and that's from my side of the family, if the wedding is between the same family, it wont have dancing
and I'm from Lahore so all the weddings are there, considering its Lahore, you would think they would DEF. have dancing...but nope :(
It's not compulsory to dance in my family but it has become a tradition so practically everyone dances from my grandparents to my youngest cousins. It's a lot of fun!
We normally have dancing at our Lahori weddings, in the old days we were told that our mamu's would cut our legs off if we danced at the mehndi's, now that they have married and their daughters are growing up - they're bloody well dancing with their kids... :) Nothing wrong with it, but I know I couldn't cos I'm too embarrased and can't bust any decent moves with my ma n' pa watching :)
Nope. some families are more conservative and others like to have fun while others are just boring as hell.
agreed, the conservative families really don't like it, something about class and all that jazz. I love to watch choreographed mehndi dances, espcially when the youngsters know ALL THE MOVES to the bollywood songs!
*I'm all for families doing what they want to do and what's in their comfort level, but I just wonder how some girls are able to dance so freely with their fathers and uncles around. *shrugs I know alot of times at weddings they will kick guys out so that women can dance freely but that also has its many flaws. **
Weddings in our family would be considered incomplete without any dances... we always have tons of dances on mehndi, usually a number of nicely choreographed dances and then an open dance floor towards the end, where literally everyone comes in! It's a lot of fun!
We're four girls and we love to dance. We dont have mixed dance parties or anything...our functions are usually ladies only. For the last wedding, my sisters and I put together this choreographed dance that was such a hit we were asked to do it again. It was so cute and we used dandiyan too.
I guess it just depends. On my mehndi, Im having dancing because its all girls, I get to dance with my sisters, dhol, etc. On the wedding, Ive got a completely different program set up so there might not be a need for dancing. We're having live singing but these are performers. We're also doing speeches, skits and a slideshow. My BILs are family comedians so I think we'll be okay. Might not do all of those things but its nice to have some entertainment on the reception so the party doesnt seem so dull. Dancing isnt the only thing that can make it fun, kwim?
Dnace in Wedding ... I think it dosent looks decent .... just a cheap joy style .. I really hate .... yes on my wedding I will not allow it ... no matter if no one will participate ..... ok
...I hate to relate it with the conservative or non conservative family ...it is a cheap way of thinking
I agree Little Angel - weddings in our family are incomplete without dancing - I have loads of female cousins from Mums side from Ghazi who love to dance with songs and the Dhol and for my sisters wedding we danced with the dhol - it was soo much fun! The only thing we dont really do is dance with the men - altough my sis & her hubby will prob dance together at my wedding!
this question is for the girls who had dancing at their wedding...did u girls dance at ur mehndi??? were ur inlaws ok with that? did u dance a lot or a little?
n if ur inlaws were on the conservative side how did u deal with that?
sorry for asking more question...i was planning to start a new question on this topic but since we already have this question going i thgt i could just add my question too.
this question is for the girls who had dancing at their wedding...did u girls dance at ur mehndi??? were ur inlaws ok with that? did u dance a lot or a little?
n if ur inlaws were on the conservative side how did u deal with that?
sorry for asking more question...i was planning to start a new question on this topic but since we already have this question going i thgt i could just add my question too.
You only get married once (inshallah) so my take is to meet the religious in-laws mid way and dance a little but later on be the proper bride they want you to be and have a seat and enjoy other's dancing.