Is anyone here married to there cousin, 1st or 2nd. I just want to see if this is still a trend amongst our generation of overseas/foreign born Pakistanis.
I read that they can suffer from higher rates of disease etc.
Thanks,
L
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Is anyone here married to there cousin, 1st or 2nd. I just want to see if this is still a trend amongst our generation of overseas/foreign born Pakistanis.
I read that they can suffer from higher rates of disease etc.
Thanks,
L
Many in my family are cousin-cousin married, haven't seen a single child yet with a disease (physically/mentally).
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I wouldn't mind marrying my cousins in Pak but the ones who I grew up with in the UK feel like sisters.
Nobody in my immediate family has had a cousin marriage, most my cousins are married to people outside our ethnicity.
The negative effects have been proven to be overtly exaggerated, it's only dangerous if your family is known to have serious diseases and you carry on intermarrying generation after generation after generation...
There's lots of South Indian cummunities who only do cousin marriages, the European royal families only married their cousins till lately.
I don't think there's anything wrong with it if the couple are happy, having said that, there's a lot of Pakis who think cousin marriage is the only way just because Islam did not forbid it!!! Islam might allow cousin marriages but it doesn't exactly encourage them, out of all the Prophet's PBUH wives only one was his cousin and that was after the marriage he arranged for her with someone else didn't work out. Muslims are encouraged to marry outside their families.
It's really sad when Pakis only marry their cousins because of caste bigotry or to keep wealth in the family.
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well i heard dat if u get married to a cousin den dere is a porblem wiv kidzz...like dey r born abnormal or da female has lots ov chances ov havin a miscarriage n even i ve seen it in ma family...miscarriages n abnormal kid!....so I kind ov believe in it n i'll probably not marry any ov ma cousinz!!
Lets c wht happens!
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Like I said problems like that only arise if you've been doing it for a very long time, like if your great-great-grandparents were cousins, so were your great-grandparents, grandparents and parents...
It also depends on if you have a hereditory disease in your genes or not, you'll be more likely to get it if you inherit it from both sides.
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hmm may be
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Can you refrain from using text speak. Thanks.
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well i heard dat if u get married to a cousin den dere is a porblem wiv kidzz...like dey r born abnormal or da female has lots ov chances ov havin a miscarriage n even i ve seen it in ma family...miscarriages n abnormal kid!....so I kind ov believe in it n i'll probably not marry any ov ma cousinz!! Lets c wht happens!
miscarriage have nothing to do with cousin marriages, I have seen miscarriages in couples who are not related perhaps even by 6-degrees.
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marrying a cuzin is not similar to DDT. so the idea of diseases is just a bogus idea. no validitiy of it exist.
in fact any one may even give the reference from Quran that first right is of their kin when marrying.
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Does that seal the deal?
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I think its not appropriate to marry cousins - for 2 reasons (moral & medical)
One they have almost grown up together as brothers & sisters.
Second- heriditiary(sp) deases would have a bigger change of remaining in the genes of the ofsprings of such couples.
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It totally depends on how you've been brought up. My brother wasnt even born here..and he still didnt feel like marrying a cousin because he considered them his sisters. It's all about how one look's at his/her cousins and if they're ready to marry them .
I have seen birth problems in people who are and are not cousins. It just depends on the family and if the couple both carry a certain disease. Also the chances of having a problem with the offspring is not so big..i read somewhere that marrying a cousin increased the chances by 6% ..but that could be a great risk for some i guess.
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american media has made an evil out of cousin marriages but there is nothing wrong with that islamically or cultural wise, infact many cultures around the world prefer cousin marriages.
As far as medical reasons are concerned, that can only occur if a cousin couple has inharited a bad gene from their ancestors (there are many reports out there that concur with that). In my family there are many cousin marriages and thankfully we've yet to see anyone have any mentally challenged or abnormal kid.
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:aq: i don’t think it says the first right is there, i think it says more along the lines of it’s permissible, but it’s prefered to marry outside of family.
first cousin marriages do certainly increase the chances of the offspring either inheriting or having genetic abnormalites. the more you intermarry, the greater the chances. if there exists some kind of problem in the family, which isn’t necessarily inherited, if cousin marriages occur then it’s highly likely that the offspring will inherit too.
as for miscarriages, they occur in every kind of relationship. it’s nature’s abortion, can happen for whatever reason.
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Many in my family
my mom and dad are first cousins and as a result we all sibling have eyesight problem(focal problem)
or may be its due to excess of time i spend infront of computer:bummer:
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We are all descendants of cousin marriage and there is no solid study or stat that proves children from cousin marriages have higher birth defects than other.
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We have ahrdly any cousin marriages in our family actually i dont knw that many ppl who have cousin marriages in their family, but most of the 1's i knw the kidz are fine alhumdullilah
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I think its not appropriate to marry cousins - for 2 reasons (moral & medical)
One they have almost grown up together as brothers & sisters.
So what if both cousins have grown up in different areas/regions and saw each other rarely, is it still immoral?
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Second- heriditiary(sp) deases would have a bigger change of remaining in the genes of the ofsprings of such couples.
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Please bring some proof regarding the fact you just stated, I have never seen or heard of any abnormalities in kids born in result of cousin marriages. The western culture have made this issue a taboo, it is fairly normal and healthy.
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So what if both cousins have grown up in different areas/regions and saw each other rarely, is it still immoral?
Please bring some proof regarding the fact you just stated, I have never seen or heard of any abnormalities in kids born in result of cousin marriages. The western culture have made this issue a taboo, it is fairly normal and healthy.
Uh it's well known. You might want to do a simple Google search, but I'm sure incest is your cup of tea so you'll close your eyes and shut your ears to the problem.
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oh no. it really means u must not think that its gunnah to marry in the family. i mean look in the family first. if u like some one then its ok otherwise go out side.
we do have prime example of Prophet Muhammad’s (PBUH) own daughter Hazrat Fatima who married to Hazrat Ali (RA)
but this concern dealing with genetic abnormalites, have no validity in senario of cuzin marriage.