zobia i think you’re confusing the distribution of zakat with marriages. as far as i know, it is look inside your family first when you are distributing zakat, and then in your community, and then you widen the circle. concerning marriages, it is look outside your family and tribe and biradari etc etc, and if you are not successful, then you are to look in your own family to find a suitable match.
i mean look at the prophet’s own circle. his own marriages and the marriages of his own daughters took place outside of the family, but to show that there is nothing wrong with marrying inside the family, he gave his daughter to HIS cousin.
as for genetic abnormalities, i’ve seen many children who are affected by continous intermarriages, or who have certain ailments that they probably wouldn’t have gotten if their parents hadn’t been first cousins.
Marrying cousin is not a bad idea- infact its better because the child would be carrying almost the same genes and husband-wife will have better understanding of each other since they come from the same racial stock- In my family if someone is about to get married, they first look for rishta within the same family, then extended family, then the sub-caste and then the caste(rajput).
My dads nephew married his cousin. However, he recently had a car accident.... had a broken leg....and currently has kidney failure. I hope he will be ok becuz alot of my cousins have been worried about it.
Its a little more simpler then marrying a regular, non related person.... like u met or something. Cousinz marriages are good though and so are far relatives as well..
Cousin Marriage is a convenient way in Pakistan to keep the wealth within the family and the families know the character of the girl or guy who they are gonna get married too that she will take care of family
Cousin Marriage is a convenient way in Pakistan to keep the wealth within the family and the families know the character of the girl or guy who they are gonna get married too that she will take care of family
Uh it's well known. You might want to do a simple Google search, but I'm sure incest is your cup of tea so you'll close your eyes and shut your ears to the problem.
How does incest relate to marrying cousins? I took your advice and did research on google but no solid proof supporting your theory.
There have been quite a few cousin marriages in our family not only in previous generations, but also in my generation. For example the son of my elder Phuppo is married to the daughter of my younger Phuppo. My parents are also first cousins.
I married outside the family, but I don't think cousin marriages are wrong. If they were, then Islam wouldn't have permitted them.
nothing wrong with cousin marriages , only a few in my family bt we tend to look for rishtas in d family first then go out. and the point of looking like each other kids tend to look like deyre parents and families anyways even if u marry some one from outside,
but i agree it depends on hw u hve been brought up with ur cousins , i mean some cousins i hve grown up with and would never marry.
Your question seems to be geared more to the issue of whether cousin-marriage causes more birth defects or miscarriage. This can only be answered on a case-by-case basis by a genetic counsellor who interviews both parties. It depends on how much intermarriage has taken place within the family, what genetic diseases may be involved, whether they are dominant or recessive etc etc. If you are concerned about a potential partner who is related to you (heck, even if NOT related to you!) then see a genetic counsellor.
Cousin marriages increase the chance of passing on inherited diseases...
Take the case of the Russian royal family.
The descended from Queen victoria of England. Queen victoria was a carrier of of the haemophilia gene. Some say she was the first in the family to carry it (mutation). Her daughters were carriers etc.
Had the royal family not married within the family, carriers of the disorder wouldnt have passed it on to their kids.. But since they married cousins etc, eventually full blown Haemophilia arrose in the male descendants such as the son of the Russian Czar.
So there is is definently an increase chance of unwittingly passing on recessive disorders that would otherwise be filtered out of the gene pool. I think its important to inform your doctor so they can take whatever precautions neccesary. But unless you have a history of autosomal disorders in the family, the risk while higher then other populations, isnt that significant.
I know FDR married a distant relative. 5 times removed was Elenor Roosevelt. Does that having any bearing on it.
I personally feel its probably best not to marry within the family, certainly not within cousins placed 1 to 3 times removed, after that you're not really related, if you have to go 4 generations back for the common ancestor.
This is an interesting debate. I accept that Al Islam allows it, but it also allows (encourages?) marrying outside the family.
Inside, outside...the thing that matters the most is to marry a spouse who you will enjoy a lifetime of partnership with. Risks come with every pregnancy...there are no guarantees no matter WHO you marry or how far removed they are from your family line. Love who you marry and love the children that you have...
its wise to seek counsel of specialists like genetic counsellors...they can give much info and let you know what you may be "in for". but try to remember there arent any guarantees here either....I mean you can get a clean bill from a gen. counsellor yet have a child with autism etc. There are SO many disabilities that are not uncovered during pregnancy yet there are so many children that are born perfect. You have to be willing and loving enough to accept whatever child God/Allah chooses you to have.
Marrying cousin is not a bad idea- infact its better because the child would be carrying almost the same genes and husband-wife will have better understanding of each other since they come from the same racial stock- In my family if someone is about to get married, they first look for rishta within the same family, then extended family, then the sub-caste and then the caste(rajput).
tells how "Islamic" your family is ;), I wonder which Islam you got from Ziaul Haq
i know of some aunties/uncles who haev married thier cousins...and their children are not abnormal...infact i know a couple who arent even cousins and their daughter is abnormal...sumthin to think abt.
