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what about people who got rich between post 1 and post 100 of this thread? someone bought a “rollys” royce, learnt how to trapeze dance, etc. thats voodoo and will not be allowed. 
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i disagree, saying give me cash instead of a gift is ok. You give what your comfortable giving. If you cant afford to give $100 or $200. Fine, give a macy’s amazon gift card for $40.
what your saying is like, going to a 8 year old’s girl birthday party, and giving her a mechanic’s tool box. The girl will have absolutely no use for it, might as well give her some cash where she can either save, or buy something.
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Someone with a rolls royce is probably very wealthy. let them spend as they may.
Would you get annoyed with a rich person having a mansion or a penthouse? You can’t blame someone for wanting better things if they can afford it.
THere is a saying, more Ghur in the chawwal makes it sweeter. Ive been to expensive weddings and low budget weddings. You can see the difference in everything.
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I kind of agree with the no boxed gifts. What if people just give like cheap tacky gifts? Why shouldn't the couple say fine just give us cash? If people are actually buying gifts, they will probably spend like 200 on a gift, might as well give 200 cash instead. The couple can buy something they want.
Im going to disagree with alot of people here. I think if you have the money, and your financially stable, go ahead and enjoy your day. Its like going on vacation, you can go to hawaii or europe, OR you can go on a cruise for $600. its what ur comfortable with spending. I personally think, most people only get a wedding once. If you can afford it and if you WANT to, go ahead. Only thing I completely disagree with is going into debt for a wedding.
Americans spend as well, Its just the way they choose to spend is different. They will spend 20k on a diamond ring. They will almost always go on a honeymoon and have a bachlor party/have an open bar and a photo booth and candy station. Pakistani people will spend 20K on gold and some dont go on a honeymoon.
Finally, I have found a sensible gupshup poster in this thread who shares a similar view on the concept of wedding and its significance.
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Someone with a rolls royce is probably very wealthy. let them spend as they may.
Would you get annoyed with a rich person having a mansion or a penthouse? You can't blame someone for wanting better things if they can afford it.
THere is a saying, more Ghur in the chawwal makes it sweeter. Ive been to expensive weddings and low budget weddings. You can see the difference in everything.
Quality does come with price. You can't compare $2,000 diamond ring with $20,000 diamond ring. If parents can afford an extravagant wedding then people should stop being @#@32 about wasting money because it might mean the world to the couple who is getting married. For me, all those three wedding days are going to be the most special days of my life that I can reminisce with my family, relatives, and friends. If you like it simple, sure go ahead. Everyone has a different taste so stop blaming the society if someone disagrees with you.
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Someone with a rolls royce is probably very wealthy. let them spend as they may.
Would you get annoyed with a rich person having a mansion or a penthouse? You can't blame someone for wanting better things if they can afford it.
THere is a saying, more Ghur in the chawwal makes it sweeter. Ive been to expensive weddings and low budget weddings. You can see the difference in everything.
ok but what if rolls royce is fiction? vat than, sister cpa?
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ok but what if rolls royce is fiction? vat than, sister cpa?
I don't know what is wrong with you? It is very common to have luxury cars these days...
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i’m jealous, what else. 
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I had my wedding last year in April (wow didn't realized our anniversary is coming lol) and my total expenditure was I guess around 1500-2000 $. The most expensive thing was the photographer (700$) which was worth it lol. I have posted the pix some where here on the forum.
1st I am not very traditional (never had been lol) so don't believe in rasams, desi culture of showing off etc. , second I am independent so didn't wanted my family to spend anything, 3rd me and my hubby both had bought separate houses the year before that so no excess money in hand.
I don't regret a single second abt the way it happened and if given a chance I'll do it the same way again, since I got married we have been vacationing every where when ever a long weekend comes (just came back from a month long pakistan trip), planning to buy a new bigger house, go and eat out couple of times in a month, basically enjoying the life at the best instead of worrying to pay our debts lol
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I do get the idea that a person should spend what they can afford - spending within your own individual budgetary means on a wedding.
But the concept of israaf goes beyond the relative spending power of the individual (for one person $100,000 doesn't matter and for another $1,000 is outside of affordability) and is a more absolute concept. The idea is to not be wasteful. So while couple A can afford a $100,000 wedding - such a wedding may still be wasteful.
I've always believed that a wedding should not be about the wedding day but about the marriage - the families should be celebrating the union of two people and two families as opposed to trying to put on a grand production. And yes, unfortunately these days the celebration takes a back seat to the grand production.
Ah, and going back to one of the topics close to my heart - the couples that say: **no boxed gifts **- sadly, they're usually the ones who throw the grandest party and then expect their guests to pay for the privilege of attending their wedding. The worst are those who thoo-thoo if the cash gift received doesn't cover the cost of the guest's meal they paid for.
At the end of the day - celebrate your wedding - but do so in a way that is meaningful and not wasteful.
I did not have a grand wedding. However, we did request for no gifts as we were traveling b/w different states. The gift cards and the money really helped us as we were starting our lives from scratch and we are very grateful for that. Of course there were people who bought box gifts, we were equally thankful to them for their thoughtfulness.
At my wedding shower, my coworkers asked me what we need for the home. First I was hesitant but when they insisted, I told them I have buy a pressure cooker and a set of cooking pots. I got a beautiful set of cooking pots in gift.
My coworker had a wedding shower, she had honeymoon registry along with registries at couple stores. However, most people made the gift towards their honeymoon.
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Quality does not always come with a price. 
It depends on your definition of quality and how smart you are.
Some people look at a bag and buy it simply because the tag reads LV…that is all they need.
A waste of money is a waste of money…sorry if that bothers you so much…actually I am not.
I don’t blame people for wanting better if they can afford it..I blame people when they become blind and stop giving importance to the things that matter.
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I don't quite understand why everyone is rather up in arms about this thread. PCG asked a simple question: how much did your wedding cost? Asked and answered. Most posters on here simply stated how much they spent in a straightforward manner. I spent xyz amount. End of story. I haven't come across any poster stating their wedding was better than another posters because they spent more/less than the other poster.
I also agree with Reha that not every bride is after the "fairy tale wedding." I certainly never had that fantasy and had no intention of getting into debt over something like that, which is another important point. It's rather unwise to get into debt to pay for a wedding. As Simply Seema said, better to enjoy life after the wedding than spend it working to pay off the debt of that one day. I know loads of other brides who feel that way, so it is quite false that every bride wants a "fairy tale wedding."
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