In the end it's simple, guys who want wives who know how to cook will find them regardless of what percentage of cooking one is doing, guys who don't care will not care. True for any preference, either someone will find a match who meets their preferences or they will adjust their preferences.
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In the end it's simple, guys who want wives who know how to cook will find them regardless of what percentage of cooking one is doing, guys who don't care will not care. True for any preference, either someone will find a match who meets their preferences or they will adjust their preferences.
party pooper.
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PCG there is nothing wrong in questioning the gender roles,… but one has to admit life goes smoother if roles are assigned and then based on situation these roles (if possible) get re-assigned.
Here is something to enjoy. 
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But they look completely unattractive when sitting next to you as a colleague in your work-place I bet.
Why? Just because they are colleagues and female?
I was only painting the picture of cooking that can trigger romance in the kitchen too...:D
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PCG - marry me & you dont have to worry about desi cooking shooking & tooking 
… you can feed me ghaas phooss … no worries… just say yes & will travel around the world & will spoil you like anything …
PCG
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Why does the girl even have to cook? The guy can too, or they can do it together and take turns. Why is that an option that makes desis wanna jump off a cliff?
Why the girl always have to pop out kids? the guy can toooo........... or they can do it together & take turns ........... why desis want to jump off a cliff when a guy wants to get pregnant & pop out a kid or too??? ........
these desis are weird PCG
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^^ I dont think that's true for everyone. The men in my family do cook, so did my Dad. My hubby can cook apni pasand ki type things, like his own versions of keema and pastas that you wouldn't really serve to anyone lol. We usually eat American too but I don't think preparing a salad is considered "cooking." Some desi foods aren't that difficult, I didn't know anything before I got married but started after, their just annoyingly time consuming. Not easy like pasta recipes or other things like Mexican foods.
Not sure why everyone says desi food is time consuming...it's really not any more harder or easier than mexican/italian/chinese dishes. spaghetti with sauce is quicker compared to...lasagna....just like daal is quicker than haleem...
Really though? I never met a woman who didn't like being told she is lucky! Most women that are lucky, KNOW it and they cherish their husbands for being like this and actually admit they are lucky!
^ have u forgotten the thread where the OP was sick of hearing from her in laws how lucky she was to have such a great husband. So seems like all women don't like to have great husbands. Or atleast they don't want the world to know about it.
When the underlying tone behind "you're so lucky!" is that "you're selfish and ungrateful, most men are XXX horrible" as if a desi man who doesn't beat the crap out of his wife deserves a medal.....then you wouldn't like to hear it either.
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This exactly. A simple sabzi takes 15-20 minutes **tops **to go from choola to table, with maybe 5 ingredients at the most. Heat up your roti and you’re done .not sure what could be tastier 
Chinese/Thai is time consuming…all the chopping and prepping and dozens of ingredients and stir frying…
I’m with niksik and x2 on this one…it’s not rocket science. Anyone, male or female, can learn to cook they desire. Whatever works for the couple and their marriage 
And as far as the aaj kya khaiya/pakaiya thread goes…I’d say 90% of what is posted is amazing, appetizing and shows true cooking talent. I’ve learned some amazing recipes from most everyone who posts there, male and female.
Not everything has to be presented and styled like something out of a Food Network spread i
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Also, how hard is throwing a salad together? Healthy, filling, great, yes, but hard? not at all.
party pooper.
It was a lame party
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You can go to another party, no one is stopping you
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**Wo chooriyooN ki jhankaar
laal rukhsaarooN pe shaffaf moti jaisa paseena **
:jano:
dupatta tied at the back
Cooking is not just about food folks.
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Yea. Its the emotions that matter.
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^^ I dont think that's true for everyone. The men in my family do cook, so did my Dad. My hubby can cook apni pasand ki type things, like his own versions of keema and pastas that you wouldn't really serve to anyone lol. We usually eat American too but I don't think preparing a salad is considered "cooking." Some desi foods aren't that difficult, I didn't know anything before I got married but started after, their just annoyingly time consuming. Not easy like pasta recipes or other things like Mexican foods.
Not sure why everyone says desi food is time consuming...it's really not any more harder or easier than mexican/italian/chinese dishes. spaghetti with sauce is quicker compared to...lasagna....just like daal is quicker than haleem...
Really though? I never met a woman who didn't like being told she is lucky! Most women that are lucky, KNOW it and they cherish their husbands for being like this and actually admit they are lucky!
^ have u forgotten the thread where the OP was sick of hearing from her in laws how lucky she was to have such a great husband. So seems like all women don't like to have great husbands. Or atleast they don't want the world to know about it.
When the underlying tone behind "you're so lucky!" is that "you're selfish and ungrateful, most men are XXX horrible" as if a desi man who doesn't beat the crap out of his wife deserves a medal.....then you wouldn't like to hear it either.
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For me, it's time consuming because I don't like the easy desi stuff. Hate pulao or daals or sabzi and having to come up with the ingredients always seems more complicated for me. Not so much my husband, but I'm super picky about the desi foods I eat so the things we like are the complicated dishes that's why it's time consuming. I need to translate everything before I make a trip to the grocery store and can't just run into a Jewel Osco that's across the street. So I do find it more time consuming, because I'm never as easily prepared for a brown dish like I am for an American dish. I hate cooking in general so in preparation for a desi meal I have to know what I will be making and needing ahead of time. American meals, I can pull random things out of the fridge or freezer and have ready in no time. We have that stuff lying around more readily in our house. Like the other day, woke up with a weird craving for Nihari, so in order for the meat to be soft enough, I boil it for hoursss, like hoursss 9-5 type deal. Otherwise it's never soft enough and goes to waste. I could only make it because I was at home that day and then of course at the last hour I didn't have flour lol so I was posting on GS for substitutes. Definitely took all day. On top of that, thinking up of something to make is also annoying, there's only so many Shaan masalas and I just get sick of the same old. Not hard but time consuming yes. For me at least.
Yes, in an ideal world husbands would cook 50% of the time. I don't disagree with you that some pakistani men DO cook. Your mom must be very happy with your dad that he actually cooks but MOST pakistani guys won't cook (even if they know how) unless something drastic happens (i.e. their wife had heart surgery so now they have to cook to survive and cook to feed the children).
I'm actually straight up envious of a friend of mine (she is indian hindu). Her husband does 50% of the cooking and cleaning. Did I mention she is on mat leave and the division of labour is still 50/50? And that includes waking up at night to tend to the baby. Ha! Oh and she acts like this is "normal" and that he should be doing this.
The point is...there are some things we just have to accept. I have accepted the fact that it will never be 50/50 with my hubby. He has made it clear he doesn't care to cook. If the time came where I was very sick and he HAD to feed himself and my daughter he would make sandwiches and call it a day. I'm sorry to break it to you but most pakistani men still don't cook despite a few guppies saying "oh that's not true my dad cooks or my hubby cooks". It's hard enough finding a decent Pakistani guy these days. Now you want one that will do 50% or possibly ALL of the cooking as well? Good luck! :)
Honestly though cooking has never been an issue for most of the people I know. I have never heard any of my friends complain about it but I know what you mean because everyone is different. I think it goes back to different lifestyles. My uncles are all very independent, there's no such kind of strict setup in my family where only women do cooking and only men bring in the money. I have just never seen roles assigned so strict to the extent I read on here sometimes. Most people I know actually do cook and clean, don't see why that would be such a rare trait to find because it's pretty normal around me. When you've lived on your own , I think away from home long enough, most guys develop their own habits of doing that stuff too. When you've been used to having it done by someone else even in your adulthood then yeah, you'd want a wife that probably would maintain that for you. There's nothing wrong with either, but I think you can find equal kind of guys everywhere. That's all I mean.
You can go to another party, no one is stopping you
No??? Whew.
9 2 11..
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You mean 90210? That's where the party's at.
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Cooking is not just about food folks.
Really? so one could grind the coals , add to the handi and serve one with love. If its emotions that only matter or the most. Coal Qorma should be fun too.
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Eating habbits or others can be changed for a good enough chick I think. Marriage is name of compromise.
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It's strange to see PCG complain about desi boys not being encouraged to learn cooking while she admits to not being able to cook despite all kinds of encouragement in desi culture for girls to learn it. What's your excuse and why is that excuse invalid for boys?