lol.. what made you think we are the same person.. lol.. The other day someone said that the thread starter (bholiCmuskurahat or something) was a man.. How do u guys decide that?
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Aloo ki bhujjia and Chicken Karai are my favourites lol. Aloo ki bhujjia gels well with Parathey. Mashallah good on you for finishing your studies. Yeh, like I said step by step. You'll get there! :)
ok.....start with "boiled egg"....next comes scrambled eggs...then....fry egg then omellate..etc......
lol.. i'm not that phohar.. i'm good with eggs. Thats what you learn when u are away from home, how to make eggs :P
lol.. what made you think we are the same person.. lol.. The other day someone said that the thread starter (bholiCmuskurahat or something) was a man.. How do u guys decide that?
We have a bad habit of speculation. Any new member that comes, we thinks they are a multinick.
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Hey LadyGaga, dont worry.
I learnt cooking when I was 16, then never cooked after that as I was always busy studying and working. I never was into cooking until this rishta wali baat started, and I learnt that dulha saab loves food, esp meat (suprise suprise), fish and prawns (UGH!!!) and says no one can make chicken biryani (his fav) like his mum, so there I stood in the kitchen and thought you are on mate (not that he knew this or heard me say this, as he was a zillion miles away), and within a few hours, the table was full of chicken biryani, dahi balay and mint wali chutney! My uncle who tested the dish told me that dulha saab would def approve!! So there you go, we get motivated at diff times, now I am more than determined to show him (not that he has asked me to) that I can multi-task in life!
Phew, glad to get the anger of my chest at him, dont know why, but with each passing day i get mixed feelings towards the dulha, sometimes love, anger even hatred!!! Why?????????
AGGHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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@Hubnubs, I know what you are feeling! We girls have to think about so many things while the guys dont really have to worry much. I too sometimes feel frustration and anger towards him.
Mashallah you seem very sughar! Your hubby will be happy :) I love dahi bhallay and thats the next thing i'll try to make. I made biryani last week, my dad loved it. I know it wasnt good but so generous of my dad to compliment me :) I need to learn to make koftay!!!!!!!!
Sooo good to read posts by other girls that cooking aint that difficult. I now know i can do it!!!
Thankyouuu girls!!!! :)
lol.. i'm not that phohar.. i'm good with eggs. Thats what you learn when u are away from home, how to make eggs :P
Well then atleast you know you can give him a big HEARTY BREAKFAST! .....
Hi guys!
I got commited a few months back. We live in different countries and have talked over the fone and chated a few times. The thing is until now i dont know much about him other than that he loves food, seems to me all he talks about is food. Three time proper meal a day(nashta, lunch and dinner). In my home my mother only cooks for the dinner, never had the tradition for lunch. I dont know how to cook and neither enjoy cooking much. I have started to take part in cooking at home (biryani and kabab etc). The problem is, i am tooo worried that he would want freshly cooked food for lunch and dinner everyday. I sometimes eat bread, fish fingers, french fries, etc in the evening while he eats proper meal. I am a working woman and will surely continue to work after getting married, cooking fresh everyday might not be possible. What if he doesnt like my khana? What if food turns out to be the point of contention between us.
Married girls, how do u manage job and cooking? Were u like me? Are u a good cook now? Engaged girls, do any of you have similar fears?
start with Shan masalas ..... start watching the cooking shows in TV ..its not that hard ...if a occasional guy like me can put 5 course meal on dinner table, I am sure you can do better as you are "willing" to....
PS: Most important trade in cooking is **bhonofying **the meat ..... if you learn that, end result will always be good....
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^ yea shan masalas aint that bad!!
decent i just LOVE readin ur posts.. most of them are funny yet so true. i love esp when u talk abt ur wife.. MA u guys seem happy together. may it always b this way :)
anyway, i do not agree with u that she shud strt with shan masalas.. that is the worst way to learn.. u dun know the quantity of masalas or anything. i learnt basic 3 dishes when i was in high school : biryani, korma, salans. by learnt i meant only observed by watching only once mind you and i still remembered the ingredients and method. so i never cooked before marriage but voila after gettin married i cooked and it tasted nice. now i m known for my tikkas, spagetti, biryani (hubs says i make the best!), kadhai. so trust me its instinctive. even after 4 years of marriage i do not know hisaab kitaab of ingredients. i just put like that and it turns out yuummy. not that ive not had disasters in kitchen.. boy have i!!! but its gud to keep experimenting always. another thing i learnt the HARD way.. never b afraid. i wasted 3 yrs of my marriage before i cud try to make watery salans. stupid me i dunno y i was scared. but pls never b scared and keep on tryin.. thaz how i became a gud cook AH. but i m still not the best.. i still dunno how to make paaye, nihaari and haleem.. once i make that i wud know i m the best.. hehe :D good luck and strt cookin rite away. strt with observing ur mother. and do talk to ur fiancee abt the environment u got and lets see how he likes the idea of havin 1 proper meal. he will b difficult becus he is used to that kinda lifestyle just like u r used to urs so dun impose and slowly and gradually learn cookin and do everythin to please him with ur cookin skills.
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another thing i always had one cookin rule, if u also adopt it u will b able to learn more dishes and will b satisfied : try not to ever use shan masalas. i know GS posters swear by them and i respect that completly but i m givin my POV. i m a bit egoist abt my cookin and i hate that the credit shud go to shan masala when i cook so i have NEVER in my life cooked with shaan (esp infront of guests).. i have only made pulao from shan thaz it!! i know ppl are gonna argue ke mein apne masalay bhi dalti ho but honey still dusnt make it ur own dish... u took help of shan so u like it or not, the credit goes to it also. anyway try cookin urself so that will keep u motivated and trust me the pleasure of hearin compliments for ur own recipe dishes is OUT OF THIS WORLD!! all my tikkas and other well known dishes are as a result of my own creativity. just try it once.. mujhe duahein de rahi hogi phir.. ;) hehehe
decent i just LOVE readin ur posts.. most of them are funny yet so true. i love esp when u talk abt ur wife.. MA u guys seem happy together. may it always b this way :) anyway, i do not agree with u
was everything before highlighted sentence a pre-text? like Nurse rubs your skin with alcohol wipe soothing it ..making you feel better only to ghoopofying the needle in your arm :(
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Before marriage I also didn't know the ABC of cooking but I learnt it within 2 months. Though I'm not a working woman but I find cooking a boring job :( my mother in law is out of city these days and I get confused what to cook now. Mostly after cooking I can't eat it myself I just serve it to my husband. My diet has now become less due to this :s I hope by the time it will get fine (sigh)
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^ Now that you have learned the ABC of cooking, tell me what comes after I in cooking ?
was everything before highlighted sentence a pre-text? like Nurse rubs your skin with alcohol wipe soothing it ..making you feel better only to ghoopofying the needle in your arm :(
LOL !!!!!! NOOOOOOO!! i really do love ur posts! ure an awsum guy MA and i m sure ur wife mst b a gud woman too but i jst love how funny u r and jst how mch u understand ur wife's -ve and +ve qualities so mch and u present it in such a cute funny way!! too bad u thot i was a nurse rubbin u with alchohol :D haha
Before marriage I also didn't know the ABC of cooking but I learnt it within 2 months. Though I'm not a working woman but I find cooking a boring job :( my mother in law is out of city these days and I get confused what to cook now. Mostly after cooking I can't eat it myself I just serve it to my husband. My diet has now become less due to this :s I hope by the time it will get fine (sigh)
oh trust me.. there r days when i cook and i hate wot i cooked and i just give to hubs :D keep tryin IA u will become an expert. u r not alone there are 1000s of paki women who learnt after marriage and now they are best in cookin.. so hang in there!
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you mentioned your husband can cook then why worry? If he can cook and likes food, let him cook and enjoy his food.
I never understand why girls make such a big deal abot cooking for husbands who can actually cook.. let him do it all. simple!
chaloo aa gaya asli tai wada mashwara 
thats sort of aapa lagiee-bhujiee mashwara … dont aamal this one
OH GOD.. this was such an issue with my husband's family. They eat three times a day... proper meal. me on the other hand... just once. Whatever I do cook, it ain't that bad. I enjoy cooking and like Hareem said, do watch cooking shows and have recipe books. There is tons of stuff online actually for you to learn from. But ok so my husband is extremely picky about food but I constantly tell him its not nice to complain about food because first I put so much mehnat cooking it and second at least you have food on your table...
He has learned not to complain "too much" but when his parents came.. i can't tell you how much lectures I got for not cooking three meals and not cooking good enough food. Like I said I do cook good food but because t hey are from a different background their food is cooked a certain way that is different from mine.
Just do your best and I am sure if you tell your husband that you are willing to learn and will do your best to make good food for him. Tell him that you are really looking forward to be with his mother who can teach you how to cook. There.. your problem solved. You praise his mom... you tell him you'll learn from her :) He'll be a happy man.