I got commited a few months back. We live in different countries and have talked over the fone and chated a few times. The thing is until now i dont know much about him other than that he loves food, seems to me all he talks about is food. Three time proper meal a day(nashta, lunch and dinner). In my home my mother only cooks for the dinner, never had the tradition for lunch. I dont know how to cook and neither enjoy cooking much. I have started to take part in cooking at home (biryani and kabab etc). The problem is, i am tooo worried that he would want freshly cooked food for lunch and dinner everyday. I sometimes eat bread, fish fingers, french fries, etc in the evening while he eats proper meal. I am a working woman and will surely continue to work after getting married, cooking fresh everyday might not be possible. What if he doesnt like my khana? What if food turns out to be the point of contention between us.
Married girls, how do u manage job and cooking? Were u like me? Are u a good cook now?
Engaged girls, do any of you have similar fears?
before marriage i also did not know the cooking. but when i start cooking after marriage i never made the bad food at all. cooking is very very easy. if you think it is difficult and you can not cook then you really wont be able to cook the food.
second thing you are working women. i am working women too. i cook the fresh food daily. sometimes it bothers. but its not much difficult to cook daily after the work. its just a matter of interest and proper schedule for everything (work and cooking)
Ladygaga, stop freaking out .. cooking is one of the most enjoyable activities , trust you me. I used to run a business of my own yet cooked like crazy and used to have dawats every few days at my place … I am telling you this so that you can establish that its not an impossible thing to achieve.
I think the most important is that you discuss it with him when an opportunity arises . Most working women tend to cook on alternative days or twice a week …
Plus , the biggest thing Ladygaga , is , that once you get into regular cooking , you will get practiced well and will be able to manage good cooking in an hour… it gets easier with time
oh wow.. thanks checken biryani (he loves it). I will discuss that we can cook on alternate days, plus he himself cooks very well probably he can help me. I hope i can cook like my mum one day..
@ jaanwar, pop tarts idea is good.
@Tab.D , yea probably its a matter of falling into the routine.
Well I can cook for real. Most desi dishes. I was always raised up to get married. Purpose of life in my household is to grow up and get ready for marriage. I never had any fears of cooking, infact I used to make stuff and make my parents and family eat it and I used to love to hear compliments then.
Forget about your fears and bismillah karke you start cooking. Start from a couple of your favourite or basic things and then escalate to complex dishes.
In the beginning not all are HOOR PARRIYAN with perfect dishes to dish out to the guests. Don't worry, there are many gals who learn cooking after marriage or just before they are about to get married. I suggest you talk about this with your fiance, and slowly tell him about your progress in cooking skills mastering. This way if you are totally not there after marriage at least he will know you are making an effort and progressing, instead of sittng on your arse doing nothing about it.
^ good to know that you have been taught to cook. yea i can cook alloo ki bhujiya and chicken karahi... :)
I am over 25 and finished my studies last year and been away from family for more than 5 years so im not that particular about cooking and havent been taught how to cook because of obvious reasons. Although my mum always wanted me to be in the kitchen and cook simple dishes, but i always thought if i can survive on french fries then my husband can as well so i never tried.
Really after reading so many encouraging posts from good cooks, i am a bit cnfident now that i too will cook one day. I'm seriously gonna do something about it in these christmas holidays :)
