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Asking you to wear short/revealing clothing in front of goray = adoring you...ahaan. Got it.
I think it is in his personality!
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OP I find this very odd. My hubby is very conservative when it comes to my dressing (I.e.: out in public, skinny jeans are fine but with a long top, no short dresses, no singlet tops etc- which I didn't even wear before my nikkah anyway). But the point is that his reason is that I am HIS wife and therefore cannot stand any other guy staring (he loses it if someone does). So I am genuinely confused as to WHY your fiancé would expect you to dress in a manner that would draw the attention of others negatively? If a guy loves you, wants you to be his wife, he will not want other males ogling you- that is the difference between a wife and a girlfriend. Not to mention that Islam does not allow us to dress the way your fiancé wants you to. Honestly it seems to me that if he is so insistent about this it could be a deal breaker because he is asking you to compromise your modesty. It doesn't make sense.
This.
And may i add BSB, i understand you're trying to make him happy but at what cost. At your hayaa?. For now you might compromise just because he wants marry you or vice verca. But reality of life is that, unless you're not accustomed to it. You will never get used to of revealing your skin in public. You will just do for him, which will make you look awkward in your own nazr. You should have your own say in this. Tell him as i believe you did that, that is not how you're. You're all up for moderation but revealing my skin shouldn't be one of them. Don't you have any principal of your own or you just want to do things to make him happy?. What about your haya? what about you?. Don't go mad over a guy, instead let him chase you in subtle way that is moderate. Like you for who you are and what you're.
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There’s a word to describe men who wants their wives to ‘show off’ more skin in public than private .. I just can’t seem to remember now. 
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^^Cuckold.
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I think it is in his personality!
Uhh....yea...No.
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I know a lot of guys - friends and family. The conservative once and the liberal once as well. Still there's not one guy out there - white or brown - who I know, would make such a claim/request to his wife/girlfriend and that's an observation regardless of which religion and culture they're part of.
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I know a lot of guys - friends and family. The conservative once and the liberal once as well. Still there's not one guy out there - white or brown - who I know, would make such a claim/request to his wife/girlfriend and that's an observation regardless of which religion and culture they're part of.
The guys you know are not probably going to tell u. I don't think he has shared this request with his family or friends what he is requesting me to do.
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I prefer my husband to show he adores me by protecting my izzats, not asking me to flaunt them 
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You are crossing the line… I didn’t say anywhere that he wants me to expose more in public than private… I just wanted to understand his view point if other men share simliar mental patterns where they’d like to see their wife/finance dress up a certain special way when together in public.
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^^^ agree. Also, if you're religious (which I don't know if you are...) and your husband is asking you to compromise your principles on pleasing Allah in order to satisfy HIS needs, I would question his motives.
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It is really not as big of a deal as you are making it. Just tell him you won't do it and he needs to respect your decision. It's not a problem, really.
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The guys you know are not probably going to tell u. I don't think he has shared this request with his family or friends what he is requesting me to do.
No, the guys would probably not tell me but still I'd have other ways to know for instance how I know about your guy's request without him telling it to me. :)
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So people respect you more if your covered from head to toes? yeah??? Is that your soch?
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I know one guy whose wife really looks like a mexican if you know what I mean.
I guess that I did sleezed her out one time because I was passing by in the car and I couldn't recognize if she was a mexican or this pakistani neighbor of ours. But he is one of a kind.
So, bsb, has your hsuband / fiance / janoo asked you to take swim classes with your kids yet? :)
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And BSB, for the record, my cousin's husband LOVES to have her wear tight, revealing, short, transparent clothing...outside, inside, goray gatherings, our family parties....and believe me, it's not a "personality trait"...it's an ego boost for him to have eye candy/trophy wife on his arm. And it just makes him look like a fool because it's obvious she's squirming and uncomfortable in her spaghetti strap backless sari blouse sitting 10 feet away from my nani while he struts around like a peacock asking everyone "kaisi lagrahi hai meri biwi?!?"
The last time he asked me that question, I answered him honestly "She looks nothing like the sweet girl I grew up with...this one looks like a Cuban call girl with her skimpy dress and blonde streaked hair"
That shut him up real fast.
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So people respect you more if your covered from head to toes? yeah??? Is that your soch?
No, my "soch" is that my husband loves, respects and cherishes me enough to NEVER ask me to do something that would make me visibly uncomfortable.
I don't give two figs what other people think...whether they respect me or not for what I'm wearing or not wearing is not my concern. What matters is that I have a partner by my side who respects and upholds my convictions.
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You are crossing the line... I didn't say anywhere that he wants me to expose more in public than private... I just wanted to understand his view point if other men share simliar mental patterns where they'd like to see their wife/finance dress up a certain special way when together in public.
And I never said your guy, did I? We all understood the special way.
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And BSB, for the record, my cousin's husband LOVES to have her wear tight, revealing, short, transparent clothing...outside, inside, goray gatherings, our family parties....and believe me, it's not a "personality trait"...it's an ego boost for him to have eye candy/trophy wife on his arm. And it just makes him look like a fool because it's obvious she's squirming and uncomfortable in her spaghetti strap backless sari blouse sitting 10 feet away from my nani while he struts around like a peacock asking everyone "kaisi lagrahi hai meri biwi?!?"
The last time he asked me that question, I answered him honestly "She looks nothing like the sweet girl I grew up with...this one looks like a Cuban call girl with her skimpy dress and blonde streaked hair"
That shut him up real fast.
He is not asking me to dress this way front of desi... I think it is all about "jaisa des waisa bhes"... I am not defending him but he has his beliefs and I have mine!.... I haven't thought about whether refusing him is a good thing or not... I'd rather have the guy to myself... I do know especially men, they start looking outside if their woman can't fulfill their needs. I do want to go out with him and have a great time! I dont want to be those girls who don't groom themselves and their husbands never take them out. I am sure i can negotiate a deal on this one.
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Like I said before you should seriously reconsider your decision if you know you will never be comfortable in wearing those types of clothes. A guy like him will never take no for answering if he isn't understanding you right now. Rather than resenting him later on in life, set clear ground rules now or reconsider.
Everyone has their on set boundaries and what they are comfortable in and that could be very liberal, mixture of liberal and conservative or very conservative dressing sense. So it doesn't make sense if a liberal person marries a conservative person because they will have a lot of arguments that can be avoided especially when you have already realised from his talks that he won't take no for answer.
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He is not asking me to dress this way front of desi... I think it is all about "jaisa des waisa bhes"... I am not defending him but he has his beliefs and I have mine!.... I haven't thought about whether refusing him is a good thing or not... I'd rather have the guy to myself... I do know especially men, they start looking outside if their woman can't fulfill their needs. I do want to go out with him and have a great time! I dont want to be those girls who don't groom themselves and their husbands never take them out. I am sure i can negotiate a deal on this one.
Lady, I don't know if you're really this dense or still just playing the part and living up to your nick by trolling us, but you're not making any sense here.
1.) Grooming yourself and looking nice has NOTHING to do with wearing revealing clothing that puts you out of your comfort zone. Why do you keep equating the two?
2.)"Jaisa des waisa bhes"? Seriously? Me thinks you need to lay off the Bollywood.
3.) Ummm...so in order to "keep your man from looking outside" and "fulfill his needs" you have to comply with his nonsensical requests?
Which talk show did you learn that from?
It doesn't sound like you have one iota of self respect in you. Or else you're just trolling. In which case, carry on.