confused and depressed

**Situation:

A girl---------------> A

A Boy---------------> B

. The girl (A) is divorced after nikkah,not rukhsati.

. here is this guy (B) who was A’s classfellow once and has always wanted to marry A but A has never wanted that though they both are/were very gud friends.

. now after A’s divorce B has again sent proposal, but A still don’t wanna marry B. But family and the guy ,both are pressurizing+emotional blackmailing A to marry B.

.Now A has agreed to marry B atlast but just because of the family and because she feels pity for B (who is also a gud frnd to her) who always do minnat samaajat to her to marry him. She does not want to hurt her

. A is depressed, sad and is not finding any happiness in the marriage,but she is now badly stuck as she has said “YES” to marriage.

.Now what shud A do? She is just doing a compromise,she is not happy at all about the marriage and she does not want to hurt the guy too coz now us ki umeedain berh gayin hain that she will marry him.plus she is also divorced. should she marry ? or how could she satisfy herself about the marriage?

please help…i want ur sincere advice please!!!**

Re: confused and depressed

why does she not want to marry B?

Re: confused and depressed

ill marry you

B is of the same age as A and somehow she has always felt that B is not mature enough...plus she also feels that she looks elder to B looks wise and this thing also pinches her at the back of her mind though B does not mind this ...

Re: confused and depressed

Why is B not mature enough? what has he said or done that shows he is not as mature as her?

why did she get a divorce in the first place?

Re: confused and depressed

i heard this cheesy line in a movie once “PYAR USS SEY MAT KARO JISEY TUM CHAHTAY HO BALKAY PYAR USS SEY KARO JO TUMHEY CHAHAY”

I guess A has 2 ways to get an answer

  1. The Islamic way - Do Istikhara and inshaAllah Allah will guide you
  2. TRY - if a guy is so crazy about this girl that he is willing to marry her eventhough she is divorced than i dont think she can get any luckier. Baaqi A kee marzi

My 2 cents :k:

May Allah guide her , Aameen.

true and also tell us how many time she goes to the bathroom and if you are at it then tell us what typa soap does she use, is it dove?

Re: confused and depressed

She should go ahead and do it . That basic understanding of friendship is there to make it work . Good luck :k:

Re: confused and depressed

A does not deserve B and is ****ing up everything. She is doing this for her own mental well being and will never be fully commited and thus effectively screwing up B's life. She did something really bloody stupid and now the boy has to deal with the consequences.

Re: confused and depressed

A needs to grow up ... A should seriously look in hte mirror before calling B immature ... and buy a good mackup kit and i'm sure that jazz in there will make her look younger than B

Because B gets emotional at every small thing...like is there is some problem at his office , he wud get upset very quickly,then B does not know how to drive a car...

nice advice about istikhara

can he not learn to drive a car?

Re: confused and depressed

^^ and how shud she get herself satisfied by the fact that she looks older than him?

too many bollywood movies i guess

it might sound like that..or i can say my life is just like a bollywood movie at the moment…but i need sincere advice from u guyz:teary1:

Re: confused and depressed

Is C the MIL?

Re: confused and depressed

No, C is ajay devgan who will show up later in the movie and take A away from all this misery. When they slowly disappear in the distance, B will be seen leaning against a wall, with a hurt but satisfied smile on his face. :k:

Re: confused and depressed

^^ thatz not so sweet to make fun of sumone's trouble....

Re: confused and depressed

B is very emotional, not as mature as A and can't drive a car.

I don't see these as bad qualities.

A man that is in touch with such emotions would be a good thing to some degree right?

They say guys do mature slightly slower than girls, but that's not such a bad thing. Maybe as he ages this will improve and is something that you can help him with? To be honest you come across as quite immature yourself.

And he can learn to drive a car - is that really a reason to not want to marry him. The signs of a good husband are not someone who can drive a car!!

It does sound as though you are being quite tough on the guy. He really likes you and is desperate to marry you by the sounds of it. The 'problems' that you have with his character are not serious problems - do you really want to turn down a perfectly good rishta with a guy who sounds like he adores you for the reasons that you have stated?