Re: confused and depressed
Pity - The BEST reason to get married.
Not being able to drive a car - The BEST reason to divorce a dude.
Sweetdoll, you come across as incredibly immature, you're a CHILD.
Re: confused and depressed
If I had pitied every lallu panju my daddi presented to me I would have been married more times than Aahmed has had hot dinners.
Harsh reality of life - you get what you deserve.
There is no such thing as 'majboori' You say NO to drugs, you can say it to marriage too. Its very simple. I think im missing my vocation here, I should be training 18 year old lasses on how to become the 28+lasses (bring that thread back!).
Re: confused and depressed
He is way mature than your expectations. watch less indian movies. life is not a movie where you make decisions based on the criteria of goodness presented in these movies. the fact is he is in love with you otherwise every movie-like-mature person would had thought countless time before getting themselves involve in such situation.
Re: confused and depressed
every girl is so happy when she gets married...i have many problems with the guy,let them be any..i am not happy....should i get married being so unhappy??will every thing settle down with time?..i am not at all involved in him,will everything be okay after marriage??mai pachtaun gee tou nahi because ofcourse he wont stay the same like he is rite now...
Re: confused and depressed
this does not sounds like a serious problem, marry the guy if he's a good guy(which apparently he is cuz he's your friend)
Re: confused and depressed
thatz sad dear...if u dun wana marry him and u r so unhappy then leave him...marriage is not being unhappy or about majburi...dont ruin his life and urz too...
Re: confused and depressed
hmm it seems hes a nice guy..n its u whose being immature here..but still agar kisi baat k liye dil nahi manay to usse na karna hi better hai...or u can do istikhara...gud luck..
Re: confused and depressed
There are two ways to look at this:
A)
You have a great guy who is marrying you despite you being divorced. He loves you apparently and is willing to forget the past and move on towards a bigger and better future. If you are physically attracted to him in the slightest, you could marry him and work on your relationship. Try to get closer to him, do things with him, talk to him, teach him things, etc. This will require patience and can be highly rewarding also if the other person is cooperative and willing.
B)
You marry him knowing you dont even like him...and that dislike grows into resentment which later turns into hatred. Marrying someone because you pity them is wrong, doesnt matter if you were divorced once or five times. Why? Because its not YOU whose life you're ruining (remember, he loves you so he will do his best to keep you happy)...its HIS. Who would want a partner to marry them because they felt sorry for them? I know I would probably be more upset knowing I spent even a minute with such a person.
The question is, are you willing to put in the work/effort it takes to have the first scenario? IF you are, then marry him. IF NOT, then dont.
Re: confused and depressed
AT TIMES I FEEL IS THIS THE OPPORTUNITY THAT ALLAH HAS GIVEN ME TO MARRY AGAIN AND AM MISSING IT????BUT Y IS IT THAT MERA MIND NAHI BUN PAA RAHA,BILKUL B NAHI:(
There are two ways to look at this:
A)
You have a great guy who is marrying you despite you being divorced. He loves you apparently and is willing to forget the past and move on towards a bigger and better future. If you are physically attracted to him in the slightest, you could marry him and work on your relationship. Try to get closer to him, do things with him, talk to him, teach him things, etc. This will require patience and can be highly rewarding also if the other person is cooperative and willing.
B)
You marry him knowing you dont even like him...and that dislike grows into resentment which later turns into hatred. Marrying someone because you pity them is wrong, doesnt matter if you were divorced once or five times. Why? Because its not YOU whose life you're ruining (remember, he loves you so he will do his best to keep you happy)...its HIS. Who would want a partner to marry them because they felt sorry for them? I know I would probably be more upset knowing I spent even a minute with such a person.
The question is, are you willing to put in the work/effort it takes to have the first scenario? IF you are, then marry him. IF NOT, then dont.
THANX PS SQUARED,,,THATZ A VALUABLE ADVICE :)