Child molestation

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Rather sad but another fishy situation happened about 3-4 years back when me and my family went to Pakistan for a visit. All our young cousins were out playing during an afternoon so we let our nieces go play with them, one was 3 and the other was 2 at that age. The older one came home crying and when we asked her what happened she pointed down at her private area and said it hurts and she kept saying someone's name that we couldn't understand and tried finding out but no idea. after that day my sister never let my nieces go out and play without her being there or any one of our family member supervising. It is VERY common nowadays I guess.

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oh my God

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Did your sister ever find out what happened?

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omg.

this is making mecry.

i have daughters too. ya allah please protect our kids from these evil people. i wish i could literally wrap my girls up in cotton wool. nd never let them out my sight.

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Nops. We did kind of doubt our driver but we grew up around him and never experienced anything of such from him. Plus my niece knew how to pronounce his name but whatever name she was saying didnt make sense. We tried asking her alot what happened and who did it, all she would say is it hurts and mumble some name. She was only 3 so it was hard for her to understand or explain.

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Maybe hypnosis can be induced to find out what is causing such feelings?

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:omg: I meant to write situations with the molester. I didn’t mean you specifically but a general “you”

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^lol its okay. for a moment I was like really? I dont think so!

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Kids do abuse other children smaller than them, especially if they are being abused themselves. They just repeat behaviour they have witnessed or experienced themselves ....

This is really awful.

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Little busy today but saw this topic, decided to reply… whats done is done but in future you can help kids who are still young and have not been targeted by some lusty devil.

Sahar said somewhere in this thread to be suspicious of everyone and that is true. There are way too many cases like this involving kids, kids dying sometimes. FOLLOW THAT rule religiously. Ask your self, WHY does some uncle or whatever wants to take your kid out, drop whatever you are doing and go with them or take the kids out yourself!

Also, if you let your kids sleep overs, AVOID as much as possible. There should be NO sleepy overs policy. No matter what the occasion, clown aah raha hai, party ho rahee hai, clown ke aba jee aah rahe hain, WHATEVER. NO sleepovers. If you happen to sleep at someones house or someone sleeps at your house, your kids stay with you, sleep with you. sleep on the floor if you have to but together with them, so you can keep your eyes on them.

Watch what your kids see on the TV. Moreover, keep an eye on them when they play together… often times older kids would try to play certain games which may not look like much but in my opinion its not right and they shouldn’t be doing that!

Tell them not to take candy, etc. from strangers which is often used as lure tactic. Tell them you will buy them candies (gives them hope lol), no need to take from strangers/people you don’t know.

I don’t like “go to your bedroom young lady/man” policy. You don’t know what happens when they go to their bedrooms, just saying.

Buy IP cameras (i have 4), keep an eye on them when you are away or even when with them in same house, from PC or your mobile phone (iphone, android, etc.) when on the move.

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^that was a good post jaan leva. :k:

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It's better to be on the side of paranoid on this one.

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Isn't installing cameras a bit extreme? Unless your kids are VERY young, I think everyone has the right to some privacy.

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Oye not the privacy card...

Privacy at what cost? I am not saying install camera in bathrooms or their bedrooms but you can install in general areas like their play rooms or living rooms, outside where kids play?

If you are washing, bathing, clothing your kids who are 4, 5, 6+ then they don't care about privacy, there is no need to worry about that. The most important thing you can do for them at that volunerable age is make sure they are protected, not shove concept of privacy down their throat which they will get to know when in teens and early twenties anyway. And if kid knows they have privacy, they wouldn't tell you what they do in their private time or if the lusty devil adult asks them "not to tell anyone, its our secret" then they wouldn't say anything because its matter of their privacy/secrecy. So, I would advise you to let them learn about privacy later on in life on their own and not inject them with it at very young age.

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^Yup, that's why I said unless they're young and 5-6 is young so it's fine. And I also though you had them installed in bedrooms which is...weird, you know?

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No, never bathrooms/bedrooms, that would be weird/big-brother like, hallways yes.

I didn't install he cameras to watch the kids though, its for general purpose, keep an eye on the house, lab equipment, etc. (inside garage, living/play rooms, outside the house) There have been too many reports of house invasions in US recently and gangs who target south Asian homes specifically, for gold and other precious metals (kaallooos ko pata hai hum logon ka obsession gold ke sath). A couple of houses were attacked about 65 miles from where I live and thugs brought metal detectors, etc. with them to look for, GOLD! They tore up walls, furniture... laanti log.

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You know what, don't forget the Moulvis. There are many good ones out there but some bad ones are equally responsible for this epidemic in Pakistan. Pakistani society is very capable of corrupting itself but majority of the blame goes to the Afghanis when they came over in 1980s and took refuge in madrassas and masjids around Pakistan. jub se hum ne in poppy-smoking charsis ko jaga di hai tub se ye bemaari kafi taizi se phail rahee hai!!!

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^^ wow so you are capable or writing sensible posts. I actually agree with you … and also about this whole privacy thing you said.. makes so much sense. Please don’t troll around GS when you are capable of giving good advice :biggthumb:

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I am from india....this evil is everywhere from a long time.............
we read news of molestation every now and then.......
when i was child i was never allowed to take chocolates from stranger....
even when i was a teenager my mom never allowed me roaming around at night..she is use to say that her father never allowed her brothers roaming around at night....because boys also needed to be protected....
now i understand all those rules..........

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funny how you guys think this is sane behavior for a parent, since its not. If you are with your child all the time and fear that he/she will get hurt if you're not there than that would mean you're too overprotective.

Why not just homeschool them if you don't want them to have friends and go to their houses? why not just cut off all ties with your family if you think they will hurt your child