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Forget about him. Not easy...but if you already dont like certain things about him then you're never gonna like them...ever. You're better off without him.
He didn't give you a second thought now did he? Already has another girl.
He just wants to knwo if you still have the hots for him...don;t give him that satisfaction hun!!!
Thank you =) I will tell him to get lost if he contacts me again.
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So if you are in a situation where you feel that your imaan may be at risk, walk away.
Define dating please. In many social circles, dating does not occur without a chaperone.
Define “relations”. If you are referring to physical intimacy, then you are right. But where does “dating” meaning physical intimacy? Guess I’ll have to wait until you define dating.
Right. So let’s make sure that we have our definitions correct before we figure out who’s saying what.
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***kazi rab tery sy ho razi ***
guftar k sath ho tu
Kirdar ka bhi Ghazi
Datting ko farugh dyny waly Muslims k liy Allam Iqbal ka shyr yad arha hy,
Wazah main tum hu Nasara tu Tamadun main Hanood
Yeh Muslman hain jinhi dykh ky sharmain:blush: Yahood
{talafuz Hunood hona chahy ya Yuhood, I do not know please correct}
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That's what I do, and I hope others would be able to do the same!
You say "many" social circles, and not ALL. I am specifically refering to those circles where the boys/girls do their dating in secret, without mehrams. Please read my replies, and you shall see I am fully aware of the concept of a mehram, and how meeting potential partners, with mehrams present, is strongly recommended. For me personally dating would be to meet for a drink (non-alcoholic of course), perhaps go shopping, or cinemas etc....ALL with a mehram present! For others dating can be anything from having a kiss and a cuddle, to full on relations. This is why I believe dating (without mehram) of any nature to be wrong. Since little things will lead onto bigger things. It is natural that after repeated "dates" emotions can very often get the better of people, and they want to take it that step further....this is where your above point, of walking away comes in handy!
Again I believe that when we have the purest of intentions, we can be lead astray cos of lust etc. Relations in this context would refer to anything which has been made haraam pre-marriage...eg. holding hands, kissing, to full-on physical initimacy.
I clearly have an ethical code which I follow, and my purpose of writing here was to put my views forward, as is the objective of this forum! Not once have I judged any particular individual for their views, as I have said that right lies with Allah and Allah alone.
On the whole the point I am trying to bring across is that we cannot make halaal, that which has been made haraam by Allah! dating (for want of a better term) without a mehram present, is not compatible with Islam!
Peace.
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I know most people are giving rational answers but fact is matters of the heart hardly wortk in that manner...
If you still love the person you broke up with...likelihood is you will yes...even iof you know it could be mad for you...
If you have genuinely got ove rthat person then you will follow your ration...
Instincts beats ration all the time unfortunately in these instances...
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It all depends on the reason of breakup.
If it was really a serious matter - no, I'll not get back.
If it was something stupid (which happens sometimes), i might give it another chance.
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doesnt history repeat itself? if the first time u broke it off for a stupid reason then go ahead...but remember a cheater will always be a cheater
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^^ I agree
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very well said:k:
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so first he left you and met another girl...then hes going to leave her for you.....is he going to leave you again for someone else?
I personally wouldnt get back with a loser like that.
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So when a woman goes from a full fledged hijab to posting topless pics of herself on a public board, what doest hat make her??
Just for my Information.
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3 into 2, doesn't go!
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Just for my Information.
:LB:
Well if u need me 2 tell u what that kind of woman is then u really dont have a clue, do u??? For your information, I suggest u try reading into Islam, and form an understanding of whatever it is, that your knowledge seems to be lacking in!
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Please keep in mind that Islam in its purest form does not often apply to desis or desi culture in general.
I don't think many of us would be able to have conversations going whilst having our parents around. Yes, salaam duaa is possible, but it's quite difficult to learn more about the significant other with parents around.
If anything, many of us would be labeled baysharam and bay-hayaa for openly discussing matters with the prospective other in front of everyone else.
If it's about not being alone with the significant other, then having friends around would be a lot better than parents.
Also, please shed some light on what you believe to be the correct Islamic method of carrying it out and how logic is to be applied to it.
Lastly, I'm not propagating dating.
As for the initial question, I think you should weigh your pros and cons and see what you end up with. Try to figure out if he has all the qualities that you're looking for and what he's lacking is something you're able to live with.
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If they left you- Then HELL NO! I will never ever be able to trust that man ever again.
Once something becomes history i dont like to make it present from anywhere in my life :)
If i have left them- then there must be a reason behind it and i am a person who once makes her mind she sticks with it.
No matter what i feel for them. Your actions should be done from your head not from your heart- You should and must consult your heart though :~)
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yeah. if you gonna date someone with only one thing in mind i.e. find the main likes/dislikes, habbits and chemistry of a person, it should be fine. Ofcourse if someone crosses the limit with going further in dating - that is haram.
so simply date someone to just get to know each other within limits.
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If i have left them- then there must be a reason behind it and i am a person who once makes her mind she sticks with it.
No matter what i feel for them. Your actions should be done from your head not from your heart- You should and must consult your heart though :~)
Thats how it should be. but sometimes its hard though.
If you are like this - you go girl.:)
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Totally agree with Kazi here n everything else is just crap. I strongly believe that Islamic rules and teachings are the best for us.It is another thing that we do not follow them sometimes ( coz of our own weaknesses) but neither have we any right to justify our bad doings nor we should.
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Qazi
:k: WELL SAID
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**Kazi again …100% AGREED:) . YOu are a BEACON HOUSE here.
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