Case Of The Ex..

Lifestyle Relationships
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uhh move onn
he prolly wasn the right one from the beginning

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we do not forget people , but life moves on :slight_smile:

still best times are there waiting for us to get along

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i have to agree with muzna. As tempting as it is to say hell no, i'm not going back. the loser doesn't deserve me . . .
people make mistakes
it's not wrong to be forgiving
maybe he actually has learned? ? ?

we don't know if he's dating her casually or he's promised the world to her.
If it is the latter, then i'd say run.
If it is the former, i'd let him know that maybe i am willing to go for it again but very, very slowly and only after they resolve what happened the first time around.

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People don't forgive, even if they say they forgive they do not forget!
Only Allah forgives and wipes the slate clean!

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I think the scenario you describe highlights 2 things in particular: 1)How dating is a load of poo-poo and doesn't work, since there is no real lasting commitment, as is with marriage...Majority of people are in it for one thing...
2)How important it is to choose a good life partner, one whom you will share the rest of this life and the next with...

Personally to me, dating seems to be a temporary solution for one to fulfil whatever objective they may have-eg. companionship, or physical intimacy!

Just save it for marriage, and when u do decide 2 get married-select your partners very carefully! (IMHO)
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Load of crap and bull

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just cos i dont like coffee…:snooty:
seriously tho there’s nothing wrong in what i have said!
Dating is considered haraam for a number of reasons, hence why it is disliked,…and to select a suitable partner for marriage is considered of great importance,hence why it is strongly recommended!..

so how is this all bull and crap??:grumpy:

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I'm not debating whether we have the right to ultimately wipe the slate clean, obviously only Allah(swt) does.

but that doesn't mean that you can't be a forgiving person.

and i guess i'm lucky then, cause i've met several very forgiving people in my life and they have gotten that much more respect from me b/c of it.

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Its a typical desi thinking to automatically believe that dating involves sex hence haraam.

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nothing desi about it at all…
the more time 2 ppl spend 2gether, the more likely they r 2 fall for each other…the more likely they will be 2 take their relationship 2 the next level…the more likely they will be 2 have sex out of marriage! Quite a simple concept really…nothing particularly desi about it! It’s probably all that coffee ur drinking that isnt letting u see this properly!:snooty:

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kazi, if you donot have control over your desires, doesnt mean the rest of the world cant either.

And yes it is a common desi belief that when two people date, they are bound to have sex.

Dating involves getting to know each other on a more personal level, as in habits, likes and dislikes.
So when you do make that deicison of getting married, there are no nasty surprises.

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You are right kazi and especially in dating they felt love for each other :hug:after marriage:smilestar:ouch ab main bolon k na bolon:confused:

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Alhamdulillah, I have full control over my desires....just that a significant number of others dont!

Dating is haraam... period!....Relations between a guy and a girl before marriage, just arent acceptable! Yes, you can meet a hundered times, with a mehram present, but otherwise no! I fail to agree with this westernised perception of try before u buy! Apply the islamic rules regarding finding a suitable partner, and InshaAllah u won't go wrong! It's all about logic really...

ask anyone any question
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^^ thanks!
kuch log to bass waisay larai karnay ke liyeh be-taab baitay rehtay hain:snooty:
hum bi kis-si seh kamm nahin! :chai:

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Yes, you can meet a hundered times, with a mehram present
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So all muslim girls who go out to work in an office full of men need to have a mehram present cause it would be otherwise haraam to be present in a room full of guys.

You are doing nothing but reducing women to nothing but owned property.

No its not haraam at all to meet potentials to find out more bout them.

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Not worth going back to the ex....more hassle then its worth...i mean there was a reason y they'd broken up in the 1st place. Should move forwards not backwards.

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u r really quite pathetic....the topic was about dating, not working...a woman who covers her modesty, and conducts herself according to islamic rulings, has a full right to work if she so desires! A mehram is required when meeting a suitable partner...Ur making it out as tho I am some sort of prehistoric barbarian....I guarantee to you that I have much more respect for women than many of the other posters on this board! I answer only to Allah, and if you wish to "try before u buy", then that's your prerogative-may Allah have mercy on u, and all of us!

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He's not worth it....he;s probably bored of the woman he is with and wants to find a replacement before he breaks up with her.

Forget about him. Not easy...but if you already dont like certain things about him then you're never gonna like them...ever. You're better off without him.

He didn't give you a second thought now did he? Already has another girl.

He just wants to knwo if you still have the hots for him...don;t give him that satisfaction hun!!!

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No it’s not bull and crap, ure absolutely right..
Ther’es no point in arguing, some people are jjust ignorant and dheet.

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:hugz: thanks sara baji:)

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Baji toh tum ho, im younger than yoU! :smilestar: