Career Woman or Homemaker ?

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^ its like that for maybe the first 2 months at most.. if you've spent a considerable amount of time at home with bubz.. and u leave them for 8-9 hours straight, then yes u do go through separation anxiety.. i went through it and so do a lot of mums...

but at the end of the day, when we see the difference in our child(ren) and the difference we are making to the home... it makes us happy..

thank u for saluting such mums... it is a hard choice to leave ur bubz behind... but knownig they are being very well cared for and are happy, makes us happy..

what makes us sad is women who have no idea what its like saying how bad it is to leave a child with a nanny.. and so on. That's what's wrong

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My mom worked a full-time job as a doc and took care of home as well but only when we started going to school. So basically she was doing the job of two women and there are only few women who can manage both. However, we needed her job to some extent due to financial restraints (though my father worked too) as the pay scales were really horriable until a couple of years ago in pk. After a lifetime of this hectic schedule, she concludes that if the husband earns a decent enough living, the wife should stay home and make the home a heaven.

I don't think that stay-at-home moms are not using their potential or abilities, in fact I think the contribution that they make in making their house a heaven and the right upbringing of their children is a far bigger contribution than any other. Since the world has changed alot, stay-at-home moms have a number of alternate options available to use their capabilities and potential, such as working a couple of hours online to earn a living and its not that hard too.

While I surely admire the courage of the women who work AND take care of house, I am however not really impressed with those who would work just to get those extra luxuries in life at the cost of neglecting their children. Can't say about west, but personally I'd never trust my kids with servants. Thats the bottomline. I also agree that these things should be discussed in detail BEFORE marriage to avoid future problems.

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After the kid I decided to work part time and it works very well!

Next kid I will take a break for 20 months and will join part time again.

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Sadz, I am a woman, my mother is a working woman , so was my grand mother ... therefore it was nothing new for me to work and manage home , I saw my mom do it well and my dad never complained ...

I worked in mutinational firms for years and was runing a business of my own until recently.. I left all that for one thing :

a woman doesnt realize what her being away from home can do to a child's nourishment, I can still remember the days when i knew my mom was going to be there for me after 6pm but i knew i had to be alone or with some nanny for those 4 hours .... ask my mom and dad and they will say our kids had perfect upbringing ... Me as a child , I believe my mom should have been with me and my siblings .... This doesnt mean my mom didnt raise us well or didnt maintain the work/home balance.. she did , many women idealize her for her greatness...

that aside ... what is a woman's fault? why is she expected to give equal energies to both home and work and herself ? I come home tired after a day's work and sometimes struggle and tell myself i am going to look fresh and happy and make fresh food every day for my hubby and so on ...

recently i decided , I have achieved career wise what many women dream of , done it all , but ..... now i have understood more then ever what Allah meant for women when He told us to look after the homes and the families ... we are the home makers and I am now very very proud of this status coz this is giving me more of the joy then when I was a director in an office ...

I know most of you ladies dont appreciate this , I didnt either a few years back , but dont call this thought rubbish , because we respect you working women and expect the same back. Some women have to work to maintain a lifestyle, fine they can manage and they are happy with the way they are being treated , no one can change that. Women like me are happy with the fact that our husbands tell us , dont work , we earn enough for our families , please take care of us and our children ....

Hope this makes perfect sense rather then being disturbed as you mentioned earlier !

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awwww CB... loads of hugs. i agree with each and every thing you said. i wud ideally LOVE to work. who wudnt like sum extra cash to splurge on oneself? but thinkin abt my baby(in future) and work i really get worried how i m gonna do it, how distanced i and baby wud feel with each other becus of my job. I would love to continue workin and let a nanny take care but deep inside me i know its gonna have a bit negative effect on baby. this is not to say a woman cannot juggle between house and work.... its just that its a bit difficult plus there cud b bad consequences too.

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Mall , thanks mate :lifey:

You know if it wasnt for hubby and kids I would immediately get back to work , I miss working but I also know how i felt when mum was away and under no circumstances will I get my kids to feel that way.

Plus my hubby makes me feel alot more like a princess now that I am at home , all he wants me to do is take care of him and family and myself and make our home look like the perfect paradise .. and worry about nothing else … :wub:

Life is suddenly alot better, I used to feel awful and useless when i first left work , wouldnt ask for a single penny from my hubby or father thinking I stopped earning I dont have the right to ask for money anymore ! I still feel like that sometimes but then hubby tells me , its his job to earn and my job to spend it wisely … and it makes me feel like i am on the top of the world … :layd:

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I am just glad, I did what I thought was correct at that time. Looking back I have no regrets.

Looking forward, I am confused! =(

I worked full time and was rising high career wise. I worked till my 2nd born was 1 years old.

I enjoyed EVERY moment with my kids, although financially we had to cut down in major ways, due to one income.

Looking back I feel that with my income I would just have had a bigger home, but I would have NOT been in the home most of the time. So what's the point?

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I left my career when I was about to tie the knot... i knew I'd be living in a joint family, in a different country and wanted to make sure I'd settle in completely before I occupy myself elsewhere. So for now, I'm loving not working but Alhumdulillah there are no restrictions to not work... MIL actually encourages it and MiaN Ji says that i never have to work, but can if i want to. So its nice to know that the option of persuing my career is open and that the decision to do so is completely mine.

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Yay!! i m happy for you. Mashallah youve got a nice husband. Hope you both and your family continue to live peacefully and happily like this always :slight_smile:

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that is so true, what is the point of a huge house, if you are going to have to work 24/7 to pay for it!

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*Here's another thought? Would you work if you didn't need the money? *

Just to excel in your field or to grow in your career, contribute to society

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holy caowwww
how did you know my secret name??? hmmmmmmmmmmm

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I think MOST middle class girls do this. They go to work to be able to be out there and be productive at the same time built career and a better future.

Middle class girls have a choice to work or not to. Most choose work to be able to achieve better things in life, grow career wise.

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Chicken Biryani and **iggle **- you ladies are absolutely :lajawab:

I want to salute both of you - you guys are quality.

njgal - you already know what I think about you right :wink:

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Straight_up :hug: (in non sexual way) :slight_smile:

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PM - be a man, do the right thing, post what you wanted to post. :D

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I plan on working, Insha'Allah.

Muslims need to read how the Prophet(SAW) himself was raised at his young age, and also some of the Sahaba and the traditional arab custom of that time. They all turned out to be wonderful human beings, Mash'Allah.

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whats wrong with a career woman turned housemaker turned career woman? :D

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^nothing - lol - I am a live example and proud of it!