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I like Chingari. It’s cool, I mean hot 
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I like being both at the same time
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i left my job for primarily my son. now, he is abt 1 but still too small. i used to admire my free of boss life but now i miss the time when i was into struggle as struggle is life. i wish to turn the clock back when i was not married and thought of not doing job as freedom. in reality it was the true life where learning went on and on. i would like to work with the same ppl and in the same atmosphere. i enjoyd working.............
hmmmmm
Prodigy.
X2 i so know you’re british now.
his post and queers post had nothing in common. queers post was about women.. TLK said fiance not fiancee…
I would have beena firestarter if they were on the same topic..but they were not :halo: etc
because of the clock moving forward and me loosing one hour of sleep, my brain is not working werna eik eik baat kaa sahee se jawaab deta
because of the clock moving forward and me loosing one hour of sleep, my brain is not working werna eik eik baat kaa sahee se jawaab deta
challo november mein ghanta wapis mil jaye ga uss waqt jawaab dena :)
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I think its a very bad idea to leave your kids to servants especially back in Pakistan. With the kind of horror stories I know of, a girl should think hard whether the kids are more important or the *freedom. *I feel that it is the responsibilty of the guy to try to put decent bread and butter on the table and as long as he does that, I doubt if the *independance *and *creativity/career *stuff matter more than kids.
Also, the kind of work she's in is a very important parameter for me. I may sound orthodox, but the kind of organizations where you have 1-2 girls and dozens of guys with very high interaction doesn't really fit my bill. If she works partime as a teacher or something similar, I wouldn't mind. I believe that some professions are more suited to women and some are definitely not. I mean apples are apples and oranges are oranges. I don't really agree to the logic that just to show that men and women are equal, women HAVE to necessarily take up jobs unsuitable for them. But then again, thats a personal choice.
Yeah , A childs mental nourishment and education is extremely important in the first few years and I wouldnt compromise that for anything in the world …
…i strongly feel , working women are not able to do justice to their husbands rights either, a man after a day’s hard work returns home to a blissful environment that his wife maintains for him .. but if the wife is undergoing the same 9-6 drill as him … then no blissful abode to return to !
alot of women argue: i will be wasting my education if i dont work … I think education makes an individual stronger mentally to deal with life’s complications and help make better decisions. Once educated , men take the course that nature has set for them i.e earn … women should take the course that nature has set for them instead of following the same route as men 
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I must admit , working made me learn the importance of my husband’s earnings ! I know how hard it is to work and earn !
that is such a huge assumption.. and not a correct one at all.
I work a 9-5 job and my hubby is soo supportive of me and what i do. I maintain myself to the best I can, whilst managing the home, hubby and child..
sure i wish maybe one day I could stop working, but not all of us have that kind of luxury. Some of us, want to help out the hubz and take the financial stress of him…
as for the education… my daughter goes to creche and like all other parents who drop their kids at the creche, we agree that the kids are doing Mashallah so well in terms of learning new things and just socialising. At home, I could not provide her with the type of actiivities and socialising she gets there..
I dont think im better than a mom whose at home with her kids, but i dont think im any less either. And I think its horrible horrible to assume that we wives dont give our husband the type of attention they require..
such disturbing view points
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I want a homemaker and a career woman. I want to sit home and lie on my tidd while she brings home the bacon and cooks it too.
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sadzz - I know.
Why is it that you have to choose? Most people I know do both and a little something else.
They are excellent mothers, homemakers, and excel in their careers.
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well said Sadzzz.
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^ yes..
some people (women) make it really difficult for women who have careers... you guys seem to think that we dont care about kids.. our careers are more important and that nanny's are really bad for kids..
these are just horrible assumptions about people you have no idea about.. im not saying anyone has said anything to me, but the views some people have here about women/mothers who work, are just ludicrious... unless you're in the situation, unless you have actually seen how we run our homes and careers.. you dont have the right to make such comments
Which would you guys prefer , considering she has invested a lot in her career ; and what would your reasons be for either choice ?
Girls what would you want ? Considering U have a great career going ! Would you quit it when U tied the knot or not ?
Me : I'd Quit ! Even though I'd be giving up a fruitful career I believe a family & kids come first......I don't want my kids being brought up by a nanny ! I wanna be there when they first crawl or sit or take their first steps or say their first word ............
Share ur point of views , the whys & wherefores !
I don't think education is ever wasted. There are so many women with degrees but not working to bring up their children.
My Mum gave up her medical career to bring us up. Once her youngest went into full-time education Mum went back into her medical career and specialized. She always had Dad's support. She is an incredible woman, Marshallah and once again gave her up her medical career to bring up my baby as I was involved in an car accident which led to a coma. My Mother always sees the best in her kids and always pushes us towards our talents and encourages us to keep studying anything e.g. short course, part-time course, another degree etc. This is because giving up work isn't always a realistic option for everyone as future is unforseen.
Mum is a great inspiration and I am always trying to update my qualifications like she did while she stayed at home e.g. studying anything to do with field of work. Now I am studying for a 3rd degree. But I am not planning to go back to work until my child is in school so that she gets my full attention. I do miss working as I enjoyed my work life a lot - but investing my time to bring up my child is the best for her future. :)
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i think Sadzz u hav taken it too personally.everyone understands how hard it is to tackle b/w kids,housework,husband n job.its a very difficult thing n ladies who does it r very brave but wat CB meant to say i guess is its not easy doing justice to everyone in such a case so the ideal situation is stay with kids when they r too young but if u don't hav that option then it doesn't mean u r not playing ur role well or are a bad parent.
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^ I may have taken it personally... yes cus im in the situation. If someone else, they may have as well
as i said, unless you'e been in the situation yourself, you cant make a comment or judgement about someone's decisions.
the ideal situation maybe just that a mother stays home with their child.. but for some other people the ideal situation is different.
^ I may have taken it personally... yes cus im in the situation. If someone else, they may have as well
as i said, unless you'e been in the situation yourself, you cant make a comment or judgement about someone's decisions.
the ideal situation maybe just that a mother stays home with their child.. but for some other people the ideal situation is different.
This is what I meant when saying giving up work isn't always a realistic option for everyone.
I used to work with a woman who was working full-time and left her 6-month old son with a child-minder. She would leave home at 7am and return in the evening at around 8pm. She couldn't afford to not work or work part-time hours. During working-hours she would make endless trips to the wash-room, returning later with red eyes later! I knew she was finding it so hard to cope at work because she was missing her baby and felt so gulity for leaving him. In time she accepted it.
I know there are many more women out there like her and I totally salute these women. :)