Can I find a girl who hasnt had a pre marital

[Reha]

Re: Can I find a girl who hasnt had a pre marital

@Captain_Obvious

Who is more pious, only Allah knows. We can only make assumptions/decisions based on what we know. A girl being a virgin before marriage doesn’t guarantee overall piety. But a girl not being one, particularly due to pre-marital relationships does show that she wasn’t at that particular point at least and has crossed a limit which the virgin hasn’t. While there may be cases like the ones you described, it is still very possible to find a girl who hasn’t crossed those boundaries and who will still make an ideal wife/companion. Nobody has to be stuck having to choose between the mean, backstabbing virgin or the kind, good hearted non-virgin.

You’re right. Only Allah knows…that’s why I dislike it when people make assumptions about someone’s piety based on their virgin or non-virgin status. Also, you assume that a girl being non-virgin has had “relationshipS”. Why? You also assume that this woman would not make an ideal wife or companion. And that’s what I have issues with. A lot of people reading my posts will come up with very obvious conclusions like “oh wow, looks like I hit a nerve there” and pretend to play psychologist. But I like arguing about this because I have seen how wrong I have been in assuming a pious 5 times namazi and virgin man would make a great husband. No, it doesn’t work like that.

My issue is that I see people praying, keeping long beards, saying Alhumulillah, Mashallah, Subhanallah and Inshallah and janay kya kya. And those same people stare below your neck when you speak, lie, treat their wives like garbage, etc. Not all, but a considerable # do. But that beard…oh that beard…it makes you want to ask them to pray for you right?

I do not believe these idiotic requirements guarantee an ideal wife/husband or piety. I believe your religion is truly a WAY of life/a mentality/a thinking process…not only ONE aspect of your life.