Do gorillas ever get on the right side of the bed? :aq:
anyways
my take on it, yes a guy and girl can be friends but not the same way a girl and girl or guy and guy can be.
the way i am with my friends, funny/perverted/lovey text msgs, sleepovers (sleeping in the smae bed), hugs, sharing clothes nad makeup, talking abou twhatever…no way i can do that with even the “best” guy friend i have. thats just not how i am, nor do I think most half-way decent ppl would do that wiht opposite gender friends. (unless ur getting makeup tips from the dude… but thats a different thread)
naaw, just throwing and bouncing ideas, I learn quite a lot from you people. I am glad you agree that they can be friends. I admit to the possibility of bad intentions, but then in today’s age you cant even trust a person of the same sex when it comes to intentions. lol
Like I said, I have attended the weddings of some of my very good female friends, and if it didnt suit them, we ended it at a happy note and did not communicate again. And I have some married friends, whose husbands dont mind.
You are right, there are more common interests and more things you can do with a friend of the same sex. But when it comes to quality of friendship, sincerity and sacrifice, then it is between two persons - sex has less to do with it.
NJMasti - Yea I got it. I must say you haven't had any good experiences when it comes to having friends from the opposite sex.
seriously thinking - no I never had any guy friend. I thought I had them as friends but I always found out they were interested in me dating wise...
so ya! makes me feel less fortunate =(
I could never have guy friends =( seriously I cannot name one guy who was me buddy - although I always felt that guys always understood me better than any of my girl friends.
I think every situation is different so there will always be exceptions to the stereotype/generalization that guys and girls can never be just friends. I've seen guy/girl friendships....which are just that....a mutual friendship. And I've seen several relationships which start out as friendships and develop into something more either mutually or as a one-sided affair. But I have seen purely platonic friendships between the opposite genders as well. It can go either way.
sigh men and women being just friends may be possible for some but not for me. even when i consider girls just friends, they start macking on me, sending me suggestive PMs asking about GS things and just lil chat about this and that..and making suggestive comments in my blog.
I see right through it, sly, stealth macking like...oh your son is so cute, I want to kiss him, bite his cheeks, and then end with "oh he looks so much like you"..ummmm hmmmmm yep I got it, loud and clear...its a misdirection.
at one time I thought just friendship between men and women can be possible, but now after being stalked on this site, I have changed my point of view.
They come and ask things about career, about health, about family stuff, and about industry..some are friends wit my wife, emailing her and calling her, some have found me on facebook...some want to meet me when I am in their cities, some try to give me all their pesonal info by asking me to review their resumes.....hah they are not fooling me, i know its just a way for them to have contact, have some satisfaction in their silly little girlie heads that they made some sort of connection with their objection of desire..
women..I tell ya...sheesh.
PS: did that sound absolutely ridiculous and pathetic and maila?..yeah?? so its not true yeah?.. which basically means justfriendship is possible yeah? good... case closed
PS2: yeah I bust out wisdom in unconventional ways sometimes to make a point.
look, a dozen or so times I have given examples noted that its possible and infact not just possible it exists and ppl dont buy it, so I tried a diff approach, did u read the "ps"
its like the usual suspects...its the ending that puts it all in perspective.
^ Are you trying to point out in a somewhat ironic way that queries about career, family, etc. can simply be queries and not necessarily an attempt at flirting?
Because I believe it can go either way. If a guy is knowledgeable about a topic/area I have a question about....I feel comfortable asking him about it. My intention is to find out information not to flirt.
However, at the same time, I've seen the "asking for help" strategy used in a flirtatious manner to get someone's attention.
It depends on other factors as well such as the content of the pm, and is the person serious, is this a rare occurrence, etc. Or is this person displaying a consistent pattern of contacting you with unnecessary help requests because that is can be an indication of flirtatious behavior.
Asking for help, complimenting a child.......might or might not be flirtatious. It could also be a sincere innocent compliment/request for help.
^ Are you trying to point out in a somewhat ironic way that queries about career, family, etc. can simply be queries and not necessarily an attempt at flirting?
Because I believe it can go either way. If a guy is knowledgeable about a topic/area I have a question about....I feel comfortable asking him about it. My intention is to find out information not to flirt.
However, at the same time, I've seen the "asking for help" strategy used in a flirtatious manner to get someone's attention.
It depends on other factors as well such as the content of the pm, and is the person serious, is this a rare occurrence, etc. Or is this person displaying a consistent pattern of contacting you with unnecessary help requests because that is can be an indication of flirtatious behavior.
Asking for help, complimenting a child.......might or might not be flirtatious. It could also be a sincere innocent compliment/request for help.
so what category should I consider this post of yours? nudgenudgewinkwink
hands over a bucket to puke in
yeah..it was basically saying we have so many interactions, there are ppl on this site who are my buddies, guys or girls and some i have never even met but we have been there for each other and serve as sources of advise, support etc etc. same is true with ppl in their real life..
naaw, just throwing and bouncing ideas, I learn quite a lot from you people. I am glad you agree that they can be friends. I admit to the possibility of bad intentions, but then in today’s age you cant even trust a person of the same sex when it comes to intentions. lol
