Let’s not to look at it from a Religious Point of view becuase the answer is pretty is simple really…
Non-Religious View…
I am convinced from a purely non-religious perspective, a man and a woman can never be friends. You can call this my opinion or a fact but in most cases i don’t think it’s possible and i have gone through this and i know it it’s almost impossible to be “Just Friends”, in most cases let’s say about 95%, it is highly unlikely that they will just stay “good friends”…
We humans crave for love and understanding … and when we get that from a certain person be it a friend or anyone … we become addictive more and more of that attention, love and care and understanding … and end up calling it love … and thats the end of friendship!!!
So i have come to a conclusion that if you do want to maintain a healthy male-female friendship, then avoid getting too close and maintain your distance … that way your friendship might survive … :aliyish1:
^ I have come to agree with this statement also Bonnie… through experience.
One example -
Whilst i had a good handful of girl friends whom i was very close with, the majority of my friends were guys whilst growing up and whilst at university, specially one (who we will call Sam for this case), who i treated like a brother.
Sam would come around to my house and hang out with me and my family, no problem. Then a tall handsome frenchman came onto the scene and everything changed…
suddenly Sam became distant, wouldn’t come round to hang out, would even blank me at university!! We had done so much together - travel around Europe, mountain climbing, camping, going to concerts etc.. it was hard for me to comprehend why he was acting like this. I understood that my focus was now elsewhere, and that Sam was just a little jealous, and i tried to ‘involve’ him more, but he just shrugged me off.
So when i introduced my ‘hubby to be’ to my parents soon after, my brother took me to one side and told me about the situation with Sam… Sam apparently wanted to be more than friends… but apparently just couldn’t tell me…
Well why did he not tell me that?!?!?!? Women are not mind readers!!
Anyway, yep after that, and several other experiences, i have realised that whilst men and women can be friends, you just have to keep your distance… because men are programmed to want something more…ALWAYS!
Somebody, I dont remember who, said "I have two types of female friends, one that I sleep with, and the other that I dont sleep with but I want to"
Having said that, yes it is possible. I've had female friends over years, some I have known since I was a child, some got married and I attended the function and didnt feel like my love was lost or something. They have been good buddies.
One disturbing observation though, unfortunately its mostly the desi girls who develop 'deeper' feelings for some of their friends and mess up the whole relationship. Long live bollywood!
