why does a good little girl like you know so much about men? 
I think the answer depends a lot on culture and how the boy or girl was raised. For example, growing up in a gora American family, having both male and female friends wasn't a problem, and I honestly never had a situation with a male American friend where I felt there was tension, hopes for something more, etc. I am getting married in six weeks and have two male friends who are attending our wedding who I have known for 10+ years without there ever being an issue.
But then in college I experienced living in the Middle East, and although I was conservative in my behavior I would still meet lots of young people my age through college classes, etc. A few times I met guys who I thought would make good friends, but it always seemed that after two or three decent conversations the guys claimed to fall in love with me. I realized that many of them had very little contact with girls, which made them more vulnerable to developing feelings for any girl they had a meaningful connection with---they didn't distinguish between friendship connection and romantic love connection. And yes, I understand that as a gori some guys probably had some mistaken physical expectations of me, or that there may have been a 'visa hound' here or there, but generally I am talking about smart, educated, nice guys who could have found their own way to America or their own girlfriend without a problem. They didn't need me as an excuse.
For Western gora guys, generally, they are used to having contact with girls their whole life without a taboo, so they don't fall as easily.
so what category should I consider this post of yours? nudge nudge wink wink
hands over a bucket to puke in
yeah..it was basically saying we have so many interactions, there are ppl on this site who are my buddies, guys or girls and some i have never even met but we have been there for each other and serve as sources of advise, support etc etc. same is true with ppl in their real life..
X2,
That's what I thought you were saying but I wasn't so sure.
That's why in my previous post I said, "Are you trying to point out in a somewhat ironic way that queries about career, family, etc. can simply be queries **and not necessarily **an attempt at flirting?"
I was trying to ask you if you were making the point that one's interactions could simply be platonic or it could be flirtations.....it could go either way.
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Don't flatter yourself dude**. No need at all for the nudge, nudge, wink, wink! LOL.
And you seem like a decent enough and intelligent person....so I think a "puke in the bucket" reaction to your subtle but wrong hypothesis **of the **possibility of my post being flirtatious would be a bit harsh. You don't strike me as being that repulsive (kidding).
As for which category you can place my post **in........you can place it in the **platonic/acquaintance category.
I was merely seeking a sincere clarification in my post. I assure you.....I did not harbor any flirtatious intentions toward you......and nor was my post a flirtatious attempt. LOOOOL!
whew..thanks for clarifying. you know with all these women..and some men (yes TLK you) chasing after me, I just get very nervous about people’s intentions.
People mack at me so much that even computer systems do it, i set a reminder on my outlook and the reminder window pops up saying “hey gorgeous, I hate to see you go, but you have a meeting in 15, come back soon xoxoxo luv ya”
whats a person to think sigh
PS: you are overdoing that really convincing that you were infact not being flirtatious. i know these tricks from a mile away, yeah make me feel a false sense of security and as soon as I let my guard down. sigh women..why do they treat men like objects 
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^ Sometimes you have to make a stronger effort for people to GET the point that you're NOT flirting with them. You want to make sure that you don't leave behind even an iota of hope/wishful thinking in their overconfident minds......especially when they assume that everyone is mackin on em.
You know, X2, I had a pretty good hunch that you would respond to my previous post by acting relieved that I'm not flirting with you. I even had a strong hunch that you'd attack me for trying tooo hard in convincing you that I'm not flirting. And my hunch turned out to be right about you responding in such a fashion.
Aaaaaw......poooooor X2.....overwhelmed by all these people (female and males for that matter) that he so confidently assumes are M**ACKIN **on him.
And then he ends up acting "relieved" *when he finds that they no Mack-ful attentions whatsoever. Alright, X2......we'll let you pretend that you're "relieved." I suppose there's little else you can do but act *"relieved" *when trying to nurse a **bruised ego * that only a few moments ago was being **FLATTERED by its over-confident owner.
LOOOL!
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^ typical approach you amatuer
when the approach to give me a false sense of security is called out for what it is, try reverse psychology.
when will it end? :(
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anyways 
all joking aside, was good to chat and i guess ppl did get the point that men and women can just be friends.
PS: or foes 
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I don't think reverse psychology is the kind u need. U require some other treatment. To go around and assume that everyone wants you.......what would that be......narcissistic personality disorder?.....Direct approach is best in this scenario.
When will it end? It will end when you stop giving YOURSELF the false sense of security that everyone wants you.
^ Yes, joking aside, it has been a fun thread. Men and women can friends, more than friends, and even enemies!
To go around and assume that everyone wants you.......what would that be......narcissistic personality disorder......Direct approach is best in this scenario.
I think that's X2's point.
and sadly ALOT of our desi girls suffer from somewhat mild to severe forms of this disorder. Not just being wanted by men, but they feel all girls hate them, aunties pick on them, everyone is out to get them, and they thrive on being victims.
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sara516- I brotherly love you maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan
you get me...and saw what I have been trying to show in this thread throughout. :)
PS: had to specify brotherly in their because I dont want my punk ass kicked by saeein
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In my experience, its barely ever worked out. I had male friends in school and everything was fine when I first met them. But after a while of knowing them, things started getting funny from their end. The wierd comments, questions, pointless jealousy, drama, stalking (yes, stalking), etc. It was just too much so over time, I ended up cutting down contact with most of my male friends. I dont even have their #s anymore and dont need them. If I see them somewhere, I say hello. But I dont go out of my way to call them. No, Im not trying to imply Im hot or anything, just an average little desi gal. I just saw one of them at an expo I was at and he started teasing me that the last time I called him was when we were still in school and needed to cheat off of him. I just smiled and said Ive been busy and whatnot.
Its so much easier this way! No misunderstandings, no misinterpretation of what I said, no twisting of my words, no phone calls at 3am crying on the phone, no hurt feelings and no pointless guilt because you didnt do anything wrong!
That being said, not ALL men are like that. I do know of some men who keep a respectful distance and keep things comfortable at the same time. But its rare.