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^ yes why? 
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I dont get it, how the hell are paki syeds decendants of the prophet? Does this mean they are ethnically arab?
Don't you know?! ALL Pakistani Muslims are somehow related to the Arabs, unlike the Indians!
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Curiosity, and in relation to your previous answer and in such vivid manner and dedication you replied.
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Don't you know?! ALL Pakistani Muslims are somehow related to the Arabs, unlike the Indians!
LMAO
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Yes all true Syeds are Arabs in that they have Arab blood in them somewhere... :)
That is interesting. I did not know that. Do most of the true Syeds look more Arabic than Indian?. Please give me some example of any famous people who are Syeds. I had heard about this this but did not know the details. Would love to learn more.
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Vat bakwas!
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**Once there was a very handsome, pious, well educated young man, whose parents emphasized for him to get married. They had seen so many marriage proposals, and he had turned them all down. The parents thought it was becoming a little ridiculous or suspected that he may have someone else in mind.
However every time the parents left the girl's house, the young man would always say "She's not the one!" The young man only wanted a girl who was religious and practicing. (Which was hard to find). However one evening his mother arranged for him, to meet a girl, who was religious and practicing.
On that evening, the young man and girl were left to talk and ask each other questions (as one would expect). The young man, being a gentleman that, he allowed the young lady to ask first. The young girl asked the young man so many questions. She asked about his life, his education, his friends, his family, his habits, his hobbies, his lifestyle, his enjoyment, his time pass, his experiences, his shoe size and his likes and dislikes. Basically everything! And the young man replied to all of her questions, without tiring and politely with a smile. Young girl took up nearly all of the time, over an hour and felt bad and asked the young man "Do you have any questions?"
Young man said, "Yes, I only have 3 questions..."
Young girl thought, wow, only 3 questions okay, go ahead and shoot. Young man's first question was, (1) Who do you love the most in the world, someone whose love nothing would ever overcome? She said, "this is an easy question! Answer to your question is my mother."
Young man smiled and asked second question, (2) You said that you read a lot of Qur'an, could you tell me which Surahs you know the meaning of? Hearing this she went red and embarrassed and said "I do not know the meaning of any yet, but I am hoping to soon Insha'Allah. I have just been a bit busy."
The third question the young man asked, was (3) I have been approached for my hand in marriage by girls that are lot more prettier than you, why should I marry you? Hearing this, the young girl was outraged, she stormed off to her parents with fury and said I do not want to marry this man he is insulting my beauty and intelligence.
And the young man and his parents once again left without an agreement of marriage. This time, the young man's parents were really angry and said "What did you do to anger that young girl, the family was so nice and pleasant, and they were religious like you wanted. What did you ask the girl? Tell us!"
Young man said, firstly I asked her, who do you love the most? She said, her mother. The parents said so, what is wrong with that?
Young man said, "No one, is Muslim, until he loves Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) and his Messenger (SallAllahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) more than anyone else in the world." If a woman loves Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) and Beloved Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) more than anyone, she will love me and respect me and stay faithful to me, because of that love and fear for Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa). And we can share this love, because this love is greater than lust for beauty.
Young man said, then I asked, 'You read Holy Qur'an a lot, can you tell me the meaning of any Surah?' And she said 'no'. because I haven't had time yet. So I remembered the saying of Imam Shafi'i, "All humans are dead except those who have knowledge ... And all those who have knowledge are asleep, except those who do good deeds .. And those who do good are deceived, except those who are sincere ... And those who are sincere are always in a state of worry (for others)." She has lived 20 years on this earth and not found any time to seek knowledge, why would I marry a woman, who does not know her rights and responsibilities, and what will she teach my children, except how to be negligent, because the woman is the Madrasah (school) and the best of teachers. And a woman, who has no time for Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa), will not have time for her husband.
The third question I asked her was, that a lot of girls, more prettier than her, had approached me for marriage, why should I choose her? That is why she stormed off, getting angry. Young man's parents said that is a horrible thing to say, why would you do such a thing; we are going back there to apologize. Young man said I said this on purpose, to test whether she could control her anger.
Holy Prophet Muhammad (SallAllahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) said "Do not get angry, do not get angry, do not get angry" repeatedly when asked how to become pious, because anger is from Satan.
If a woman cannot control her anger with a stranger she just met, do you think she will be able to control it with her husband? So, the moral of this story is, a marriage is based on: Knowledge not looks, Practice not preaching, Forgiveness not anger, Spiritual love not lust and compromise!
One should look for a person who (1) Has love for Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) and his Messenger (SallAllahu Alayhi Wa Sallam), (2) Has knowledge of the deen (religion), and can act upon it, (3) can control her anger and another important and crucial factor that she be (4) willing to compromise. And it goes both ways, so women seeking a man, should look for the same things.
May Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) make every marriage a success and let us create Love for Allah and his Messenger (SallAllahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) so that Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) can bless us, and create love in our lives, Ameen!**
I get the moral of your story, I do.
However, this whole testing thing is ridiculous. If he was pious and really sincere...he would not have been offended by her honesty and tried to help her. I dont think its right morally to look down upon others...even in regards to where they stand in their religious knowledge.
The "holier than thou" attitude is one we should all try to avoid.
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^^ The story is told to convey the moral and not to say that his event actually happened...
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I understand but the message being conveyed is also that of arrogance. The man may consider himself superior in faith but he actually was not.
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^No one can win from women when it comes to argument, i have learned this in last 2 year 8 months and 2 days.
One = Human
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^No one can win from women when it comes to argument, i have learned this in last 2 year 8 months and 2 days.
Correct!
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Lol
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aadmi ko maa-yas-sar nahi insaaan hona.....
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aadmi ko maa-yas-sar nahi insaaan hona.....
**a lil correctionin RED] bro...and, i'm completing the she'r which happens to be beautiful:
bas k dushwaar hai har kaam kaa aasaaN honaa
aadmii ko bhii moyassar nahiiN insaaN honaa :D**
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:k:
Got the idea though, right? 
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lol YES!
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I am a Choudhry born and raised in the U.S and she is a Syed born in Pakistan and raised in the U.K. She's afraid to tell her parents about me because they look at people's castes. Is a Choudhry as high as a Syed when it comes to this?
in term of family status and background syed are superior. following criteria is based from religious point of view. fourth one is important, which allow us to think about good person rather than caste..
- Beauty
- Family
- Wealth and
- Religion
Hopefully, my answer will help you.
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Don't you know?! ALL Pakistani Muslims are somehow related to the Arabs, unlike the Indians!
:D
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:D
well it is true for real syed...
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I always wonder how did iranians become ahle-bait when they are so adamant on the aryanness of their race? :khums: