Really!! load of crap=acting stiff and made up..and monotonous....maybe thats the reason why most desi couples suck at being themselves around each other...and spend their lives living as strangers....who cares what/how you call him...if there aint any love in it..it doesnt mean anything!!!
Generalizations galore!!!!
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Originally Posted by chanda_kh
again....maybe you guys cannot differentiate between intimacy and the level of understanding required for you be in a position where you CAN call him by whatever name you feel like at the moment.....we all have different kinds of relationships with our partners..
some are informal...and some remain formal...the luxury of having an informal relationship is that you can be formal with him/her anytime you want...
but if you decide to have a completely formal relationship with your husband...you sail in a different boat....
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Again, stereotypes! I'm SO amused at your level of maturity. You can't even differentiate between calling spouse 'aap' and having a formal/informal relationship! You seem to be completely INCAPABLE of understanding the real dynamics of a relationship with spouse so I won't even bother replying to you again. Think whatever you want!
^^armali, I’m not the one being rude. I found HER statements to be extremely rude and so wrong because she is being too judgmental. Look at what she wrote, she’s literally attacking couples like me and my hubby and she doesn’t even know us. Ofcourse, I’m not going to stay quiet and accept her crap!
I am sorry but I HAD to defend her..because you came across rude..and felt strongly about putting the poor girl down..even though she wasnt talk about you...I know I am not supposed to fight someone's battles!! oh well.
I call my husband "tum"...i tried calling him app in the beginning of our marriage but its hard...cuz i'm sooo used to calling him tum...but i think app sounds really sweet and respectful...but i hardly doubt ppl with love marriages call their spouse app....cuz they're so cool & attached w/ them since the beginning.
Oh dear! We had a love marriage, I actually knew my hubby and we had been in a relationship for over 6 years before getting married…We always called each other ‘aap’, not because there’s an age difference but because that’s just what we prefer . He’s only 6 months older than me ! Now do you want me to post a pic of us french kissing each other or me running after him with bailan to prove that we are very close to each other??
Looking at all the above quotes, I don’t think CA is rude, all she said there is no need for generalization. Different people call their spouses with different names and the names they use don’t give us any information to judge their relationships, level of intimacy, love, respect, etc. So yeah I not trying to start a kabadi match here but just thought of making this point.
Lusi,
compare the composition of CA's language, with others in this thread.
CA's accusations of Chanda_kh being immature, calling her post a load of crap, indicating that she is incapable of understanding HER relationship with HER own spouse... what would you call this??
good for u! i don’t think anyone would be interested in seening ur french kissing pix here…by “cool and attached” i mean to say they DON"T HAVE to be formal with each other! In most arrange marriages a wife calls her husband “app” just like when u meet someone desi on the street…u talk to them formally!
Lusi,
compare the composition of CA's language, with others in this thread.
CA's accusations of Chanda_kh being immature, calling her post a load of crap, indicating that she is incapable of understanding HER relationship with HER own spouse... what would you call this??
please read my post again, I didn't say ANYTHING about her relationship with HER spouse. Quit misinterpreting my posts!
And about the language I used, look at what kind of assumptions she's making about MY relationship with my husband because we call each other 'aap'..According to her, we are basically strangers to each other, we have an uncomfortable awkward relationship with each other, we don't really respect or love each other as much as a couple that calls each other 'tum' 'tu' 'tujhe' whatever, and a lot more bs!!! THAT bounds to get on someone's nerves dont you think?
BTW, WHO are you? chanda_kh's lawyer? Let her respond!
Your sisters now..:).