===Calling Your Spouse "APP"

[SaadiaB]

@CurruptAngel

I call my hubby 'aap' and he does the same eventhough there's not much of an age difference but you bet we are very frank with each other and have a lot of respect and love for each other. We have both given each other informal nicks so no awkwardness like some people here are mentioning here!

Same here and I agree with you CA, I could not understand why that former poster said that it creates an awkward situation. Maybe for her.

[Dubaiwali]

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i have given my own nickname for him, i use that.

[mama_ki_dua]

@Samad

Shaadi kay baad I used to call mine for “shonu” and words like “jaan” , now I call her for “kaali dain” and “lammiaN naasaN aali churail” and sometimes for “Motiye Majjay” …all depending on the situation and how romanchik the mahol is, aur usnay kitna acha makeup kia ho.

@Ask99

…What does she call you…Einak wala jinn…or saandh…its reminding me of this joke I heard long time ago.
This guy has head ache and tells his friend to take him to Dangar Doctor.The friend asks why Dangar doctor yar?
Woh Age se kehta hai,mein danger hi hoya. mein din noo Khoteh di tarain kaam kardaain hain, teh hore raat no maj nal soondhain hain

[teddy_bear]

I use Aap with everyone, chahe mujse chota ho ya bara. So hubby too. But trying the "tum" :)

[S02]

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We rarely speak to each other in Urdu, so never use aap.

[jalebi121]

My mom uses 'tum' but if mehman are around she says 'aap' and this always makes me and my sibs giggle.

My dad never uses tum or aap; he just talks generally. Like instead of saying "aap chai piyengi" he would just say "chai ban gayi hai". He has also never said my mom's name...it's so funny...one time a house appraiser was asking my dad's name and he got nervous, like it was a social security number lol He also never says our (kids) names...he just calls us Bari Wali, Pisthy, Bara Wala, and Pistha

I think Punjabi solves all these dilemmas-just call everyone tussi and tusaan

[maher]

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We talk in urdu only when we are around our parents--My nature is kind of very reserved so I call him aap, Its not only for him but everyone else too no matter younger or older--he gets a bit annoyed when I talk to him so formally

[Kaka_MaNNa]

Who has these names for their husbands?

*Booota *

and Allah Dita

[mama_ki_dua]

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Whenever my mommy talks about my dad she says: “Daddy keh rahe thay..”

I just realised that my parents never take eachothers names actually

[chanda_kh]

@CurruptAngel

WOW! that's some real load of crap!

Really!! load of crap=acting stiff and made up..and monotonous....maybe thats the reason why most desi couples suck at being themselves around each other...and spend their lives living as strangers....who cares what/how you call him...if there aint any love in it..it doesnt mean anything!!!

[chanda_kh]

@Sahar02

We rarely speak to each other in Urdu, so never use aap.

same here.. :)

[citrine]

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chanda i agree with u

[chanda_kh]

@SaadiaB

Same here and I agree with you CA, I could not understand why that former poster said that it creates an awkward situation. Maybe for her.

again....maybe you guys cannot differentiate between intimacy and the level of understanding required for you be in a position where you CAN call him by whatever name you feel like at the moment.....we all have different kinds of relationships with our partners..
some are informal...and some remain formal...the luxury of having an informal relationship is that you can be formal with him/her anytime you want...
but if you decide to have a completely formal relationship with your husband...you sail in a different boat....

...since we dont talk in urdu with each other...on occasions maybe....its mostly everything else..including nicknames......anything but aap.....i save that for when i am angry....

[chanda_kh]

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[Sara516]

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Usually it’s outsiders who make such a fuss what the couple calls each other…which I find really pathetic. I call him aap/tum sometimes, he doesn’t like tu or tussi.. and ive never call him by his name.. its the same way too.. when sitting with elders, im careful to say “unn ka” instead of “uss ka”. but sometimes ill slip and then they’ll all jump on me like a pack of hyenas.

[chanda_kh]

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^awwwwwww...I agree..its the relatives who are baffled by the informal tone with your own husband.....i am like 'he is my husband' not my dada'....i guess girls married to older men have difficulty making the transition...

[Decent_6Chora]

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We (me and my wife) are the classic example of famous song:

***AAP sai, phir TUM howay, phir TU ka unwaan ho gaeey ***

WE used to call each other “APP” after the engagement which became “TUM” on the wedding night and its becomes “TU” when we are in fight or overwhelming with love

Let me admit, initially I was a bit taken when she called me “idher aoo” or “my name, tv on ker doo” as I would have liked “idher aoo na” and “my name, tv on ker do na” better, but then I came to terms with it as SHE liked it. She said, she wana be friend with me and not wife…and we even come to “TU - TARAKH” now

[XChorniX]

@Sara516

Usually it’s outsiders who make such a fuss what the couple calls each other…which I find really pathetic. I call him aap/tum sometimes, he doesn’t like tu or tussi.. and ive never call him by his name.. its the same way too.. when sitting with elders, im careful to say “unn ka” instead of “uss ka”. but sometimes ill slip and then** they’ll all jump on me like a pack of hyenas.**

i wouldn’t wana imagine that

[_Janu_Jia]

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m telling u sansein like these....
KITCHEN ME UNHE JALADO OIL DALKE

DECENT 6CHOR i luv ur nick lolzz

[Ask99]

@chanda_kh

again....maybe you guys cannot differentiate between intimacy and the level of understanding required for you be in a position where you CAN call him by whatever name you feel like at the moment.....we all have different kinds of relationships with our partners.. some are informal...and some remain formal...the luxury of having an informal relationship is that you can be formal with him/her anytime you want... but if you decide to have a completely formal relationship with your husband...you sail in a different boat....

...since we dont talk in urdu with each other...on occasions maybe....its mostly everything else..including nicknames......anything but aap.....i save that for when i am angry....

You explained it very well:)