I call my husand “tum” after couple of year of calling him “App”.He calls me tum rom the very start.
A friend of mine was berating me that I should call him App and not tum when she heard me call him tum?
Personally I think tum feels much more informal
(btw I tell him to call me App during a larai:cb:)
What do you guys call your spouses?
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well before engagment i ws used to call him tum
now i call him app..or mia jee most of the time
yea mia jee ..very traditional...
and he calls me tum..and begum most of the time...
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We switch back and forth. Tum, aap, tu depending on the situation.
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aap....tum...hey you....oye larkey.... :) LOL.....i cant do the formal act with my husband...its so boooooring!!! now i really hope no one brings the argument of 'arrange vs love'....because it sounds really silly.....I had only seen my husband as a kid.....and then I saw him a week before our nikah..after the 'haan'.....I think the reason a couple communicates successfully is directly related to the way you see each other.....is your informality limited to bed only......? or you actually share a healthy relationship full of love/respect...?
for me ..'aap' doesnt signify respect...it just causes an uncomfortable...awkward distance....
i call him aap...during arguments though.... :)
Thats like switched around.
I know in front of people usually App is the way to go..but you guys swicthed from informal to formal after shadi:konfused:
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When our conversation switches to talking in urdu (which I do when I am angry at him), I call him tum, I have never called him AAP and feels so weird because we are the same age and have known each other for so long. But after marriage, while talking to my relatives in Pakistan and refering to him by his name and calling him tum, they started freaking out because it was just oh soooo disrespectful. He really doesn't care, he said I can call him whatever I want. It may sound bad to alot of older people but I just feel sooo weird having to call him aap, maybe because it sounds sooo formal and with my husband, I even hit him playfully on shoulders or on the cheeks sometimes.. imagine that freaking out my relatives :D
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wese i call him tum …but when we r fighting n it gets on the peak the last thing i say is…danish khan meri bardasht se mat niklo… n then he laughs aur mujhe mana lete he 
no, its ‘tu’ in larai, aap in other times 
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gadha!
there s hardly any urdu involve but i dunno i just dont like the way it sounds
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I want my husband to talk to me in formal formal urdu during Larai ..I have told him a lot of times:hehe:
…Try to do it just to freak em out Was it tum from the beginning
Like
aap toh itni cheekh ti haiN ki humaara dil chahta hai ki aap ko ek ultay haath ka kheench kay zor say lagaouN
like that?
Well, the process from APP to TUM is simple:
Before sex, its AAP and after sex its TUM.
Sari formalities khatam ho jati hain phir
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I have noticed that when my wife is mad at me, she starts calling me tum, though she totally denies doing that.
I think I start speaking in Punjabi when I am mad where app *changes to *tusi
very bad!