Re: but we have ruined our generations......
dawa_i_dil,
Women have always been given a very high respect in the society according to scriptures but people stopped following it millennia ago. Mistreatment/discrimination of/against women in society, workplace and/or even homes continues even today...it is more pronounced in Eastern societies whether you like it or not,, it is an unvarnished truth..
very true.. i agree with you....I admit that Eastern societies usually indo-pak area is famous for this kind of thing...but believe me ..it has nothing to do with islam..as you already quoted..that religious scriptures gave very high position to women and the last and final scripture gave the highest position to women...not posing it as i am muslim but this is the reality....and i am sorry to say ... i am not against hinduism or hindus..all are human beings of allah...but this is also reality that when muslims and hindus lived for 1000 years toghether..both accepted many many things of each other unintentionally...in hinduism...the widow was burnt alive (Satti) with the chitta of her husband .....if not then not second marriage allowed to her she for the whole life used to wear white saari ..always in sad mood...no chance to enjoy her life...she could not go to marriages as people used to call her "Manhoos" ...etc etc..so exactly same behaviours trickled into muslims also...if a widow marry again...people take it the hot topic of the day ..... that might she hs done some "sin"... second marriage is degraded in our society...whereas in islam it is highly recommended and historically proved....people used to avoid widow to thier marriages...also not bring her to stage in front of brigdegroom so that her "saya" or misforune cannot affect the new couple and something like that nonesense...when Shah abdul aziz Dehlvi saw all this...he himself married the widow of his elder brother to break such psuedo norms of the society and he was strictly criticized....but he did not care...he was the son of Shah Wali Ullah Dehlvi and his family is considered as the greatest revivalists of islam in its true form....thier 7 great family members still rest in peace in the Graveyard of Muhanndia in old Delhi....may be you have heard about that graveyard....
The point is eastern society what do..it has nothing to do with religion..they are just the society norm..or inter-mixing o culture attitue of 1000 yer ..while both also accepte many thing..ie many hindus .. you now..repect the Muharram...also bring tazia...sabeel of sharbat or milk etc etc...so this is the multitide cultural things which lead us to the degration and less value of woman..regarding islam is concerned ..it gives her the best status ...before islam..if a daughter born to a father..she was burried alive ...but when prophet(pbuh) came ..he said ...if a man has 3 sisters or 3 daughters ..and he will raise them in good manner..jannah will be wajib on him...one man asked if sisters and daughters are 2 ..then...he replied even then jannah is wajib on him...then the narrator say i do not ask for 1 sister or daughter as i feel ashamed but i am sure ..if i had asked this..prophet(pbuh) would have replied the same....
If parents keep fighting in front of children,,,they will suffer from insecurity, lack of self esteem et al. Human behaviour is very much influenced by the childhood events which create lastig impressions on young minds.
Being a good human being creates a good family...a good family contributes to a good society..and good society leads to a good nation. You see at the centre of it is a single person...effects of his/her conduct radiate outwards.
excellent observation...fully agreed .....
Whether mother is working or not, it hardly matters, but in latter case it puts a challenge on parents to draw a balance between office life, domestic life and personal life. Raising children for working parents is difficult but very much possible...life was never a bed of roses :)
I know couple of cases where husband was having a job in merchant navy...long assignments away from home...so invariably it was mom who was playing multiple roles of mother/father/housewife et al.
yes ..i agree ...working parents can manage it though difficult....but i was taliking particularly about the ase when both at home..financially Ok...no such huge money problem..still both work...and in many many cases..if not all...there is must an affect on children....the point you raised is true..life is never a bed of roses...i agree...but we have made it a non-ending series of misfortunes just for the wordly desires and immortal luxuries !!!!