^ Guys.. read what I wrote. Don't just speak out from your personal experiences!
AGAIN, ur judging people. err hellooo?? ur with ur fiance right?.. ur parents ring u up because??? THEY DONT TRUST YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If it isnt trust issues, Why else would they be ringing you non stop?
They never did mixedbeauty :) Only when it was dark, and dinner time was over, they'd just say beta be on the way now.. late hogaya hai!
You all certainly come from families very different from mine, and you all do as you wish. I don't, and neither will I change my pov :)
AGAIN, ur judging people. err hellooo?? ur with ur fiance right?.. ur parents ring u up because??? THEY DONT TRUST YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
umm.. sure. If that makes you sleep better... eye roller
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excuse me, you dont know our families. So hush your mouth. Your the one that put my parents were ringing me non stop. and how u HATED them for doing so.
Atleast we have parents that CARE for our happiness. And really dont care about what ABC thinks!
The other thing is the family racial difference. We're urdu speaking, and she's not... Tons of other issues. Like I said, I'm indifferent.
I really don't think any posts here will affect you or help you in any way--since you clearly have a superiority complex.
If she had an attitude problem, if she was rude to your parents, didn't respect you etc--i could understand your reservations. but to call her irritating for wanting to be your friend, to point out her ethnicity, and criticize her for the way she interacts with her own family, those don't seem valid reason sto not like someone.
There's nothing wrong in being interested in your brothers life--after all you are a sister, and siblings should be involved in each others' lives. but if you are really so indifferent then this thread wouldn't even exist now would it?
excuse me, you dont know our families. So hush your mouth. Your the one that put my parents were ringing me non stop. and how u HATED them for doing so.
Atleast we have parents that CARE for our happiness. And really dont care about what ABC thinks!
umm can you please quote where I said they were ringing me nonstop? Yeah, that's what I'm telling you. I hated them then for asking me to head back home after it was late. But now, I can't thank them enough for it! Cuz I could never see from their eyes, what they saw then. God forbid, if I hAD hung out with my fiance all thru the night and headed back as late as I wanted, how much MORE I'd have to hear from my mil
Yeah and that's exactly what I'm saying. I can go meet her up all I want and so can my sister. Till my parents approve of it, my bro's getting no signal. It's a different story that he goes ahead anyways and does what he wants. It's a compromise eitherways. He can either please my parents and hate his wife, and that would never make my parents or us happy. Or he can choose to go and marry her rightaway which wont make my parents happy either cuz he did what they didn't want him to RIGHT NOW. And again, cuz of that we would all hold grudges against his gf/wife so the situation wouldn't change. If they let him date and choose who he wanted to marry, they wouldn't be conservative, now would they be? The other thing is the family racial difference. We're urdu speaking, and she's not... Tons of other issues. Like I said, I'm indifferent.
And for all I know, they might've already done a secret paper-marriage/ nikah.. who knows!! See, you can't please everyone. That is why I would rather watch out on my sister while I can.
i think the sister topic has already been discussed by others and well. you keep adding it as a footnote when it seems your problem is not that at all.
all i can say is alhumdulillah that my parents are so cool. we are looking for my brother right now and there is no way our dad and my brother can both be pleased. my dad knows this and had said 'at the end of the day i'm not going to be in this world much longer, all i want is for you children to be happy and have good spouses who will keep the family together and stick with each other through thick and thin. as long as you think you have found that, that's what matters above what i think.'
this is because of the girls my bro was introduced to, the one he likes is not pakistani but she's very much what he wants in a wife.
so, i don't think your parents should 'compromise' but they should look at the bigger picture.
and i don't think your parents are conservative, i think they just want to appear to be. hence turning a blind eye to your brothers activities, rather than saying 'NO you can't marry her' or 'Dating it not allowed so we are going to take the steps for marriage'. and also, isn't it up to the girls family if they are okay/not okay with your brother not working yet etc?
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Yeah thats the one. 'family racial difference' 'were urdu speaking shes not'
LOADSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS of other reasons!!
tell us!
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ahahahah … SHE DOESNT SPEAK URDUUUU … 
seriously … i am beginning to wonder that why are you being so nosy!!!
and i still dont get you. what is it to you? that you werent allowed to go all crazy with your fiance like your brother’s GF is already being with your brother before she even is a fiance???
whatt whaaat whaaaat??? 
Um...honey if you were indifferent, this thread wouldn't exist, would it?
I really don't think any posts here will affect you or help you in any way--since you clearly have a superiority complex.
This so reminds me of another thread opened some time ago. Man that was one monster SIL.
yeah cuz honey, you all totally went off on a different tangent. I wanted suggestions on how to deal with this whole thing influencing my sister, and creating yet another complex situation to be dealt at home by my parents. Dealing with teenagers is certainly not an easy task! haha... and on that same note, I can see what wonderful DIL's you all make. "pun intended"
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Errrrr, Never Mind 
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You LOVE judging people dont u. I jus pitty you. You have the biggest complex EVER. Your from some backward paindu, Narrowminded. Family, arent you? arent you? Yep you are.
Obviously you no longer belong to 'your family' Right? your married. Now go. Your sister is not your sister, she is infact gonna be sisters with your brothers gf. And we can all see she prefers her so much more to you!
And atleast when our little sisters/cousins, wanna ask us something or confined in us they wont be too scared too. Or go to someone else.
Because we wont judge.
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bhenjee, have you spoken to your sister at all regarding your concerns about dating, etc.?
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also, conservative? you were allowed to go for dinner with your fiance.. that's not very conservative in my opinion. hell, we have to keep inviting my brother's potential and her mum to our house so they can get to know each other coz he's totally opposed to outside/private meetings and even phone calls. that's conservative.
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It's not even that she doesn't speak Urdu. She's not "Urdu-Speaking" which refers to an ethnicity within Pakistan. Everyone in Pakistan speaks Urdu (mostly, of course), and so this girl is possibly Pakistani but maybe she is Sindhi, or Punjabi, or Pushtun, or Balochi, or Memon or Gujrati, or Seraiki, or Baltan, or whatever.
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Oh and im still waiting for the 'other issues'
umm can you please quote where I said they were ringing me nonstop? Yeah, that's what I'm telling you. I hated them then for asking me to head back home after it was late. But now, I can't thank them enough for it! Cuz I could never see from their eyes, what they saw then. God forbid, if I hAD hung out with my fiance all thru the night and headed back as late as I wanted, how much MORE I'd have to hear from my mil
So you're already having to hear things from your MIL?
yeah cuz honey, you all totally went off on a different tangent. I wanted suggestions on how to deal with this whole thing influencing my sister, and creating yet another complex situation to be dealt at home by my parents. Dealing with teenagers is certainly not an easy task! haha... and on that same note, I can see what wonderful DIL's you all make. "pun intended"
Issues are rarely clear and simple dear, most of the people who post here asking for advice do often include lots of different issues, and tangents arise as well.
Like I said, if you were truly indifferent, this thread wouldn't even exist. But you are so bothered by this non-Urdu speaking girl....
anyways, arguing with your kind is useless. :)
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I was chilled sara, Its jus she was judging so much. I wanted her to feel what its like to be judged without even being known. I dont like it when people judge at all. Really gets to me.
but im chilled 