Broken Engagement

[Zamzam123]

Re: Broken Engagement

@amber19

In all honesty, don’t blame his mother for breaking up this relationship, because truth be told, there will be a lot of people in your life who create misunderstandings, twist your words and create drama in your marriage. Yes MIL’s often get blamed for doing this but so can other relatives with too much free time on their hands or with insecurities. The point is, as a couple you should stay united and trust each other enough to know what the other is capable of. I might be wrong in some cases or my husband might be, but we never belittle each other in front of our respective parents or sides of the family. If he’s wrong or I’m wrong, we discuss it alone and work it out. But this guy left you, today it’s because of his mom’s interference, tomorrow it might be because of someone else’s. The point is - his solution is to run away instead of solving the issue head on, and that’s a sign of someone who isn’t ready for marriage at all, let alone defending someone or at least hearing both sides of the story.

He is immature and breaking a rishta over the phone is cowardice. You don’t need to get over him in 2 seconds but please don’t forget that you cannot always bend over backwards for people and expect them to do the same. I don’t even blame his mother as much as I think I blame him handling the situation poorly. The fact of the matter is, he dropped you instantly as soon as his mother and you had a conflict instead of trying to patch up the situation. That’s just not right in any situation. Breaking a rishta over stupid arguments is the most ridiculous thing I’ve seen desis do and it still baffles me to this day.

Thank you for your reply sis, your right and deep down I know his mum isn’t really to blame whatsoever.. If he truly cared like he claimed he did he wouldn’t of just ended things over the phone like a coward and spoke face to face but he is one of those guys who doesn’t like confrontation. My mom always says a relationship is like building a house. If the foundation is strong you will survive any storm if the foundation is weak that house won’t stay standing for long. I suppose like any girl I dreamt wedding and didn’t even see this happening to me. But Allah swt is always the best of planners. Honestly guys I appreciate all of your comments and glad I joined this site coz reading your comments gives me a sense of courage and brings a smile to my face