My best friend in my neighborhood is a lady who adopted 3 kids from Russia - 2 boys (age 9 and 7) and a girl age 6, biological siblings....
I have them over every friday for a playdate and the 6 yr old girl is the only girl kid....she faces down 5 boys. Turns out that SHEs the boss, she's in control, all the boys are gentle with her and usually do what she says to do. AND if she doesnt want a hug or a kiss or any sort of overly affectionate showing, she tells them off.
That shows how well you and that lady are raising your boys. That is exactly what I was asking MO3
hmmmmm....ok so now we're cooking with oil! So I guess the thing to do would be to teach the young gals to set their foots down firmly right from the start. NO!! NO KISS me! High Five ONLY!!" If the boys have been raised properly then they will comply. If not, then those boys should be scratched off the "play-date" list.
The most important thing is to let the little girls know that its OK and even necessary to set boundaries. Because guys typically do NOT have evil intentions, actually I think guys usually have better intentions than gals....but if boundaries are not set then they'll take things as far as they canl
MO3, yes, but trust me, you have to see some desi boys who watch a lot of Bollywood. They start acting like Indian movie heroes very early on. Take this 6 year old boy we know, for example. Nice family and all, but their "dish" is on all day, so when he comes back from school, he has his lunch in front of two crazy people running and singing in the rain with clingy clothes and jerky head movements. Trust me, the effects aren't that nice.
Im freaking out guys.... I've a daughter too. I already freak out if boys get too close to her. The other day, a 6 yr old boy was leaning over her in a very unappropriate way while she was having her bottle, and I DID tell him to move... it's just not on... I know he meant no harm, but seriously, it freaked me out.. BIG TIME
and Gemini, i think u did the right thing... last year, a 2 yr old tried to smooch my daughter but she pushed him away.. but he ended up doing it to my neice... thank goodness my hubby grabbed her before it got too crazy..
and this is when we started to watch our behaviour infront of our daughter... kids learn from their parents.
Seriously..i would never let my kids around such bollywood garbage.
Yup. We don't "socialize" with them much anymore, and if they ever do come over, the kids have to play in the family room in front of us not in their room.
but from what I’ve seen…guys are more sensitive. Sure, they wanna “get some” and will try to do just that. But most of the time, when they;re told “no”, they respect and stop. Gals can get mean and manipulative. Anyways…I think that the majority of the time, a guy just needs to have boundaries set and then everything will be fine.
MO3, I guess kids, girls or guys, learn from their parents, and the reason why your boys are sho "shareef" is because you and your hubby are "shareef."
lol!! I did ask him and I thank you kindly for the complement! My boys surely are upstanding and honorable (or ELSE!!!) but I think mostly kids really do want to be shareef. They want approval and acceptance. I;ve seen some kids be SO very nice and kind even with the most UNshareef of parents, all they need is a little bit of direction and guidance yeah? So if theres a rascal around your daughter, outline acceptable behaviors, unacceptable behaviors and give clear examples of guidelines. They'll march along like good little soldiers I bet.
yup, I'm watching my friend's 3 year old today while she's away for a huge doc appointment, and trust me he and my 2 are getting along great for the most part except that he insists on scaring my 3 year old with lion sounds and then running after her and trying to fall on her. At first she just wept but I just saw her yelling at him "don't taach me. I will tell yo mammie that you hot (hurt) me!"
Oh my god, the poor kid was shocked. Now he's playing gently.
I had 3 yrs of martial arts training and it was** INcredible**. Great idea to introduce your girls to this very special sport. It teaches patience, acceptance, serenity and self-defense. Pretty much in that order and its had an effect on my life every day. It boosts confidence, ability to defend oneself, ability to deal with others in a serene but firm way. And should the need arise, she'll be able to cripple the most moosy and aggressive of football players with the greatest of ease!
yup, I'm watching my friend's 3 year old today while she's away for a huge doc appointment, and trust me he and my 2 are getting along great for the most part except that he insists on scaring my 3 year old with lion sounds and then running after her and trying to fall on her. At first she just wept but I just saw her yelling at him "don't taach me. I will tell yo mammie that you hot (hurt) me!"
Oh my god, the poor kid was shocked. Now he's playing gently.
