Boys and girls playing together

[CE]

Re: Boys and girls playing together

Yes u r nikki, u should of invited tht child to ur home an let him help u prepare the dinner

[Niksik]

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That would’ve have been a yummy dinner, eh

[TLK]

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Thank God that CE is not our Parenting Counselor ..

CE I would suggest that dont quit your daytime job

[Niksik]

Re: Boys and girls playing together

If I remember correctly, CE is in the childcare profession :D

[_MuNiYa]

@TLK

No no, I wont keep them away from the company of boys, as long as we teach them the limits (that my older one is already aware of), that is perfectly fine if they associate with boys and girls both.

My concern is, families of our immediate social circle seem to be more relaxed about their boys than their daughters. SO my issue is not what I am teaching my girls, but what they are teaching their boys.

You can’t control other people parenting (stop being like my mother! )
but you can change the people around you. Make sure you immediate family friends share the same values that you do.

@Niksik

Was I being a bad parent ??

Allah nahee!! for the mother who lets her kids urinate anywhere.

[Milly]

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In the U.K they (government) want 5 years to learn about 'relationships'. A more 'simple' version of Sex Ed.

I, for one aint teaching it. I will tell all my girls that boys do indeed smell and to stay away from them!

[CE]

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Sorry I meant I would of invited the child to prepare TLK’s dinner

Its never to late

[TLK]

In the U.K they (government) want 5 years to learn about 'relationships'. A more 'simple' version of Sex Ed. !

Sorry I meant I would of invited the child to prepare TLK's dinner

UK's education policy and CE are two reasons, I am thankful for that I dont live in UK

[Milly]

UK's education policy and CE are two reasons, I am thankful for that I dont live in UK

Your face the sole reason we don't want to see you in the U.K.

[TLK]

Your face the sole reason we don't want to see you in the U.K.

I agree, my face wont match the ugliness of your island. I mean my beauty can balance the ugly universe but even I can do only so much.

[CE]

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OK girls an boys lets play together nicely :p

[Niksik]

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Time to post a mod warning eh

[NJMasti]

@Colourful eyes

OK girls an boys lets play together nicely

be careful color! when you say playing - guys are thinking of a different game.

[TLK]

@NJMasti

be careful color! when you say playing - guys are thinking of a different game.

I am always interested in games related to medical field

[njgal]

Re: Boys and girls playing together

niksik had a thread on this issue a while ago - so I got confused.

I have two girls as well 5 and 3. At this age, I don't care if they play together. My hubby on the other hand, keeps his eye on every little rascal that tries to get near her.

they are in the "ewwww cuuuties" stage but I know that will turn into** "hey cutie" stage** pretty soon so he's preparing himself

I think at 7ish you might want to keep an eye on them as some of them might want to play doctor doctor. You will also know the "innocent shareef" boys (my hubby says there is no such thing) from the ones that are very chalo from the very beggining.

But I agree - If you were parents of boys you wouldn't care as much.

[TLK]

@njgal

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they are in the “ewwww cuuuties” stage but I know that will turn into** “hey cutie” stage** pretty soon so he’s preparing himself

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I like this one …

your hubby is just like me. I guess all fathers of gilrs are like that

[Mamaof3]

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At age 7, kids are so innocent. My middle son is 7 now and he heard the girls in his class talking about some sleepover they had (i think it was girl scouts). His best friend is this girl and he's been bugg9ng me endlessly to have a "sleepover" (ie., let this girl come spend the night at our house) lol! He has no sexual designs here, he is actually clueless about sex and all that....he just wants to have his friend spend the night. And NOT that it will happen (I am trying to arrange a playground play-date)....but kids at age 7 are not sexually aware. Give it another 4 years or so and THENNNNNNNNNNNNNN break out in hives!!!

[Sara516]

@TLK

We have 2 daughters. One is 6 1/2 and one is 3. Even at this young age, I am not always very comfortable with boys of their age group playing with them. Maybe younger one playing with boys is Ok, but when boys of 6-7 get close to my daughter, I get really uncomfortable.

I notice that parents of boys (from few families that I know locally) are not that uptight about mingling of their boys with girls of same age. There was one incident when my older one (who is a very reserve girl when it come to boys) got embarrassed when a boy of her age, out of blue, kissed her on cheek. I was extremely unhappy but the parents of the boy just laughed about their son’s ‘CUTENESS’

Do you (parents of young grils) are as protective of your girls or you dont care about young girl/boys playing together.

@Gemini_the_Great

Just a couple of weeks ago, i was with my friend’s year and half old daughter at the party and a 3 years old boy came and started kissing n hugging her(literally harassing her while she wanted to play on her own)- she was uncomfortable, I was uncomfortable, so I just picked her up and took her away.. boy’s mommy thought I was being silly and over protective, I told her if she isn’t comfortable, I am not letting anyone touch her and that includes your son.. long story short, auntie doesnt like me anymore

I dun have daughters yet but I guess I won;t be comfortable with it regardless of the age!

Im being serious here, I can understand this overprotectiveness IF the kids themselves are uncomfortable as in these two cases…

but how wud u feel if it was the daughter was totally relaxed around the boys? didn’t find em weird or uncomfortable to touch/talk to?
or is this just one of those things (being uncomfortable around boys) that’s taught from a totally young age?

[TLK]

@Sara516

but how wud u feel if it was the daughter was totally relaxed around the boys? didn't find em weird or uncomfortable to touch/talk to? or is this just one of those things (being uncomfortable around boys) that's taught from a totally young age?

Not being uncomfortable around boys, but teaching that boys are different from girls and they should maintain certain distance and don get too cozy cozy

[Mamaof3]

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My best friend in my neighborhood is a lady who adopted 3 kids from Russia - 2 boys (age 9 and 7) and a girl age 6, biological siblings....

I have them over every friday for a playdate and the 6 yr old girl is the only girl kid....she faces down 5 boys. Turns out that SHEs the boss, she's in control, all the boys are gentle with her and usually do what she says to do. AND if she doesnt want a hug or a kiss or any sort of overly affectionate showing, she tells them off.