i'm hanfi too. as far as i know wali's permission is needed for single virgin and if dad refuses qazi must not proceed but well ppl always find out ways .. yea go ask brother or uncle but islamic law is islamic law if u talk abt islam . court marriages r not related to shariya.
That view simply is not correct. If you don't believe me go and ask an imam of one of the big main mosques where u live (not any of those dodgy maulvis who are more obsessed with culture than Islam).
I haven't mentioned court marriages cos from an Islamic standpoint they don't hold any value (but still recommended for legal reasons and 'security' in western countries, a lot of mosques over here won't allow Islamic marriage without civil done as well cos it can lead to problems esp for the girl)..
If a father was able to discriminate against a person on the basis of race or say he can't become part of my family and Islamically it was ok I don't think I'd even be able to call myself a Muslim. That's pretty messed up imo.