Aww Sanaabc your so not dark infact your really light in my eyes and i cant believe your khala how could one call you kaali? even though your light skinned, im gonna post my pic here again so that you can compare yourself to my colour im way too dark...i can totally understand your feeling when my sis was born my dad was so happy and said " shukar hai iss baar gori peda hui hai" even though he is super dark himself but he said that infront of me when i was only a lil kid..when i was born my mum was so shocked to see a kaali kalotti baby and she cried and asked my dad to call doctor as "aisa nahi hosakta itni kaalii? plz doctor ko bulaein yeh kya hai" she was panicking like anything thats what she told me(thanks to her) and everytime i went pakistan when i was a kid my mamus would ask mum " aap baher rehti hain iskey rang ka koi ILAAJ karwa lein"
Reha, Thanks so much your comment made me really feel better..i hope i can start taking my colour positively.
Sara516, I know im being too senstive even i know that but i just cant help i always try to remain strong about my colour but when someone talks about it i just get soo hurt that its beyond my control..
I really dont wana sound "Nashukri" lekin i cant help i really cant i sometimes look in the mirorr and promise to myself that i wont complain about my colour from now but againnn when somebody points at my colour i just get so embarassed and hurt.
who was saying you kaali. no you are not.
in fact your skin is glowing with NOOR, and you should not care about other because they are jealous of your clean and glowing skin.
Perhaps you should try taking your own advice (an ex of which can be seen in the thread about the Christian girl who was raped in the PA section).. Another part of growing up is not making snide little digs incase you hadn’t noticed
Insprion and Ganxta Girlie, neither of you are actually dark (not that there’s anything wrong with that either), don’t know why ppl would say that to you.. I have massive lips and all my life my **mum **has said they’re ugly (she says ‘black ppls lips’ as an insult) but I love them and I think they make me stand out.. Same for your slightly browner skintones, as you said guys of other races do find it really attractive and think of you as a bit exotic (hence them mistaking you for brazilian - I would love that :))..
You've just witnessed the rapid response team in action. Whether it's the ladies room or the internet, womenfolk will huddle in the event of a crisis. It takes a village to boost a girl's morale. That's how we roll.
imagine if one knows a 'problem' exists and is so unmistakably real but others just deny it and refuse to acknowledge it. that is more hurtful than the actual problem itself. These women are lucky that they can have a catharasis.
btw, mahajirs came from allo over india, hence they have variety of skin tones and it is the reason they were hugely successful in pakistan. i have two bhabis from karachi, one is darker and one is almost white wlike a pathan, so there goes your altaf hussain stereotype. Heck, I am fairer than a lot of punjabis here when they are supposedly a "beauty standard".
ps I am still shocked that moms and dads would brazenly throw around kaali etc for their children. I guess I haven't hung out with that desi crowd or perhaps, euro / UK desis are really paindoo.
btw, mahajirs came from allo over india, hence they have variety of skin tones and it is the reason they were hugely successful in pakistan. i have two bhabis from karachi, one is darker and one is almost white wlike a pathan, so there goes your altaf hussain stereotype. Heck, I am fairer than a lot of punjabis here when they are supposedly a "beauty standard".
ps I am still shocked that moms and dads would brazenly throw around kaali etc for their children. I guess I haven't hung out with that desi crowd or perhaps, euro / UK desis are really paindoo.
na i didnt referring to pathan, they are good looking people.
i know, muhajirs were migrated from various part of India and yes they have different culture. many of them south indian (hyderabdi, banglore), north indian(up, bihar), east punjab (dehli, etc), gujrati, mughal pathan, etc
they all are mixed with different colors.
WTH with altaf thingy here.
Parents dont throw their children if they were not chand ka tukra. if someone does they will surely ill mind people.
who was saying you kaali. no you are not.
in fact your skin is glowing with NOOR, and you should not care about other because they are jealous of your clean and glowing skin.
Thank you so much, you have made my day by saying i have NOOR on my face...thats the best compliment i had ever!
You all have beautiful skin tones if you ask me. STA is right, you are glowing with noor - show the haters the V-sign and work it girlies! FPRIVATE "TYPE=PICT;ALT="
btw, mahajirs came from allo over india, hence they have variety of skin tones and it is the reason they were hugely successful in pakistan. i have two bhabis from karachi, one is darker and one is almost white wlike a pathan, so there goes your altaf hussain stereotype. Heck, I am fairer than a lot of punjabis here when they are supposedly a "beauty standard".
ps I am still shocked that moms and dads would brazenly throw around kaali etc for their children. I guess I haven't hung out with that desi crowd or perhaps, euro / UK desis are really paindoo.
I hope you realize people all over Pakistan and India vary by skin color and desis are mostly always tan. We are desis, we are supposed to be brown! Sheesh.
Ganxta_girLie, none of us is perfect. Ask Miss World and she too would likely have some insecurity about how she looks or how much she weighs or something else. But aren’t we all lucky because we were born without mental or physical disabilities into households where we never really saw the real wants? We went to schools, had parents who were alive while we were growing up, and today still lead very privileged lives compared to the vast majority of people in the world. There are so many people who lack what we had and what we have but still find contentment. If they can be happy then why can’t we as well?
Also, in the West at least black is considered beautiful, there is a multi-billion dollar tanning industry, and many people would kill to have a skin like you. If you have also found the love of your life who sees and appreciates your inner and outer beauty then I don't see any reason for any tension. If some people are still nitpicking about your skin tone, they are probably insecure about some feature of their own appearances and feel good putting down others. And they are the ones who need to deal with it, not you. Haters gonna hate so don't bother yourself about what they have to say.
About your parents though, rest assured that they desire the best for you and love you for who you are. The reason they might have seemed to prefer a different skin color for you while you were growing up is because they probably thought that you wouldn’t get the best ‘rishta.’ Your parents, however, are by no means an exception. Some desi parents can be remarkably pessimist, who would habitually entertain the worst-case scenarios and even nag their children for their perceived shortcomings. But you know what they still really care for their children and want nothing but the best for them.
Finally, I know plenty of social circles comprising chiefly of Pakistanis both in North America and the UK and, now that I think about it, there are all sorts of people in each of these: gora, 'kala', short, tall... This is the first time I am hearing that people would not befriend you because you are perceived as dark-skinned but the more important thing to consider is that would you really want to befriend those shallow people? I mean those are the very kind of people who would talk behind your back and make you feel uncomfortable with snide comments and sarcastic jabs while you are in their presence. To keep you sanity intact, such people are best avoided so good riddance I would say.
Ganxta_girLie, none of us is perfect. Ask Miss World and she too would likely have some insecurity about how she looks or how much she weighs or something else. But aren’t we all lucky because we were born without mental or physical disabilities into households where we never really saw the real wants? We went to schools, had parents who were alive while we were growing up, and today still lead very privileged lives compared to the vast majority of people in the world. There are so many people who lack what we had and what we have but still find contentment. If they can be happy then why can’t we as well?
Also, in the West at least black is considered beautiful, there is a multi-billion dollar tanning industry, and many people would kill to have a skin like you. If you have also found the love of your life who sees and appreciates your inner and outer beauty then I don't see any reason for any tension. If some people are still nitpicking about your skin tone, they are probably insecure about some feature of their own appearances and feel good putting down others. And they are the ones who need to deal with it, not you. Haters gonna hate so don't bother yourself about what they have to say.
About your parents though, rest assured that they desire the best for you and love you for who you are. The reason they might have seemed to prefer a different skin color for you while you were growing up is because they probably thought that you wouldn’t get the best ‘rishta.’ Your parents, however, are by no means an exception. Some desi parents can be remarkably pessimist, who would habitually entertain the worst-case scenarios and even nag their children for their perceived shortcomings. But you know what they still really care for their children and want nothing but the best for them.
Finally, I know plenty of social circles comprising chiefly of Pakistanis both in North America and the UK and, now that I think about it, there are all sorts of people in each of these: gora, 'kala', short, tall... This is the first time I am hearing that people would not befriend you because you are perceived as dark-skinned but the more important thing to consider is that would you really want to befriend those shallow people? I mean those are the very kind of people who would talk behind your back and make you feel uncomfortable with snide comments and sarcastic jabs while you are in their presence. To keep you sanity intact, such people are best avoided so good riddance I would say.
Your right and i agree 100% with u..I'll try to change my thinking INshallah
I don't understand what's the big deal about being dark. Majority of the desis I know take this as a compliment when they are called "Mexican, Arab, Brazilian..yada yada"..and how they don't look Pakistani, Indian, Srilankan ..etc. What's so bad about looking like you belong to these countries. It's something to proud of and not looked down upon.
Beauty doesn't just conform to the color of your skin.
Being a person of color (be it very dark to medium) is so unique and choices of clothes/makeup..etc are endless. And to those who bring you down based of this reason need to grow a brain.
To OP: I was always obsessed at being really tall for some odd reason (I am 5.7) and 5.10 was my ideal. I would stress out about it through out my teens. Grew up and realized the many hours I wasted being upset and how I could had used it constructively doing something else. Just goes on to show, there will always be something you would nitpick about yourself no matter what. On moments like these, I think of all those people who may have physical deformities (cleft lip/blind..etc) they were born with or had an accidents and then I realize how lucky I am to be blessed healthy.
I hope you realize people all over Pakistan and India vary by skin color and desis are mostly always tan. We are desis, we are supposed to be brown! Sheesh.
Why are you getting on my case, as STA was the one (read last page) who said karachiites are darker than punjabis as some "fact".
