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I got all these names too when i was younger. It is so funny b/c my complexion actually lightened a bit as I was growing up and then all the attention of aunties was shifted towards me b/c somehow i met their standards of pretty-ness all of a sudden.
Dark complexion is so IN these days too though. Dark girls look so amazing in every shade of make up, every piece of clothing. They are so photogenic too.
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It wasn’t directed at you, just pointing out that as Pakistanis & Indians, we are supposed to be tan. Not white, unless you’re from Kalash and might be descendent of Alexander the Great. 
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People can be white or african like makranis or even some pathans from nwfp, but I think we have gone on a tangent. I do agree that those people whose idealized pakistani is some fate 6 ft gora chitta prince / princess are in for a big surprise in the real world, but what can one do about them?
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lol, teach them about South Asia and our ancestors. Some of the first settlers in the South Asian-Subcontinent descended from Africa.
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we joke my sister is the darkest one of us siblings but it's truly a joke bc she's also the best looking and we all know it. I've stumbled across a modeling job she did without telling us. I was very impressed that not only do we see her beautiful but a major company used her for their banking ad. I kinda threw that in the face of one of my dad's sisters that would sometimes tell me i need bleach cream and crap. This aunty always has something to tell me and let me tell yall her daughter may be fair but her husband is freaking dark short and ugly and her daughter could hit the gym but I just kinda keep these thoughts to myself and let aunty bother me about how i need to wear my sunscreen and crap. the funny thing is i'm the fairest one of my siblings. However my dad's family isn't close to my siblings so I think that because I'm closer to them they feel like the door is open for them to judge me and say stupid things like that to me. I think some paki ppl just don't have manners, decency and are freaking rude. they lecture every girl about something and even if we were all aishwarya rai's we'd still get picked on bc that's justhow some pakistani women were raised to talk to others. Have you ever noticed that more educated aunty's don't ever pull this crap on girls?
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This is the basic biggest problem: Parents or siblings make fun of you in a teasing way but no one realizes that this is in fact going to ruin your self confidence in the longer run. I for one am strictly against family mockings of any sort.
One of my brothers isn't that tall and height is a big thing when it gets to boy's attractiveness. He is Masha Allah extremely handsome and any one girl would drool for his looks but no one in my family dared to make fun of his height or anything. Once some one distant commented and I gave them quite a good reply! and my brother stands up for me if some one says a thing to me. Relatives & friends get a right to mock you when you yourself suffer from low confidence. People enjoy stepping all over you when they know you're weak. So make sure you reply well when some one says some thing of the sort.
Talking about myself, I have one canine tooth that is much above its actual position. It shows when i laugh and usually people stare at it when I laugh. I used to be conscious about it and asked the dentist to remove it but he said its an essential tooth and I will not let you remove it for cosmetic reasons. So i decided, to hell it with ill deal it in a different way. So when ever some one said some thing about my tooth I'd say *"Yeah I have a 33rd tooth :D ... I am special to God, you all have 32 teeth.tututu" *and never would any one comment on it again and would laugh off.
So deal with it in a stronger way.
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I am an NC40 & never did I think i was dark & never have I been told that I am dark. This thread is making me wonder ...
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Just for reference, this girl here is an NC40:
She isn’t “kaali” in any way possible!
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Kaaali Pakistani in da houseee 
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Her real face or the one after the layers of makeup? :devil:
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Being fair in Pakistani culture is a big thing, it sucks but its true. Thats probably why parents are commenting on their kids, because subconsciously because of our culture it has been ingrained in us that it is better to be fair. Perhaps parents worry about their children having a harder time just like ganxsta and inspiron and all you other ladies out there; they don't want them to have to go through those experiences so they hope that their children won't be dark and say things like that.
All thats doing though is perpetuating this ridiculous culture. The day the parents stop and accept their kids colour however it is without comparing it to some level of fairness, this mentality will start to change. So the change starts with you right now. Yes you are dark compared to say a white person which is what for some absurd reason Pakistani's aspire to be. But big deal, you are still beautiful, in fact you may be beautiful because of it. Like some others have said dark skin ages much better, I cannot tell you the amount of times people have complimented me for having skin that glows, and thats mostly due to it being darker. Fair skin doesn't glow as much. Not to mention at least in the western world my white friends go crazy over my skin colour, including guys. They find it exotic and appealing, I have a cousin several shades darker than me who is a model, again people find her absolutely stunning, and her being dark doesn't matter at all.
I don't know how dark I am really since I don't wear MAC makeup but I know I'm darker than my mum who is very fair and looks white. My in laws often comment how lovely it is that I'm fair, they're quite a bit darker I'm thinking like NC60 or something if it exists and my husband who's dark also says he hopes our kids will have my colour. I think the same way sometimes and then I stop myself and think who the hell gives a crap, being dark is so relative I mean compared to a Black person we're not dark at all. Our culture has made us believe that being fair is being good looking and we need to change that definition of beauty. So the next time someone calls you kaali think they're stupid or insane or whatever it takes to make you feel better, they're the ones who are crazy. You're not dark they're just fair! Remind them that you have no interest in looking like translucent paper and burning in the sun.
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lol, her real face. I think her foundation is a tad bit dark but probably to match her body which she tans. She is Mexican btw.
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This threads reminds me how most Bengali girls with slightly sharper features and wheatish complexion blush with gratitude and pride every time they get mistaken for Pakistanis...they take it as a compliment. lol
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^Why gratitude? 
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The bengali girls I know are proud to be bengali. I've never seen a bengali girl blush with pride and gratitude in the context you're talking about.
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One of my brothers isn't that tall and height is a big thing when it gets to boy's attractiveness. ....
you are right. being short adversely affects a mans desirability more than being dark or chubby does to a womans.
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OH MY GOD
Apart from the having a man and being engaged its as if I am reading my own story.
I have been called african, ugly, to dark to be pakistani all sorts of names at uni by pakistani boys.
My ex broke up with me because I was dark and ugly and his friends used to called me some name and accuse me of black magic because I was dark skinned.
I know how you feel. I am going to PM you.
Why did he get involved in the first place. fuming
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The bengali girls I know are proud to be bengali. I've never seen a bengali girl blush with pride and gratitude in the context you're talking about.
Exactly..
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Are people still obesessed with fair skin? That's so medieval. Everybody I know goes tanning, and majority of the guys I know like girls who work out, take care of themselves and are confident. And a tanned girl is a plus ;)
Seriously, what pind do you guys live in where you get called kaali and stuff as an insult? lol. Stupidest insult I've ever heard.
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The bengali girls I know are proud to be bengali. I've never seen a bengali girl blush with pride and gratitude in the context you're talking about.
The ones I know are also proud to be Bengali, but still for them, being called Pakistani is no less than a compliment. :)